Honestly, with some people you can't even breathe in the opposite genders direction without them thinking you're cheating.
OP's boyfriend is clearly the dramatic, over the top type, so I don't really think it's OP's fault. This dude is fucking weird for doing what he's doing.
Based on your post history, it sounds like you have not only a sexual attraction issue but you also have a toxicity issue. You might want to go to counseling for both.
Here’s the thing, if he’s already told you he won’t anymore and still does. You have two choices. Either accept that he does and move on, or break up because it will happen again and again.
You’re allowed to not want to be with someone who looks at that when he knows how it makes you feel. Just like he’s allowed to look at whatever he wants to on his phone.
Lady, no amount of money is worth it if you’re going to be a 3rd wheeler in your own marriage. The mental shit you will go through for years will be much more costly. Call off the wedding but still have the reception and make it a party if you’re that concerned. Just don’t sign anything legal.
This is a boundary you gotta enforce. Also, why does BIL's family find unwanted practical jokes funny? Are they just going along with it not to upset anyone, or are they just not great people?
I'd hire security and give them a description of BIL. If he arrives in costume, he's not coming in. If he arrives with a bag large enough to fit a full clown costume, he isn't coming in. That way you don't have to uninvite him but can have him removed with proof he was planning on being an ass against your wishes.
Update: I scheduled a therapy appointment for Sunday at 2. My boyfriend offered to pay for it. I also found a support group for women with trauma that I will be joining.
You’re jealous of a kitten yes your are insane for thinking this way
Thank you for this
So you think it could possibly be a pattern of behaviour instead of a one off thing?
Honestly, with some people you can't even breathe in the opposite genders direction without them thinking you're cheating.
OP's boyfriend is clearly the dramatic, over the top type, so I don't really think it's OP's fault. This dude is fucking weird for doing what he's doing.
It is always the best etiquette to bring a hostess gift of some type.
Your BF needs to buy a clue.
Get your son away from this man, jesus.
Thank you
Based on your post history, it sounds like you have not only a sexual attraction issue but you also have a toxicity issue. You might want to go to counseling for both.
Ask the OP.
Yeah dude I've been assaulted multiple times, never once at a party.
Here’s the thing, if he’s already told you he won’t anymore and still does. You have two choices. Either accept that he does and move on, or break up because it will happen again and again.
You’re allowed to not want to be with someone who looks at that when he knows how it makes you feel. Just like he’s allowed to look at whatever he wants to on his phone.
I’m just concerned they’re making a mistake, marriage is a big step and divorces can be tricky
Lady, no amount of money is worth it if you’re going to be a 3rd wheeler in your own marriage. The mental shit you will go through for years will be much more costly. Call off the wedding but still have the reception and make it a party if you’re that concerned. Just don’t sign anything legal.
This is a boundary you gotta enforce. Also, why does BIL's family find unwanted practical jokes funny? Are they just going along with it not to upset anyone, or are they just not great people?
I'd hire security and give them a description of BIL. If he arrives in costume, he's not coming in. If he arrives with a bag large enough to fit a full clown costume, he isn't coming in. That way you don't have to uninvite him but can have him removed with proof he was planning on being an ass against your wishes.
Update: I scheduled a therapy appointment for Sunday at 2. My boyfriend offered to pay for it. I also found a support group for women with trauma that I will be joining.
100% yes. Stick to your guns. She doesn't sound interested and that is OK! Good for you! Try messaging someone else, and good luck!