They’re the symptom, but your boyfriend is the disease. His friends are being abominable to you, true, but he is allowing them and continuing to associate with them despite that fact. Moreover, he is mistreating you to keep their approval.
Something doesn't add up here. Personally I'm not thinking that him going on a bachelor party trip and leaving you with the kids is the issue. It's not ideal, but realistically managing a small family alone for a few days isn't a huge ask in my opinion. My concern would be that the trip itself doesn't add up. Your partner is no longer in close touch with this man. He is not in the groom's wedding party, he's not even invited to the wedding. Just going on the trip would be strange in those circumstances, let alone being the one actually arranging it? There is something going on here that's being kept from you. I think in your position I'd be asking a lot more questions and if the answers still left things as vague as they are I'd be contemplating separation.
I'd wonder why they ever felt the need to keep it secret in the first place.
My girlfriend knows that if a mate of mine was sobbing on the sofa, she can cuddle him. Comforting someone is not sexual, and I'd be fine with that happening.
So you have one perspective on a situation, and you assume it’s a “baseless accusation”. There are a million different situations and scenarios that could give a partner reason to pause, or reason to look for certainty. In my past, my ex was insisting on not using condoms all the while she was sleeping with someone else. Before I found that second part out I didn’t doubt her loyalty, and thought we had a great relationship. Going forward I want reassurance before i raise a child.
Why is it that in this situation that only the woman’s perspective matters? where there are a hundred or more redditors saying to leave and get child support while acting innocent because one person wants to be sure before he commits his life to raising a child is okay but getting a simple test is the ultimate betrayal?
So, I met my husband in high school. No exaggeration, half the girls in school had a crush on him. So when he started dating the weird nerd, it was understandably a shock to a majority of the female population at school. One particularly bitchy cheerleader came up to him shortly after we got together and said, “Hey, are you dating GreenOnionCrusader?” He said yes and she told him he could do so much better. He scoffed and said, “what, like you? No thanks.” THATS how you respond to people who say your SO isn't in your league. You turn it around on them because they're being shallow, petty bitches. Don't take her back, she is too wrapped up in the opinions of others and you're worth way more than that.
Also, if you're reading this Amanda, get fucked. Lol
You guys are dumb af how would this not just cause my family drama and ignoring the under lying problem which is this dudes wife establishing rules with her fam
In a monogamous relationship it’s totally off limits, unless discussed. You define what you deem to be cheating and this shouldn’t have happened
Why do you think she likes you?
They’re the symptom, but your boyfriend is the disease. His friends are being abominable to you, true, but he is allowing them and continuing to associate with them despite that fact. Moreover, he is mistreating you to keep their approval.
Dump the lot of them.
Something doesn't add up here. Personally I'm not thinking that him going on a bachelor party trip and leaving you with the kids is the issue. It's not ideal, but realistically managing a small family alone for a few days isn't a huge ask in my opinion. My concern would be that the trip itself doesn't add up. Your partner is no longer in close touch with this man. He is not in the groom's wedding party, he's not even invited to the wedding. Just going on the trip would be strange in those circumstances, let alone being the one actually arranging it? There is something going on here that's being kept from you. I think in your position I'd be asking a lot more questions and if the answers still left things as vague as they are I'd be contemplating separation.
It sounds like leaving your husband was absolutely the right thing to do. Pretty much everything else is entirely wrong. You sound extremely selfish.
I'd wonder why they ever felt the need to keep it secret in the first place.
My girlfriend knows that if a mate of mine was sobbing on the sofa, she can cuddle him. Comforting someone is not sexual, and I'd be fine with that happening.
So you have one perspective on a situation, and you assume it’s a “baseless accusation”. There are a million different situations and scenarios that could give a partner reason to pause, or reason to look for certainty. In my past, my ex was insisting on not using condoms all the while she was sleeping with someone else. Before I found that second part out I didn’t doubt her loyalty, and thought we had a great relationship. Going forward I want reassurance before i raise a child.
Why is it that in this situation that only the woman’s perspective matters? where there are a hundred or more redditors saying to leave and get child support while acting innocent because one person wants to be sure before he commits his life to raising a child is okay but getting a simple test is the ultimate betrayal?
So, I met my husband in high school. No exaggeration, half the girls in school had a crush on him. So when he started dating the weird nerd, it was understandably a shock to a majority of the female population at school. One particularly bitchy cheerleader came up to him shortly after we got together and said, “Hey, are you dating GreenOnionCrusader?” He said yes and she told him he could do so much better. He scoffed and said, “what, like you? No thanks.” THATS how you respond to people who say your SO isn't in your league. You turn it around on them because they're being shallow, petty bitches. Don't take her back, she is too wrapped up in the opinions of others and you're worth way more than that.
Also, if you're reading this Amanda, get fucked. Lol
You guys are dumb af how would this not just cause my family drama and ignoring the under lying problem which is this dudes wife establishing rules with her fam
or she thought the guy wanted a relationship and he pumped and dumped.
Yeah don't get involved into any more drama and messes in your life.