Unfortunately gossip will ALWAYS develop, it's human nature it seems, it's up to you if you want to keep going to lunch with your co-worker but you can be sure that if gossip isn't going on now it most definitely will at some point.
Different people have different views and boundary’s with brother sisters/parents. Maybe you should try and sit down with him and calmly discuss with him and try to explain to him that in your view that you felt you did nothing wrong. But that you do understand the different families have different views of such things. Maybe apologize to him that you didn’t take into account of how he may feel about this and how others boundary’s are different. And just assure him that it will never happen again.
He has to do it himself. You can’t just convince him. I broke up with my Indian husband when we first started dating because he was exactly like this. He went to therapy by himself and realised how toxic their relationship was. He stopped but I didn’t beg him
The thing is, now you've gone and set a precedent, and the precedent is that you're weak, you won't back up your words with actions.
He's gonna cheat on you again. He might be doing it right now. He's decided you know, it's okay, men have needs, blah blah blah. He'll tuck away the cognitive dissonance so he can get his dick wet.
And you can never, ever trust him. He lied into your eyes, he held that lie until he felt he'd broken your ability to resist. You can never know when he's lying now, he's already proved he can trick you and you won't know.
So. You can be Hilary Clinton and just be the long-suffering wife of a cheater, or you can be the person you told yourself you are and stand up for your own morality. Entirely on you, now.
Who do you feel betrayed by? Your husband didn’t do anything, and John might be an asshole but doesn’t have an obligation to you.
And who lied to you? If someone offered you weed and you decline, do you owe it to your husband to tell him you had an opportunity to smoke that you passed on? It’s a total non-issue.
You're resorting to insults because you were ignorant?
Truly. Fight fire with fire. Unwashed balls and vagina are a match made in hell.
Unfortunately gossip will ALWAYS develop, it's human nature it seems, it's up to you if you want to keep going to lunch with your co-worker but you can be sure that if gossip isn't going on now it most definitely will at some point.
Different people have different views and boundary’s with brother sisters/parents. Maybe you should try and sit down with him and calmly discuss with him and try to explain to him that in your view that you felt you did nothing wrong. But that you do understand the different families have different views of such things. Maybe apologize to him that you didn’t take into account of how he may feel about this and how others boundary’s are different. And just assure him that it will never happen again.
He has to do it himself. You can’t just convince him. I broke up with my Indian husband when we first started dating because he was exactly like this. He went to therapy by himself and realised how toxic their relationship was. He stopped but I didn’t beg him
The thing is, now you've gone and set a precedent, and the precedent is that you're weak, you won't back up your words with actions.
He's gonna cheat on you again. He might be doing it right now. He's decided you know, it's okay, men have needs, blah blah blah. He'll tuck away the cognitive dissonance so he can get his dick wet.
And you can never, ever trust him. He lied into your eyes, he held that lie until he felt he'd broken your ability to resist. You can never know when he's lying now, he's already proved he can trick you and you won't know.
So. You can be Hilary Clinton and just be the long-suffering wife of a cheater, or you can be the person you told yourself you are and stand up for your own morality. Entirely on you, now.
28yo breasts here. I think they’re confused on how to grow. Need direction. Send help.
Who do you feel betrayed by? Your husband didn’t do anything, and John might be an asshole but doesn’t have an obligation to you.
And who lied to you? If someone offered you weed and you decline, do you owe it to your husband to tell him you had an opportunity to smoke that you passed on? It’s a total non-issue.