I have wondered if she was hoping I would get frustrated and walk away, but I can't think of any reason why she would want that. Seems like it would be easier for her to just say “Hey, I'm not feeling it, I think I'm done”
I have a zero tolerance policy for people who refuse to even do basic self care. Has she taken a Covid home test? She is being selfish, stupid, and short-sighted in her stubbornness. All that would be a deal breaker for me.
It isn’t remotely normal to block your significant other on all social media after a fight. And if this is a common thing with you two, I would think about why you’re in this relationship.
Yeah. It sucks, right? But the BF is right in this case, so not much to say there.
Cry, be upset, and heal from the breakup. And watch how much you drink next time. Because when the next guy comes around, don't expect him to be merciful, either.
Honestly if the BG hadn't mentioned his money, I would have told OP to take some time to heal, and then get with the BF.
Were her motives self-serving? Obviously.
But why is that a bad thing? If she'd genuinely make a better, more loyal girlfriend and had been carrying a romantic torch for OP for a while, then i'd say she did exactly the right AND smart thing.
The only problem is her mentioning his wealth in her list of reasons why she did this. That's…weird. Maybe it's a cultural thing? We dont know OP's country or anything. But it makes me wonder if it was real romantic interest or monetary interest that motivated her.
If OP is wealthy, I say at least buy the girl a new car or something, lol
Because regardless of WHY she saved OP from a disaster marriage, the fact remains that she saved OP from a disaster marriage.
Honestly, as someone who lives in a “open”relationship situation, I find that for the vast majority of people, it isn't the right choice.
My partner and I have been together almost 9 years. In those 9 years, he had has had sex outside of our relationship 3 times, each time with my blessing. I have had about a half-dozen threesomes with him and another person, but haven't slept with anyone else. It is such a small, unimportant part of an amazing, mutually supportive and loving relationship.
I have seen so many couples try to save a dying relationship, or justify an emotional affair by opening up a relationship Sadly, I find that the majority of “swingers ” are in it for the wrong reason.
It should never be done as a remedy for something you or your partner aren't getting in your relationship. It should truly only be an option when all of your emotional and physical needs are being met – as an enhancement to your relationship, not a remedy for a broken relationship.
Whenever I am in a bad place – spiritually, mentally, or physically, the LAST thing my partner thinks of is having sex with someone else and vice-versa.
Too often people use an open relationship as an excuse to get something they aren't getting. It's a recipe for disaster. Just proceed carefully – that is my best advice. Also, if it doesn't feel right for you, it isn't- and that is 100% ok
When you're not together she's free to sleep with whoever she wants. That said she should ha e told you when you got back together.
I have wondered if she was hoping I would get frustrated and walk away, but I can't think of any reason why she would want that. Seems like it would be easier for her to just say “Hey, I'm not feeling it, I think I'm done”
I’m just mentally ill? Trying to figure it out. Hard with no good support to lean on for anything. Sometimes I feel like I’m going insane myself.
I have a zero tolerance policy for people who refuse to even do basic self care. Has she taken a Covid home test? She is being selfish, stupid, and short-sighted in her stubbornness. All that would be a deal breaker for me.
I feel there is either something missing or your family is horrible.
It isn’t remotely normal to block your significant other on all social media after a fight. And if this is a common thing with you two, I would think about why you’re in this relationship.
Yeah. It sucks, right? But the BF is right in this case, so not much to say there.
Cry, be upset, and heal from the breakup. And watch how much you drink next time. Because when the next guy comes around, don't expect him to be merciful, either.
Honestly if the BG hadn't mentioned his money, I would have told OP to take some time to heal, and then get with the BF.
Were her motives self-serving? Obviously.
But why is that a bad thing? If she'd genuinely make a better, more loyal girlfriend and had been carrying a romantic torch for OP for a while, then i'd say she did exactly the right AND smart thing.
The only problem is her mentioning his wealth in her list of reasons why she did this. That's…weird. Maybe it's a cultural thing? We dont know OP's country or anything. But it makes me wonder if it was real romantic interest or monetary interest that motivated her.
If OP is wealthy, I say at least buy the girl a new car or something, lol
Because regardless of WHY she saved OP from a disaster marriage, the fact remains that she saved OP from a disaster marriage.
Lol he’s not committed to you in any way. Why does he get to dictate where you can and can’t go? ?
Honestly, as someone who lives in a “open”relationship situation, I find that for the vast majority of people, it isn't the right choice.
My partner and I have been together almost 9 years. In those 9 years, he had has had sex outside of our relationship 3 times, each time with my blessing. I have had about a half-dozen threesomes with him and another person, but haven't slept with anyone else. It is such a small, unimportant part of an amazing, mutually supportive and loving relationship.
I have seen so many couples try to save a dying relationship, or justify an emotional affair by opening up a relationship Sadly, I find that the majority of “swingers ” are in it for the wrong reason.
It should never be done as a remedy for something you or your partner aren't getting in your relationship. It should truly only be an option when all of your emotional and physical needs are being met – as an enhancement to your relationship, not a remedy for a broken relationship.
Whenever I am in a bad place – spiritually, mentally, or physically, the LAST thing my partner thinks of is having sex with someone else and vice-versa.
Too often people use an open relationship as an excuse to get something they aren't getting. It's a recipe for disaster. Just proceed carefully – that is my best advice. Also, if it doesn't feel right for you, it isn't- and that is 100% ok