She's bringing it up. It's most likely extremely awkward when she does. People generally know not to ask if someone has kids. Someone might say “Yeah, I have to leave a little early today, my daughter has practice.” Then your wife straight up goes “Yeah, I wish I had children but my wife is actually trans so.. ya know…”. To which a normal person would move on as quickly as possible from that topic.
In no fucking way does mentioning your spouse's genitals come up naturally in work convetsation. Your wife wants people to know her politics or something. It's very odd.
While you are free to set boundaries over what you want with your kids, your boundaries are quite conservative and may not be shared with everyone.
In particular, your refusal to shower with your kids is concerning. As a father, I have taken hundreds of baths and showers with my daughter (and son, for that matter). Once they are too big for a baby tub it is the most efficient way to clean them without letting them drown, and my wife has other shit to do sometimes.
If you have never done it, I can tell you there isn’t anything sexual about showering or bathing with your kids. It can be frustrating – for example, at one point my daughter took a water dump in the bath which the bubbles hid until I put my hand in it – but if you can stop from murdering them most of the time then you will be fine. It can be good for bonding, it forces you to interact without electronics, and you can ensure your kids briefly have clean asses before the next “event”.
I'm pretty sure if your guy friend told you that he broke up with some chick because she had nipples the size of dinner plates or weird labia you would cringe too….
It's everyone's greatest fear to be judged sexually and found wanting. Broadcasting it reminds them all that people could be saying very intimate things about them, and its an uncomfortable feeling.
Its better this way. Your and gf weren't compatible so it's better to be with someone who is compatible with you and is ok with your lifestyle and life choices.
Unfortunately, this is the problem with relationships: you're gonna have difficult conversations. This is a tough one, and I feel for you, but it's obviously not something that can be ignored. As long as you're thoughtful and gentle in how you tell her and assure her that it's because you care, that's all you can really do. That's a hard thing for anyone to hear so don't be surprised if she doesn't take it well. Good luck, OP. I hope it works out for the best!
Actually my read was that Mark might be gay and was embarrass he got booted from his favorite brunch place. Just a theory, I don’t know many straight dudes in their 30s who are platonic friends with strippers, but I know several gay men who are.
Just out of curiosity: When was the last time you told your wife she has a great ass? That she's beautiful? Complimented her? Vocally lusted after her? When was the last time that you told her that you want her?
Does he tell you how to masturbate when he's not around?
No?
Good. Then stop telling him to not watch porn.
It doesn't seem to have an impact on you.
And btw, what people might search for, fantasise about or get arouses to are often not a match to what they want to do in real life. That's NORMAL and healthy.
And is upset and offended about the replies.
Coworkers aren't friends.
She's bringing it up. It's most likely extremely awkward when she does. People generally know not to ask if someone has kids. Someone might say “Yeah, I have to leave a little early today, my daughter has practice.” Then your wife straight up goes “Yeah, I wish I had children but my wife is actually trans so.. ya know…”. To which a normal person would move on as quickly as possible from that topic.
In no fucking way does mentioning your spouse's genitals come up naturally in work convetsation. Your wife wants people to know her politics or something. It's very odd.
Good luck.
While you are free to set boundaries over what you want with your kids, your boundaries are quite conservative and may not be shared with everyone.
In particular, your refusal to shower with your kids is concerning. As a father, I have taken hundreds of baths and showers with my daughter (and son, for that matter). Once they are too big for a baby tub it is the most efficient way to clean them without letting them drown, and my wife has other shit to do sometimes.
If you have never done it, I can tell you there isn’t anything sexual about showering or bathing with your kids. It can be frustrating – for example, at one point my daughter took a water dump in the bath which the bubbles hid until I put my hand in it – but if you can stop from murdering them most of the time then you will be fine. It can be good for bonding, it forces you to interact without electronics, and you can ensure your kids briefly have clean asses before the next “event”.
I'm pretty sure if your guy friend told you that he broke up with some chick because she had nipples the size of dinner plates or weird labia you would cringe too….
It's everyone's greatest fear to be judged sexually and found wanting. Broadcasting it reminds them all that people could be saying very intimate things about them, and its an uncomfortable feeling.
Its better this way. Your and gf weren't compatible so it's better to be with someone who is compatible with you and is ok with your lifestyle and life choices.
Unfortunately, this is the problem with relationships: you're gonna have difficult conversations. This is a tough one, and I feel for you, but it's obviously not something that can be ignored. As long as you're thoughtful and gentle in how you tell her and assure her that it's because you care, that's all you can really do. That's a hard thing for anyone to hear so don't be surprised if she doesn't take it well. Good luck, OP. I hope it works out for the best!
Actually my read was that Mark might be gay and was embarrass he got booted from his favorite brunch place. Just a theory, I don’t know many straight dudes in their 30s who are platonic friends with strippers, but I know several gay men who are.
Dude, he can’t have it both ways. She can’t be so drunk that he won’t let her go home alone to protect her and not drunk so she can consent.
You break up with him. You’ve know him for 4 months and it’s already unhealthy.
Just out of curiosity: When was the last time you told your wife she has a great ass? That she's beautiful? Complimented her? Vocally lusted after her? When was the last time that you told her that you want her?
Talk to him about it. Is it better than breaking up?
A lot of non trans women are infertile. People can adopt.
If you weren't there, how are you “repeating what the doctor said”? Hmmmmm
Does he tell you how to masturbate when he's not around?
No?
Good. Then stop telling him to not watch porn.
It doesn't seem to have an impact on you.
And btw, what people might search for, fantasise about or get arouses to are often not a match to what they want to do in real life. That's NORMAL and healthy.
Get a DNA test when the fetus is old enough, and use this decision tree:
Child not yours? Walk away and never look back.
Child yours? Talk to a lawyer about parental rights and child support.
The time frame is way too close.