13 year old boy find porn on his own or from his 13 year old friends.
No guidance.
No context.
Just, “this is what sex is I guess”.
I started having actual sex at 14. And messing around much sooner.
I get why the laws are in place. There are predators out there.
So fine, leave it to the parents to watch the porn with their kids and explain which parts of it are realistic and which aren’t. What women actually like and what only porn stars like.
But will they? Will you? Are you explaining to your son that “finishing” on a woman’s face isn’t what most women want? Or that anal isn’t an every day sexual occurrence? Or that ass slapping – while some women are ok with it – should be discussed before hand?
Before you do anything, talk to your brother. Ask what they’re talking about in regards to sex.
I’d ask him to stop and that it’s your job. But make sure you have a plan for doing that job. If you’re squeamish about it, get him a book about healthy sex practices.
I grew up in the 90’s. The first time I went down on a girl I was 14. It was awkward and embarrassing. I had no idea what I was doing. I would have loved some guidance to save me from that. (And many other mistakes I made).
But there was no internet then. There is now. But left to my own devices, would I have found the right things? I highly doubt it.
I don’t what the answer to all this is. In 2022 people still behave like it’s the 1800’s when it comes to teens and sex. You can’t even have a conversation about and I’ll probably get downvoted into oblivion. Then you hear older women complain that men don’t know what they’re doing in bed or worse, do terrible things because they saw it on TV or in porn or heard it from their friends.
Maybe your brother is being a creep or maybe he’s being a good uncle and filling in.
We were intimate a few days ago. Hmm, I really don't think he would forget having taken it and to me it never seemed that he needed pills. He even made jokes about how he does not want to need it until he gets 50. But yeah, you are right on the conclusions part. It's pretty tough for me to realize that I treated him unfairly, but I thank you for your honesty!
You knew the family was problematic when you were dating him and still married into the family. To the surprise of no one, the situation went from bad to worse. It got so bad that you sought out a therapist for the issue. Now you're on Reddit, stating that you are contemplating a divorce. So get a divorce if that's what you need for your mental health. We can't make his family treat you any better. We can't make your husband give the list back. We can't make your SIL respect you. What exactly are you looking for? Someone to talk you out of getting a divorce? Or encouragement for a divorce?
Any form of violence, especially over a stupid video game, is a giant flashing neon red “DANGER” sign. How's he gonna act when you guys have a real conflict???
I'd either dump this guy immediately, or at the very least let him know that he's on thin ice and that the next time will be the last time.
Not ime.
I've been together with my husband twenty years, married less than six months after we met. No break ups.
I get how this looks.
But what is the alternative?:
13 year old boy find porn on his own or from his 13 year old friends.
No guidance.
No context.
Just, “this is what sex is I guess”.
I started having actual sex at 14. And messing around much sooner.
I get why the laws are in place. There are predators out there.
So fine, leave it to the parents to watch the porn with their kids and explain which parts of it are realistic and which aren’t. What women actually like and what only porn stars like.
But will they? Will you? Are you explaining to your son that “finishing” on a woman’s face isn’t what most women want? Or that anal isn’t an every day sexual occurrence? Or that ass slapping – while some women are ok with it – should be discussed before hand?
Before you do anything, talk to your brother. Ask what they’re talking about in regards to sex.
I’d ask him to stop and that it’s your job. But make sure you have a plan for doing that job. If you’re squeamish about it, get him a book about healthy sex practices.
I grew up in the 90’s. The first time I went down on a girl I was 14. It was awkward and embarrassing. I had no idea what I was doing. I would have loved some guidance to save me from that. (And many other mistakes I made).
But there was no internet then. There is now. But left to my own devices, would I have found the right things? I highly doubt it.
I don’t what the answer to all this is. In 2022 people still behave like it’s the 1800’s when it comes to teens and sex. You can’t even have a conversation about and I’ll probably get downvoted into oblivion. Then you hear older women complain that men don’t know what they’re doing in bed or worse, do terrible things because they saw it on TV or in porn or heard it from their friends.
Maybe your brother is being a creep or maybe he’s being a good uncle and filling in.
We were intimate a few days ago. Hmm, I really don't think he would forget having taken it and to me it never seemed that he needed pills. He even made jokes about how he does not want to need it until he gets 50. But yeah, you are right on the conclusions part. It's pretty tough for me to realize that I treated him unfairly, but I thank you for your honesty!
I didn't serve him my lawyer did and she said it's better that I'm far away from him when she does that because being in the home might be a danger.
You knew the family was problematic when you were dating him and still married into the family. To the surprise of no one, the situation went from bad to worse. It got so bad that you sought out a therapist for the issue. Now you're on Reddit, stating that you are contemplating a divorce. So get a divorce if that's what you need for your mental health. We can't make his family treat you any better. We can't make your husband give the list back. We can't make your SIL respect you. What exactly are you looking for? Someone to talk you out of getting a divorce? Or encouragement for a divorce?
For me this would be big enough to end the relationship over.
I think he loves it when she calls him big poppa.
leave him and explain why.
Do you really need the internet to tell you lying is wrong ?
Any form of violence, especially over a stupid video game, is a giant flashing neon red “DANGER” sign. How's he gonna act when you guys have a real conflict???
I'd either dump this guy immediately, or at the very least let him know that he's on thin ice and that the next time will be the last time.