I’m sorry this has happened to you. Please don’t listen to those chiding you for the birth control stuff; I don’t know of any healthy long-term relationships where you have to be suspicious of your partner when they tell you they are taking precautions. It also sounds like she made the unilateral decision to keep the baby, which, if you were on the same page, wouldn’t have happened. It does sound like she intentionally misled you.
It is also fair to want your partner to take care of themselves, which includes a balanced diet. It sounds like she has stopped taking care of herself and, by extension, the relationship.
If you want to salvage this and still love her, please go to therapy to discuss your feelings about her lying to you in a major way, as well as her not putting in any effort. Otherwise, you are not obligated to stay with her, and while you’re a father first and foremost now, you can still have a long, fruitful life with someone else.
Part of being an adult and being in an adult relationship is understanding and respecting the fact that your partner has had sex and relationships before you, and sometimes they are still friends with the people they had sex with.
Honestly if he won't even speak to you on the phone it's unlikely he will ever feel comfortable enough to meet you. If he is comfortable enough to call his friends he should call you. The fact he did it at the start but won't now, 'not being comfortable speaking English ' doesn't really make sense.
Its taking its toll on you, so you really need to look deep and decide if you can mentally handle this if it doesn't change anytime soon.
… “and we all walked outside together as a family, and just as a shooting star soared through the glistening night sky, a cute little snowflake landed on my fiancee's nose.
There were children playing in the street, and everyone decided to sing 'dancing in the moonlight' while we all held hands. It was wonderful and perfect”..
After three years she’s pulling teeth to get him to see her once a week (and at her initiation), and she’s not a part of his life at all. She needs to not invest any more time in this “relationship” and move on. Knowing might give her closure, but it won’t change the outcome.
For me, “making out” isn't a deal breaker on a 7 year relationship, but the fact that she seems unwilling to accept any responsibility is to put it mildly, fucking crazy.
She put herself in that position, and she made the choice to go see him after going to see a wedding venue with her actual fiancee.
I’ve been through this before, we already had to reschedule everything when I found out I was pregnant. I can’t let people go through with this again. As I’ve said, I’m hopeful that we’ll be all good by then and there won’t even be a need to postpone our wedding.
I’m sorry this has happened to you. Please don’t listen to those chiding you for the birth control stuff; I don’t know of any healthy long-term relationships where you have to be suspicious of your partner when they tell you they are taking precautions. It also sounds like she made the unilateral decision to keep the baby, which, if you were on the same page, wouldn’t have happened. It does sound like she intentionally misled you.
It is also fair to want your partner to take care of themselves, which includes a balanced diet. It sounds like she has stopped taking care of herself and, by extension, the relationship.
If you want to salvage this and still love her, please go to therapy to discuss your feelings about her lying to you in a major way, as well as her not putting in any effort. Otherwise, you are not obligated to stay with her, and while you’re a father first and foremost now, you can still have a long, fruitful life with someone else.
Part of being an adult and being in an adult relationship is understanding and respecting the fact that your partner has had sex and relationships before you, and sometimes they are still friends with the people they had sex with.
Either you trust him or you don’t.
Honestly if he won't even speak to you on the phone it's unlikely he will ever feel comfortable enough to meet you. If he is comfortable enough to call his friends he should call you. The fact he did it at the start but won't now, 'not being comfortable speaking English ' doesn't really make sense.
Its taking its toll on you, so you really need to look deep and decide if you can mentally handle this if it doesn't change anytime soon.
Too much fucking drama…get rid of her and find a girl that is into you because this girl is nuts
… “and we all walked outside together as a family, and just as a shooting star soared through the glistening night sky, a cute little snowflake landed on my fiancee's nose.
There were children playing in the street, and everyone decided to sing 'dancing in the moonlight' while we all held hands. It was wonderful and perfect”..
After three years she’s pulling teeth to get him to see her once a week (and at her initiation), and she’s not a part of his life at all. She needs to not invest any more time in this “relationship” and move on. Knowing might give her closure, but it won’t change the outcome.
You're friends, but if you want to be more then ask her out? If you don't then do nothing? Nothing complicated here
For me, “making out” isn't a deal breaker on a 7 year relationship, but the fact that she seems unwilling to accept any responsibility is to put it mildly, fucking crazy.
She put herself in that position, and she made the choice to go see him after going to see a wedding venue with her actual fiancee.
Have you had any interaction with the ap?
I’ve been through this before, we already had to reschedule everything when I found out I was pregnant. I can’t let people go through with this again. As I’ve said, I’m hopeful that we’ll be all good by then and there won’t even be a need to postpone our wedding.
Dude if you're gonna post fake shit at least make it believable.