I would say there's definitely some lacking information here. So first off has there ever been a physical aspect of the relationship with your gbf? Do you frequently/or ever spend 1 on 1 time in person and alone with your gbf? Have you asked other friends how they perceive your interactions with gbf?
Basically while it could be insecurities or bad past relationships tainting the 4, it could also be you and how you are acting. Since you can't control the bf history I'd say focus on what you can control.
i've been wrestling with whether or not we're actually happy together, and whether we should seek therapy and figure out ways to compromise for each other, or whether it's the right thing to cut things off here and find someone who's more similar.
Op I hope you see this but I saw your comment about your FIL speaking more to your husband about divorce and protecting his assets. DO NOT GIVE HIM ACCESS!! He is planning for a divorce and may be looking for a way to take you for all you got. Please be wary of this leech.
Then that's your answer. You wouldn't consider it in a committed relationship, no matter who it was.
If she's not forcing it or planning to act on it without you, then I guess it's hard to understand why you're holding it against her this much.
Stop dating bad men.
He made the situation MORE dangerous because of his fear.
You end the relationship is how you proceed.
I would say there's definitely some lacking information here. So first off has there ever been a physical aspect of the relationship with your gbf? Do you frequently/or ever spend 1 on 1 time in person and alone with your gbf? Have you asked other friends how they perceive your interactions with gbf?
Basically while it could be insecurities or bad past relationships tainting the 4, it could also be you and how you are acting. Since you can't control the bf history I'd say focus on what you can control.
i've been wrestling with whether or not we're actually happy together, and whether we should seek therapy and figure out ways to compromise for each other, or whether it's the right thing to cut things off here and find someone who's more similar.
You realize that will change if you become official and he moves in and becomes a full time mooch at your apartment right?
Op I hope you see this but I saw your comment about your FIL speaking more to your husband about divorce and protecting his assets. DO NOT GIVE HIM ACCESS!! He is planning for a divorce and may be looking for a way to take you for all you got. Please be wary of this leech.