Well, first you need to talk to him about it. If he’s offended and doesn’t want to try to change his behavior, then that’s that. If he is surprised and wants to try to change, just help him by being encouraging.
When you go out to dinner maybe there’s a very subtle sign you can give him when he’s acting inappropriate. You don’t want to embarrass him by calling him out in front of everyone, so something discreet in key. Good luck.
There’s a decent chance that his parents used to yell “You don’t listen!” To him and now he’s just projecting it onto you. And I’m NOT saying you should feel so sorry for him and try to lovingly fix him!!! Quite the opposite. I’m saying that the words coming out of his mouth don’t Mae any GD sense because he’s a broken man who only knows abuse and can only abuse you. So he has to find fault out of thin air and hurl it at you. Because he’s so unstable, it’s made you shift most of your attention onto him: figuring out his moods, keeping him calm, changing your behaviors. Don’t pay any attention to trying to figure out if he’s right about you. Pay attention to what you are feeling, your gut; which Is hurt, scared, confused, made to feel crazy! Relationships should make us feel loved, respected, safe, happy. Your gut is screaming the opposite; listen! And get away. Don’t tell him, just get away safely. These guys are dangerous when you leave them sometimes!
Dude it's over. What she said is a classic cheaters script (Its not what it looks like; I can explain;)
Still, don't think of it negatively. You should be thanking your fiance's best friend for exposing her and saving you both money and future heartbreak.
Dump your cheating s*** of a fiance and move on. You can have your own family with a REAL GOOD GIRL and not with a child like her.
Keep your head up OP and lean on your bros who are in reality your actual family.
That context changes things a bit. If you’ve asked him to hang out at least twice now (granted your timing with both was absolutely horrible), we’d logically have to believe that if he wanted to hang out with you, he’d have made an effort to initiate at this point.
Separately, don’t compare him being polite in person with his Snapchat habits as if it sends some sort of conflicting message. There’s nothing to be confused about. If it turns out he’s not interested, he can and should still be cordial and mature in person.
I can't even scroll past this… This is clearly just a case of poor communication both sides.
OP – toss an apology to your wife, because you could have (as another comment points out) said: Ok Cool, nice to see you, I'm sorry I'm not feeling the best and am just going to go lay down for a bit.
But also ask her to please give you a heads up when people come over. Not to get permission, but just to let you know.
She got spikey, you got spikey. You both owe eachother a bit of an apology.
You’ve got this; I’m sorry she did this. Absolutely awful of her. You’re worthy of better!
Shes dealing with her grandads funeral. Thats why family are there. It isnt just any other weekend.
Im amazed people arent considering that maybe someone would want their husband to support them when dealing with a highly emotional situation.
Well, first you need to talk to him about it. If he’s offended and doesn’t want to try to change his behavior, then that’s that. If he is surprised and wants to try to change, just help him by being encouraging.
When you go out to dinner maybe there’s a very subtle sign you can give him when he’s acting inappropriate. You don’t want to embarrass him by calling him out in front of everyone, so something discreet in key. Good luck.
She does need permission to have another person stay in THEIR home. Again, two yeses and only one no are required.
There’s a decent chance that his parents used to yell “You don’t listen!” To him and now he’s just projecting it onto you. And I’m NOT saying you should feel so sorry for him and try to lovingly fix him!!! Quite the opposite. I’m saying that the words coming out of his mouth don’t Mae any GD sense because he’s a broken man who only knows abuse and can only abuse you. So he has to find fault out of thin air and hurl it at you. Because he’s so unstable, it’s made you shift most of your attention onto him: figuring out his moods, keeping him calm, changing your behaviors. Don’t pay any attention to trying to figure out if he’s right about you. Pay attention to what you are feeling, your gut; which Is hurt, scared, confused, made to feel crazy! Relationships should make us feel loved, respected, safe, happy. Your gut is screaming the opposite; listen! And get away. Don’t tell him, just get away safely. These guys are dangerous when you leave them sometimes!
Dude it's over. What she said is a classic cheaters script (Its not what it looks like; I can explain;)
Still, don't think of it negatively. You should be thanking your fiance's best friend for exposing her and saving you both money and future heartbreak.
Dump your cheating s*** of a fiance and move on. You can have your own family with a REAL GOOD GIRL and not with a child like her.
Keep your head up OP and lean on your bros who are in reality your actual family.
That context changes things a bit. If you’ve asked him to hang out at least twice now (granted your timing with both was absolutely horrible), we’d logically have to believe that if he wanted to hang out with you, he’d have made an effort to initiate at this point.
Separately, don’t compare him being polite in person with his Snapchat habits as if it sends some sort of conflicting message. There’s nothing to be confused about. If it turns out he’s not interested, he can and should still be cordial and mature in person.
Decent honest people are upfront and forthcoming with their partner about their whereabouts and who they're with.
Make of that what you will
Wasn't a mistake, it was a choice. A selfish and hateful choice.
Oh fuck.. I'm sorry man.
In that case id suggest to just cut her off, move and maybe get a restraining order if that's possible? That way she still has to stay away from you.
I can't even scroll past this… This is clearly just a case of poor communication both sides.
OP – toss an apology to your wife, because you could have (as another comment points out) said: Ok Cool, nice to see you, I'm sorry I'm not feeling the best and am just going to go lay down for a bit.
But also ask her to please give you a heads up when people come over. Not to get permission, but just to let you know.
She got spikey, you got spikey. You both owe eachother a bit of an apology.
It's the balanced fucking take