That's why I'm hesitant. I know it's her manipulating him, and I know standing up to her would cause him to lose his brother and father who are also stuck. They all act completely different when she is not around, but when she is they're like zombies. I also blame his father because I don't understand why he would just grill 4 steaks, knowing I'm coming, or cut everything up so there is enough for everyone. Does he not like me too? I thought we got along, but why didn't he also exclude me?
Being that she's been the woman closest to him for the last five years there's an extremely low chance he isn't MAINLY talking about her when he says “women”.
Big repairs are generally infrequent anyway unless he’s in the world shittiest house where the roof collapses every other month.
Totally disagree. Some things are completely out of your own control that even upkeep can't mitigate.
Take for instance the massive flooding that happened in my hometown just last year. It was a record for the state. Homes completely underwater. You cannot reasonably prepare for these events or the damage they cause.
Homes are a risk.
On the flip side, what if she pays him rent for a year and they break up?
Personally if it were me, I wouldn't ask her to pay for taxes, home or flood insurance, city/county fees, and keep it to half the utilities and a small rent fee, something like $350/400. I personally wouldn't ask her to pay for a new roof when realistically, roofs are friggin expensive and she has no legal binding to the home, or none of the risk that the boyfriend here does.
But if she were to break up, then she'd only be out the monthly rent and half the utilities which is how renting functions in America, and even then, she had a home so it wasn't wasted money. She used the electric and water, etc. So what does she really lose?
That's why I'm hesitant. I know it's her manipulating him, and I know standing up to her would cause him to lose his brother and father who are also stuck. They all act completely different when she is not around, but when she is they're like zombies. I also blame his father because I don't understand why he would just grill 4 steaks, knowing I'm coming, or cut everything up so there is enough for everyone. Does he not like me too? I thought we got along, but why didn't he also exclude me?
Being that she's been the woman closest to him for the last five years there's an extremely low chance he isn't MAINLY talking about her when he says “women”.
I mean, your husband is fkn gross.
Does he leave the shit around his arsehole to dry and turn into dust, with toilet paper being the last resort?
If he’s blocking the toilets at home, is he doing the same at work? Does he tell them to not unclog it?
Fabric softener can help clear it too. but, if you did that, your husband will think his method worked.
He should have to shit outside like a Neanderthal. Goddamn animal. Every aspect of this post made me dislike him.
Damn. OK. I'll try having a hard but deep convo with her. I need to get over my past abuse.
Big repairs are generally infrequent anyway unless he’s in the world shittiest house where the roof collapses every other month.
Totally disagree. Some things are completely out of your own control that even upkeep can't mitigate.
Take for instance the massive flooding that happened in my hometown just last year. It was a record for the state. Homes completely underwater. You cannot reasonably prepare for these events or the damage they cause.
Homes are a risk.
On the flip side, what if she pays him rent for a year and they break up?
Personally if it were me, I wouldn't ask her to pay for taxes, home or flood insurance, city/county fees, and keep it to half the utilities and a small rent fee, something like $350/400. I personally wouldn't ask her to pay for a new roof when realistically, roofs are friggin expensive and she has no legal binding to the home, or none of the risk that the boyfriend here does.
But if she were to break up, then she'd only be out the monthly rent and half the utilities which is how renting functions in America, and even then, she had a home so it wasn't wasted money. She used the electric and water, etc. So what does she really lose?
She already offered to cover all home maintenance! Lol