While it could have been over drinking (entirely possible) I don’t think you should discount the idea that you were drugged. I don’t know if there’s a way to get tested for it, but you might want to look into that.
Outside of the truth on what happened in the OP. What’s important is, congrats on beating the big C and congrats on your two beautiful children! Wish you nothing but continued remission and healthy life.
Did he meet someone on his new work team? It sounds like that was about the time his attitude started changing. Whatever it is, something clearly happened to upset his apple cart. Not that it matters, really. Sorry you're going through this, OP. It's small comfort to you now, but time will heal you, and you'll find someone else that makes your heart sing.
There is a difference between these two circumstances:
1) From the standpoint prior to entering into any commitment… neither of us yet owe fidelity to the other. Consequently, we may continue to see other people as each of us chooses.
2) From the standpoint after agreeing to enter into a committed relationship… despite that we are in a position to lay claim to each other's fidelity, nevertheless we agree to provisionally release each other from those obligations under agreed to terms and circumstances.
In both cases, OP gets to fuck his new acquaintance, Sarah. In the first circumstance, his girlfriend has no say because she is not yet OP's girlfriend. However, in the second circumstance, OP gets to fuck Sarah with his girlfriend's knowledge and approval
Thats the difference.
According to OP's timeline:
1) For the first month, they were not yet exclusive.
2) Then they agreed to enter into an open relationship, which they remained in for a number of months.
3) Two months ago, at his girlfriend's suggestion, they mutually agreed to close the relationship.
4) Recently, OP's girlfriend broached a conversation with OP about modifying their monogamous agreement to permit swinging.
I like a lil bit of stank.
A hot day of work is not 'little' though.
While it could have been over drinking (entirely possible) I don’t think you should discount the idea that you were drugged. I don’t know if there’s a way to get tested for it, but you might want to look into that.
Oh lord run girl
Outside of the truth on what happened in the OP. What’s important is, congrats on beating the big C and congrats on your two beautiful children! Wish you nothing but continued remission and healthy life.
Wtf
The fact it took you YEARS to meet his friends because of social anxiety is ridiculous
Cheating will not only break your marriage it will break you as a person and will impact your future relationship.
Did he meet someone on his new work team? It sounds like that was about the time his attitude started changing. Whatever it is, something clearly happened to upset his apple cart. Not that it matters, really. Sorry you're going through this, OP. It's small comfort to you now, but time will heal you, and you'll find someone else that makes your heart sing.
There is a difference between these two circumstances:
1) From the standpoint prior to entering into any commitment… neither of us yet owe fidelity to the other. Consequently, we may continue to see other people as each of us chooses.
2) From the standpoint after agreeing to enter into a committed relationship… despite that we are in a position to lay claim to each other's fidelity, nevertheless we agree to provisionally release each other from those obligations under agreed to terms and circumstances.
In both cases, OP gets to fuck his new acquaintance, Sarah. In the first circumstance, his girlfriend has no say because she is not yet OP's girlfriend. However, in the second circumstance, OP gets to fuck Sarah with his girlfriend's knowledge and approval
Thats the difference.
According to OP's timeline:
1) For the first month, they were not yet exclusive.
2) Then they agreed to enter into an open relationship, which they remained in for a number of months.
3) Two months ago, at his girlfriend's suggestion, they mutually agreed to close the relationship.
4) Recently, OP's girlfriend broached a conversation with OP about modifying their monogamous agreement to permit swinging.
Okay but anal sex isn't vaginal sex. Lol.
You should probably break up, tbh.