For what it’s worth, I dated a 30 year old man when I was 24. The age difference didn’t end the relationship – our difference in experience did. Having said that, he lived through a LOT of trauma and now that I’m 38, I still haven’t been through a fraction of what he has.
I’d respect your mom’s concern but ultimately you’re an adult and if you want to see him, do it. Just don’t expect it to last forever.
I got her a bedside sleeper… She still says its too far and that our baby needs skin on skin contact through the night. Trust me ive tried everything its like biting on granite.
Unless it is brought up in the first couple months, most monogamous relationships in western countries are assumed to be heading towards marriage for one or both parties. Just because you decided to string someone along because you didn't feel like marriage isn't an important part of a relationship, does not exempt you from societal norms. By not addressing marriage early on, you allowed her to believe that you were of the same mindset of a majority of people.
Since that is not the case, you led her on. Whether it was malicious or just stupidity on your part does not matter. The damage is done. She cannot get that time back from you. Time that she spent with you in good faith that this would be a lifetime partnership, which for many women means marriage and a wedding. You don't have to be a mean, vindictive person to make a decision that negatively impacts someone else. If you truly care for this woman, I'd go ring shopping soon and start planning a wedding. If not, leave. Simple as
You sound like a real pain in the ass
Your ex should remain an ex.
You are 28.
What’s the alternative plan? Stay single forever?
For what it’s worth, I dated a 30 year old man when I was 24. The age difference didn’t end the relationship – our difference in experience did. Having said that, he lived through a LOT of trauma and now that I’m 38, I still haven’t been through a fraction of what he has.
I’d respect your mom’s concern but ultimately you’re an adult and if you want to see him, do it. Just don’t expect it to last forever.
I got her a bedside sleeper… She still says its too far and that our baby needs skin on skin contact through the night. Trust me ive tried everything its like biting on granite.
Unless it is brought up in the first couple months, most monogamous relationships in western countries are assumed to be heading towards marriage for one or both parties. Just because you decided to string someone along because you didn't feel like marriage isn't an important part of a relationship, does not exempt you from societal norms. By not addressing marriage early on, you allowed her to believe that you were of the same mindset of a majority of people.
Since that is not the case, you led her on. Whether it was malicious or just stupidity on your part does not matter. The damage is done. She cannot get that time back from you. Time that she spent with you in good faith that this would be a lifetime partnership, which for many women means marriage and a wedding. You don't have to be a mean, vindictive person to make a decision that negatively impacts someone else. If you truly care for this woman, I'd go ring shopping soon and start planning a wedding. If not, leave. Simple as
Video chat. Never meet anyone off the internet who won't show you their face on video.
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