Please for the love of god dont tell her. I mean, that's just bound to be a thing? Just turn on music, or wear some headphones/ear plugs like you would do for a roommate. It's not like it's inconveniencing you… Besides, what is she supposed to do? “Oh right, sorry, I'll go find somewhere else to do it, I totally forgot I have a cabin in the middle of nowhere where no one can hear me.”
Neighbors make noise because they also live there. Don't embarrass them for literally no reason.
While I understand your line of thinking, I don't think it's inherently true. Any gender can feel uncomfortable with their partner watching and consuming pornographic content, and that feeling is perfectly valid regardless of who has it.
The jealousy and insecurity that may come from a partner watching porn typically has a deeper issue. Maybe the partner isn't paying enough attention to the wants or needs of the jealous party; maybe said partner is declining sex more and more often but continues watching porn instead. Maybe they've voiced that they aren't entirely attracted to their partner (OP mentioned knowing that she isn't the sort of person her partner is typically attracted to, which either came from observation of his past partners or he outright told her this) which can lead to deep insecurity that the partner is going to cheat, or that they fantasize about others rather than their partner.
Either way, the biggest issue stems from the boyfriend's disregard for her feelings. Granted it could be the way OP approaches the subject when she wants to talk about it, but if every time she brings it up he grows hostile and dismissive, that only leads to a snowballing effect of the issue. If the roles were reversed, this dismissal would be just as big an issue.
Nobody has the right to control their partner's body, but things that make your significant other upset should be discussed. If you can't compromise, then break up. Neither party should have to live with the anxiety and insecurity.
Okay this depends on do you have any proof of what you will be telling him? It’s been 3 years it’s hard to believe some random person coming out of the blue telling them that their SO cheated with no proof of them being together
Record the threats and go to the police. I'm sorry that you ended up in this fucked up situation, but it's better to try to get out than staying. If you get out you don't know the outcome, if you stay you know that you'll be abused and most likely killed some day.
I know sex doesn’t cross your mind, but it’s clear your fiancé feels that sex is connected to his intimacy, and he probably feels like he’s the only one that’s attempting intimacy right now, which can be frustrating and disappointing for anybody.
A lot of women’s libido’s decreasing with medical issues, aging, etc. is just blamed on women being women, when actually a lot of the time it’s a hormonal imbalance that can be mitigated with medical treatment. Please talk to your gyne about what can be done to help bring your libido back. But if it’s gone for good, please start to make sex something you actively think about. You and your fiancé are both way too young to miss out on sex the rest of your lives
Please for the love of god dont tell her. I mean, that's just bound to be a thing? Just turn on music, or wear some headphones/ear plugs like you would do for a roommate. It's not like it's inconveniencing you… Besides, what is she supposed to do? “Oh right, sorry, I'll go find somewhere else to do it, I totally forgot I have a cabin in the middle of nowhere where no one can hear me.”
Neighbors make noise because they also live there. Don't embarrass them for literally no reason.
Did he before you married? Probably something I would’ve looked into before you got that far but that’s just me
You see a future with someone that you disagree with almost all shared goals, needs and timelines?
You enjoy being miserable?
While I understand your line of thinking, I don't think it's inherently true. Any gender can feel uncomfortable with their partner watching and consuming pornographic content, and that feeling is perfectly valid regardless of who has it.
The jealousy and insecurity that may come from a partner watching porn typically has a deeper issue. Maybe the partner isn't paying enough attention to the wants or needs of the jealous party; maybe said partner is declining sex more and more often but continues watching porn instead. Maybe they've voiced that they aren't entirely attracted to their partner (OP mentioned knowing that she isn't the sort of person her partner is typically attracted to, which either came from observation of his past partners or he outright told her this) which can lead to deep insecurity that the partner is going to cheat, or that they fantasize about others rather than their partner.
Either way, the biggest issue stems from the boyfriend's disregard for her feelings. Granted it could be the way OP approaches the subject when she wants to talk about it, but if every time she brings it up he grows hostile and dismissive, that only leads to a snowballing effect of the issue. If the roles were reversed, this dismissal would be just as big an issue.
Nobody has the right to control their partner's body, but things that make your significant other upset should be discussed. If you can't compromise, then break up. Neither party should have to live with the anxiety and insecurity.
Someone hacked his tinder but he still has control of the account and the conversations saved? Do you really need to ask?
Show me where is said he should give her a second chance. You’re reaching and you’re adding drama that isn’t present.
it's not fair to you to be his sole caretaker. if you aren't happy, you have to end it honestly.
if you're that worried about it, let his family know after the fact so they can step in and help him
Okay this depends on do you have any proof of what you will be telling him? It’s been 3 years it’s hard to believe some random person coming out of the blue telling them that their SO cheated with no proof of them being together
Record the threats and go to the police. I'm sorry that you ended up in this fucked up situation, but it's better to try to get out than staying. If you get out you don't know the outcome, if you stay you know that you'll be abused and most likely killed some day.
I know sex doesn’t cross your mind, but it’s clear your fiancé feels that sex is connected to his intimacy, and he probably feels like he’s the only one that’s attempting intimacy right now, which can be frustrating and disappointing for anybody.
A lot of women’s libido’s decreasing with medical issues, aging, etc. is just blamed on women being women, when actually a lot of the time it’s a hormonal imbalance that can be mitigated with medical treatment. Please talk to your gyne about what can be done to help bring your libido back. But if it’s gone for good, please start to make sex something you actively think about. You and your fiancé are both way too young to miss out on sex the rest of your lives