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Lol you made a very specific comment in its own paragraph. Sorry but this just reads like you’re back tracking now and trying to gaslight others for calling you out. Have a nice day.
Please explain to me the logic of how you losing your income for years and taking out a massive loan will solve how you live paycheque to paycheque.
A no is a no. If she is not comfortable with something i hope you resect her wishes too.
Gets angry over Little Things.
Does that include his Penis?
Inquiring minds would like to know……
No I feel that should be discussed with my GF prior for her to initiate and then we all discuss if she’s on board
Absolutely. During my hospital stay where I am essentially pushing a watermelon through a lemon, I expect to have the final say
I get that it is an example, and I am running with it.
Because the
There’s no definitive number. Just use your own judgement.
Goes against the initial point you made on this.
If you don’t care then that’s fine. No one is forcing you to.
Everyone answering is basically saying that it is required that he accepts her past regardless. That this is purely his insecurities taking hold. You are saying that no, it isn't if she has a large number in a short timeframe. The question becomes what is that number to timeframe.
You say it isn't a formula and yes I get that but obviously it does factor into your decision regardless. I find this an interesting topic is all. Because yes everyone is happy to jump right into the its all on OP and his insecurities train whenever this comes up. However you point out that there is values that come into play that makes it not his fault for feeling this way.
I merely find this interesting that you are honest on the topic is all. I have no issue leaving it here, if you don't want to engage more on this.
He’s not cheating. He’s either at home or at work and we share our location with each other for safety reasons so I can see where he is if I want.
You're an idiot. How have you managed to pick up that my son is 1 , but not managed to pick up that this issue started BEFORE she was pregnant.
You should just want him. All you're saying to him is that you think you can get with someone else better than him and if you do find better you will leave him behind. That sucks, either break up and find yourself or commit to him fully.
NEWSFLASH: A LOT OF WOMEN WOULD PREFER TO PICK OUT THEIR RING WITH THEIR PARTNER NOT BE SURPRISED WITH ONE!!!!!!!
Buy a placeholder ring – ring pop, silicon, claddagh if you insist on surprising her. Then go pick out one together after discussing budget etc.
I REPEAT: SURPRISE RINGS ARE NOT ROMANTIC AND CHOOSING A RING THAT IS TO WORN EVERYDAY WITHOUT THE DIRECT INPUT OF THE WEARER IS NOT A SMART IDEA.
Would you buy a house without her shopping with you?
Would you buy a car for her to drive with her shopping with you?
This is a major purchase – treat it the same way you plan to treat all major purchases in your lives together.
If she wants to break up in person, make her meet you at a public place , do not go out of your way to please her. I also wouldn't want any contact from her after the break up, because IMO she is only doing this to save face (so to say) and keep you lingering in the background as an option. I personally wouldn't need to see her so she could break up with me.
Your kids don't even want to see her, can you imagine if you invited her back in to wreck all of your lives some more?
If you're having difficulty prioritizing yourself, prioritize your kids. They're better off with her gone, too.
Thank you. 🙂
your relationship with your mother is unhealthy, and it's that way because she forced it on you when you were little and had no say in things. No way a little girl should have ever been forced to carry the burden of her adult mother's confidences, particularly “financial troubles to have issues with my dad/brothers.” Your mother should be looking to your father for help with your brother; they are the parents, he's their responsibility, not yours.
Despite all your mother has done to sabotage you into becoming her little dependent clone (“Her pride has always been that I have always been very mature for my age, being able to cook, clean, take care of my brother with ASD, being homeschooled, being active in my church, etc.”), you established your independence and made your own life. Good on you! So glad for you!
Do not let your mother reel you back into her control. that's what she is trying to do. She wants to persuade you to not move in with your BF in hopes that he will break up with you and she can nag you into attending church with her. Refuse to meet with her. she had her chance to discuss this with you earlier but chose to pitch a fit and order you out of the house instead.
Does your father know that your mother used you as a confidant when you were just a little girl, telling you stuff about their relationship, problems with your brothers and financial problems? Because that was a big betrayal of your father by your mother. It probably damaged your relationship with your father and your brothers and made you feel like you had a responsibility for the family that wasn't your responsibility at all, it was your parents. Now may be the time to explain to your father exactly what your mother did to you all those years, so he can intervene and tell your mother to back off and let you live your life. Your father's attitude towards your BF and moving in is much more accepting and realistic than your mother's.
