You said she did better in college. Yet you say she resents you because you're hotter than her and she lived in your shadow… If that were the case, she'd be stuck in the shadow of all the college 18-24 year olds. You REALLY think a 42 year old women has anything on that age bracket of women in terms of what a man finds attractive? Delusional.
This is fake. You can't use a fake credit card. Your CID has to be what's on the card, the expiration date, and pretty sure billing address. If any are wrong, the charges will be declined. I entered my CID one number off and it was declined.
Don't mean to question this post credibility given the terrible circumstances but in your previous post, you claimed to be 21. In another you have a BF not a husband…
You need to tell her immediately. Your news will tell her that getting married to you means she will immediately be a stepmother, and she will also need to deal with the fact that a chunk of your income is going to go to child support each month. Don’t be surprised if your wedding is delayed or cancelled altogether. This is going to take some working out, and it won’t be fixed in a week.
That's not the job causing anxiety, that's her. She needs to find a way to manage that, and just working less isn't a solution. She could find tools for herself to do that, and/or try therapy to help her. If it's truly the job, then she should find another job that is less stressful for her, not just cut back or stop working.
But, everyone is addressing this point from the angle, so I'm going to head in another direction for you. Can you set a timeframe with her, like 6mos or a year, and revisit this then? In the meantime you have a bit of time to slide into that new job situation, for her to maybe work on herself, and to see where things stand then so you can reassess. There's a point where what she wants may be the path to take, as your partner experiencing anxiety isn't a good formula for a happy life. There's another point where someone needs to recognize that they need to address their anxiety in order to be happier instead of just dipping out.
Bro the actual nerve of people having the “this is my last night as a free man/woman” mindset during their bachelor/bachelorette party blows my mind. I am SO, so sorry. This must be so incredibly painful for you. You deserve better. I got married when my husband was 25 and I was 24 (last year). Now that I’m 25 and I’ve been married for a year I’ll tell you: we worked through a LOT. As much as I love my husband and my marriage the first year was incredibly difficult, and I chalk that up to our ages. Consider this, at some point when you have moved past the hurt, somewhat of a blessing: it’s a very young age to get married at, and her behavior shows that she was not mature enough to get married yet. It also shows her character. You don’t want to waste the other half of your twenties with someone like that. The older you get, the better options you will have. You’ll find someone who is a mature adult who is going to be about YOU.
your answers are psychotic. why would she pull the boyfriend card? it’s not like he asked her on a date. he has a girlfriend too, so don’t you think it would make her look stupid to assume that asking for her snap is hitting on her? she’s taking the extra step not to add him, then to explain why in a way that doesn’t make her look presumptuous. also, admitting that her bf (you) is insecure as fuck could also be embarrassing for her. in my opinion she should leave you for someone more emotionally mature.
Who cares what he wanted to tell you if you’ve removed yourself from the equation? Who cares what he wants if you KNOW this isn’t how you want to be treated? Delete him and move on.
Honestly this boils down to jealousy. “How dare you have emotional connections outside of me”
I do get jealous, but I also know how whack that is of me. So I stew for a little and then they reassure me that they're with me now and that I don't have to feel like I'm just another fling.
My partner is awesome about it. But I also make serious acknowledgement that it's unreasonable of me to get upset. I do, It's not a comfortable thought, but I work hard to keep myself in check.
Reassurances go a long way, but this sort of thing is a consequence of not having enough life experience by the sounds of it
You said she did better in college. Yet you say she resents you because you're hotter than her and she lived in your shadow… If that were the case, she'd be stuck in the shadow of all the college 18-24 year olds. You REALLY think a 42 year old women has anything on that age bracket of women in terms of what a man finds attractive? Delusional.
where are u from?
This is fake. You can't use a fake credit card. Your CID has to be what's on the card, the expiration date, and pretty sure billing address. If any are wrong, the charges will be declined. I entered my CID one number off and it was declined.
This has got to be rage bait. No one sucks this much.
Don't mean to question this post credibility given the terrible circumstances but in your previous post, you claimed to be 21. In another you have a BF not a husband…
You need to tell her immediately. Your news will tell her that getting married to you means she will immediately be a stepmother, and she will also need to deal with the fact that a chunk of your income is going to go to child support each month. Don’t be surprised if your wedding is delayed or cancelled altogether. This is going to take some working out, and it won’t be fixed in a week.
And I want to add. Please be cautious about putting her on a pedestal. That also can make disclosure hard.
That's not the job causing anxiety, that's her. She needs to find a way to manage that, and just working less isn't a solution. She could find tools for herself to do that, and/or try therapy to help her. If it's truly the job, then she should find another job that is less stressful for her, not just cut back or stop working.
But, everyone is addressing this point from the angle, so I'm going to head in another direction for you. Can you set a timeframe with her, like 6mos or a year, and revisit this then? In the meantime you have a bit of time to slide into that new job situation, for her to maybe work on herself, and to see where things stand then so you can reassess. There's a point where what she wants may be the path to take, as your partner experiencing anxiety isn't a good formula for a happy life. There's another point where someone needs to recognize that they need to address their anxiety in order to be happier instead of just dipping out.
Sounds like she has a drinking problem as well.
She’s doing it because you’re allowing it. What’s her motivation to stop?
No, she was cleared with what she meant and you respect her wishes. That's what women want.
Yeah that is the answer to all of her questions. He does not and will not see her as a potential spouse.
Bro the actual nerve of people having the “this is my last night as a free man/woman” mindset during their bachelor/bachelorette party blows my mind. I am SO, so sorry. This must be so incredibly painful for you. You deserve better. I got married when my husband was 25 and I was 24 (last year). Now that I’m 25 and I’ve been married for a year I’ll tell you: we worked through a LOT. As much as I love my husband and my marriage the first year was incredibly difficult, and I chalk that up to our ages. Consider this, at some point when you have moved past the hurt, somewhat of a blessing: it’s a very young age to get married at, and her behavior shows that she was not mature enough to get married yet. It also shows her character. You don’t want to waste the other half of your twenties with someone like that. The older you get, the better options you will have. You’ll find someone who is a mature adult who is going to be about YOU.
I wish you the best.
Order her a pizza. Don't just offer, do it. In fact, order it for everyone if you can afford to.
your answers are psychotic. why would she pull the boyfriend card? it’s not like he asked her on a date. he has a girlfriend too, so don’t you think it would make her look stupid to assume that asking for her snap is hitting on her? she’s taking the extra step not to add him, then to explain why in a way that doesn’t make her look presumptuous. also, admitting that her bf (you) is insecure as fuck could also be embarrassing for her. in my opinion she should leave you for someone more emotionally mature.
Who cares what he wanted to tell you if you’ve removed yourself from the equation? Who cares what he wants if you KNOW this isn’t how you want to be treated? Delete him and move on.
I'm on the opposite side of this.
Honestly this boils down to jealousy. “How dare you have emotional connections outside of me”
I do get jealous, but I also know how whack that is of me. So I stew for a little and then they reassure me that they're with me now and that I don't have to feel like I'm just another fling.
My partner is awesome about it. But I also make serious acknowledgement that it's unreasonable of me to get upset. I do, It's not a comfortable thought, but I work hard to keep myself in check.
Reassurances go a long way, but this sort of thing is a consequence of not having enough life experience by the sounds of it
Then have fun!
He's just cheap. Some people are. Go find someone generous.