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Time for a frank conversation. You need to tell him that you're worried about the distance. Don't accept any suggestion that you're imagining it. Directly ask him how he's feeling and what has changed.
I think you're right about something being up, as it's a big change in behaviour.
Yes. Gross. Please put the bar higher.
Please stop listening to your friends, they’re giving you shitty advice. Nothing about his behavior is a red flag.
Relax. Breathe. He’s not proposing, he’s just focusing on seeing where y’all go.
Effectively you are asking for swimming instructions
because you have discerned that you are drowning.
What possible productive outcome do you imagine for your circumstances.
I think it’s good you established before hand. Go on the date (tell the server upfront you want separate checks) and talk about stuff. Could be you have different ideas about this kind of thing and that’s fine, you don’t have to go out again if you’re not compatible. Doesn’t hurt to see what’s up.
Yeah that would be another flag!
How are you meant to live if he is always there!
i suppose we just clicked because of how similarly we both grew up in the sense that we experienced similar trauma growing up which was rare for the both of us, i guess?
but other than that, yeah we don't share much but he always said he appreciated that about us because being too similar was just boring.
At this point you need to adult and tell her everything you say here.
And I'm not sure yet if I see myself with this girl long-term.
Tell her this honestly so she can make the best decision for her own life. It's better to hurt now than after she takes your opinion into consideration.
This isn't something you can whimp out on. You have to face it head on.
Guy is bad news all around. You don’t like abortions, ok well it didn’t happen to you. But to bring up someone else’s in an argument of all things well that’s not anything I’d consider acceptable in a future partner or husband.
It's not your lack of sex life that will lead to something foolish. It's your decisions, your choice. You say you'd never cheat on her but you almost did. That's a sign that y'all need to have a very serious talk. Sick of talking or not, how else will you figure this out?
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My advice is not to enter relationships with people who play games. In general, it saves you a lot of headaches.
Projection is a defense mechanism in psychology, yes. Defense mechanisms differ and are not all equal: some are mature and generally beneficial, while others are immature. There's a division. Projection is an immature one. It means she is unable to face the reality of having feelings for you, so she pretends in from of herself YOU are the one with the feelings.
It's the same when someone is obviously angry at you, and then tells you YOU are angry with them. Or someone is overly controlling, or tells you YOU are controlling. Sounds like a nightmare, right? This is here defense mechanism, and she will be using it not just for crushes, but conflicts. You don't wanna deal with that.
So stop thinking about whether she is truthful, or not, or what the heck she wants – my rule is that is someone is not upfront and I have to think long and hard about their motivations, they are playing games. So their motivation no longer matters, no to people who play games. Just my advice, of course.
It didn't feel like rape just uncomfortable because I didn't want to right then. He just went very quiet and red faced then got a bit angry and swore but then gave me a hug amd a kiss. Then I left after a few minutes and went home
She cheated period.
I would dump her.
It's natural to be attracted to someone as they morph into a more natural mateworthy shape.
Thanks. I'm trying really hard to learn how to love myself, but so many mistakes have made it rather difficult. I'll get there, but I feel (I guess I am) like a crazy person, and that alone can send me spiralling. I'll look for better help.
OMG.. therapy. Before you break up for this reason. Insert all my predictable words of advice here […].
Always lead with kindness. You’ll feel better about yourself in the long run.
How old are you that you think that’s still a relevant joke? Marriages this day and age aren’t like back in your time. OP should speak to his wife as an equal and explain she’s being a hypocrite.
Have some self respect man. You are the back up plan. This is only coming out because her lovers spouse found out.
I want you to know how hard this was to read because I know you're absolutely right. I've neglected this part of us blaming everything else but I know I need to prioritize it. I can start to feel that resentment growing and I'm just hoping I can turn that around. Thank you for your bluntness and honesty.
“Grab some syrup and get busy big boy!”
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You don’t see how psychotic that is?
Then he is shifting the blame and not taking responsibility for himself. That's a yellow if not red flag
Dont let him inside any orifice till you have cum. Hold his head in place if you have too make him finish his job.
” I really don't understand why it's such a huge deal when men want to know that the baby they are about to raise for the rest of their lives is 100%, without any doubt, theirs.”
That, in and of itself is not a big deal, and totally valid.
Case by case though, it becomes a big deal when it causes a rift in the relationship, for whatever reason. In this case, it makes OP feel like her bf doesn't trust her.
Trust is the biggest currency in relationship, there is no substitute for that, so that absolutely makes this hypothetical paternity test a big deal.
You're free to disagree and take the same side that OP's bf takes, that paternity tests are all fine and valid and shouldn't be a problem for anyone, I'm not debating that, it's not my point at all.
My point is that for OP at least it is a problem and in this case there really isn't a room for compromise, it's kind of a do or don't situation. So… this couple has much bigger problems then whether or not paternity tests are okay.
And by the way…
According to studies I have found and read now, of the men who felt they had good cause to take paternity tests, only a third found out the child wasn't theirs and in total only about 2-3% of all men end up with children that aren't biologically theirs…
So it isn't like this is some huge problem in desperate need of a solution, the way you make it out to be.