BTW, moving in with your BF is not going to ruin your life. I did the same thing when I was young. We ended up getting married, had many good years, and then grew apart and divorced. but the experience of that big love, and living together, and marriage, made me a better person and I have no regrets. It's all part of living and loving and finding yourself and making your way in the world. Good luck to you!
I’m still thinking about it. I’ll be trying to explore other options before I decide to give her a chance. I’m frustrated about all this. I think the only way I can let out my frustration is to show her how it feels like with some other girl. If then my frustration is relieved, I can decide to take her back. do you agree? talking from a male perspective. that way we’ll be equal.
In private our relationship is great. Although he lacks emotion he does talk to me about things that I know he wouldn’t talk to anyone else about.
I also realize I have less friends then he does and he has brought that up…saying I should have make friends so I don’t rely on him so much for social interaction, and I do agree with this.
Lastly as much as I think he enjoys my company, I think he gets bored of me easily…he a tech guy and I’m a teacher, all his friends are tech people and that’s usually all they talk about and work…with some random interest in other things briefly but then it’s straight to tech again…
I simply cannot hold a conversation in that realm.
Lastly he has said he feels he understands males more then women….he has majority male friends…unless there also in tech that’s how it stays…
I will say he has meet a couple of other tech girls…when I say he can have a very thorough conversation with them, it’s very intense and make me jealous and sad I can’t do the same.
Makes me think he should find another tech girl…but I also know they wouldn’t deal with his lack of commitment like I do
You need to start speaking up for yourself, if you want the friend to leave you need to say so. No one is a mind reader. You would be better off setting a time for the evening to end before the friend comes over. Once 9/10pm rolls around it’s time to go. If your bf can’t deal with that you should consider moving out.
There is absolutely a difference in how men and women metabolise alcohol – body weight, presence of certain enzymes that digest alcohol, water/fat ratio of the body. Even without knowing that stuff you must have seen that almost all recommendations for the amount of advised alcohol is higher for men than women!
4-5 drinks over a 5 hour span if they left at the point the bar closed (with food potentially as it was a sushi bar and they met at 6) and then another 3 hours of not drinking whilst having sex before falling asleep…. Whilst I personally wouldn’t want to take a bet on whether I was safe to drive because in my opinion that’s not something you should ever come remotely close to gambling on and it probably would be close, it’s very unlikely he was drunk. A man of an average size, with an average tolerance for/experience of drinking would be incredibly unlikely to be drunk enough to black out at the point he went to sleep and suspected his phone was hacked. He absolutely would have been over the limit at 11 and did the sensible thing getting an uber but too drunk to drive (a very low bar you should never risk) and drunk enough to pass out three hours later are wildly different places.
Although as OPs update showed, she clearly did use face/fingerprint ID to access his phone but I’m certain I could do this to my wife just through her regular sleeping with no alcohol involved.
If he caused trauma and the breakups weren’t because you both wanted it or he did anything verbally abusive or worse, don’t go back.
You did the exact same thing. You presented a theory with the facts that you took from this story. Same as what I did.
That's how life works. You listen. You get an opinion. And you act in the way you think is right.
If every single person on this planet saw and thought exactly the same. It would be an extremely shitty boring place to life.
To attempt to “fix” a marriage, that has to be the goal of both parties. This may be your desire, but it's not his. I'm sorry, but it's too late.
Yes i wont i understand but how do i let her go smoothly do i need to end things right away or get distant over time if over time how long should it be and what would the excuses be and if right away again what would the excuse be and how should i let her go idk im just kinda lost
The saddest part is…this is the first time I’ve ever dated someone who has truly treated me well. I was in an abusive relationship for 10 years and after a lot of therapy and healing, I met him.
He’s been so supportive and I feel SAFE with someone for the first time in a very long time…
I’m very big on therapy, so I suggested that he meets with their daughter’s therapist for co-parenting therapy and the mom refuses to go bc she said she’s afraid he’ll tell me their business…which is a way to hide her wrongs from the therapist and also manipulate him into turning away from me.
It’s hard to let go of someone who is otherwise so perfect…it’s literally bc of his ex that I need to think about walking away. You’re absolutely right…I don’t see her stopping. No one stays with her bc she is honestly a covert narcissist.
Thanks for your advice…
You do not owe him sex. Period. Sex is about consent. He is 1000000% raping you. Marital rape is a thing. He is an abuser and you deserve better.
He's superficial AF. Does he expect you to have multiple plastic surgeries as well cuz he's not into older women? Please stop wasting your time on this clown. Let him have a relationship with a blow up doll, he can let the air out as needed.
If it was that big of an issue 7 years ago, she should have left 7 years ago when these incidents happened. She didn't. But she wants to keep dredging them up and holding them over his head as if he's doing something heinous now.
Why does this keep getting posted?
But he shouldn’t be thinking these things and treating people like this in the first place?
No idea. I'm Australian, so I have access to free medical through Medicare.
There are great podcasts and YouTube videos to start with while waiting for an appointment. Your body and mind is probably in a state like Pavlov's dog – you hear and/or think 'abandoned' and you panic straight away. You need to stop this conditioning, because your mind and body is overly reacting.
At this stage, your mind and body is in cahoots, so one starts and the other starts, then they just exacerbate things together. You need to relax both.
If you have to, think about it so you get worked up, then work through it while alone. You can focus on breathing, massage your feet/hands/neck or tap on your shoulders as you talk yourself through it. What's the worst that could happen and how likely is that? If the worst happens, then what steps do you need to take to move on? Are you being realistic with your thoughts? Etc.
You just keep rolling that dice and hoping for a 7, don't you?
Clearly we saw the post at a different time. The 1st 3 top comments when I saw the post were yelling at him for being a cheater. But when I posted my comment, it seems everybody was turning around because they actually had to acknowledge the fact that if it was a woman they wouldn't be staying what they did.
Back away from everyone first. Jesus.
What's even the point of this comment? You're condescending someone for speaking on what should happen by pointing out that it likely won't but what does that have to do with the commenter? They didn't say anything like all people who sexually harass get punished they simply said that it should happen so why are you condescending them?
It’s a platter of ding dongs, cream pies, and spotted dick
You're dating a child.
Don't propose to a child
men jumping on every opportunity to say it’s natural and normal to want 18 year olds when they are in their 40s and older is disgusting and i’m tired of pretending it isn’t just because it’s common.
Agreed, he should have known better what he was getting himself into.
*She. Both are women.
Such as when you started dating him did you guys talk about sexual boundaries between you two etc?
I already responded to a question regarding if he said that oral is off the table before or not and I also stated it in my post; he never did. He always had interesting takes about sex but he never told me yes we can do this or no we can’t do that. So the short answer; No established boundaries.
What made you give him oral?
It just happened casually while I was giving him a handjob. Does everything sexual has to have a motive behind it between a couple? Sometimes things drag to a certain point it always happens
is respecting his religious belief in this area something hard to do?
No, of course it’s not. I would never cross any boundaries he has had I known they existed. I respect whatever he believes but he should tell me about it first, how it is my problem if he has never communicated it before or addressed it during?
What you are saying is right. I have this issue and i do this only with my sister and it's not under my control.(i try hard and it has reduced overtime) The more i try to control crying the more i cry and it also stems from long emotional turmoil where I don't want to disappoint my sister.
What i do is that when i get into this state, i take some time off get my composure back and then speak to them. I also spoke to my therapist on this, they suggested to accept this option, step back from the situation and then come back to it. I am not sure if there is any medication that will help here or if the gf should even take it.
Well, it was rude of your friend to imply that your hair looked poor.
You NEVER NEVER apologise for having a livelihood, healthier lifestyle to anyone. You are being you. He is insecure about looking like less of a man. He sounds like he can baby trap you. Also note how quick he was to say that he doesn't want to split up. Of course he doesn't want to split u because he has a cushy lifestyle with you. You pay most of the bills and do most of the chores and sleep with him. Dude is living it up
Don’t let these people shit on you. ?
A tough questions: How much is in your children's 529 today?
I have a son in college. We pay $63,000 per year plus room and board. It will be more expensive when your two children are ready.
I agree with you that parents should pay for college. I think you may find it rather difficult to do because of the choices that you have made.
It's great that you went to college. You're not the only person who didn't have a college fund. What you did have was a child who you decided to have at the time that most people go off to college. That is fine but that was a big choice that you need to be responsible for.
It's interesting to me that your mother would expect you to pay for her care when she is older. How does she imagine you're going to be able to do that?
That certainly seems to be the case ;-/
If you feel like you can’t trust her and can’t learn to trust her again, then it’s probably best to leave.
Move on. Anyone worth keeping would have given you the job ultimatum before sleeping around.
Losing a deposit is cheaper than losing everything in a divorce!!
Excellent post and it opened my eyes as well.
Excellent post and it opened my eyes as well.