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The trend of low-effort age bait posts continues.
My parents have been split for over 20 years. My dad found out she was cheating, and to this day she still denies it. At the time he was willing to work things out but now after all this time he can’t stand her. They’re civil when it comes to things like the grandkids birthday parties and they have to be in the same room, but other than that they have no communication. All love, like, trust… everything is gone. If she would have just admitted it, maybe things would have been different. But she won’t admit it because of her pride and her reputation. Your partner might be the same way. She’ll never admit it, just confront her with the evidence. If you end up losing her as a friend, she’s not that good of a friend anyway. She had an affair. Do you really want a friend you can’t trust?
I appreciate this, thank you!
Five months is insufficient time for a person to truly determine whether their partner is truly the one. Do not rush into marriage.
I’m usually good with big dates, when I am actively thinking about it I am usually very good with things. I think I give good meaningful gifts and we have good days, but the small stuff. However I did forget flowers on anniversary, that was really bad. I think calendar and other things like that would really help though. Is there any specifically program or apps you may recommend?
Luckily, she doesn’t dwell on things like not noticing a hair cut or anything like that. Usually it’s a quick remark which makes me realize then I acknowledge it and all that stuffs. I think full 2 minutes thing is really crucial though, especially the talking since she really likes that.
I feel like I have ADHD at some points but I don’t think I do. I can focus decently well and I have good discipline for work and focusing, I am not impulsive nor hyperactivity, but I definitely have those moments. I’ve been called ADHD a lot (however the word is thrown out so much nowadays so it’s lost true meaning) and while no one had been diagnosed, it likely runs in the family. I’ll talk to a doctor about it or someone else and see what they they.
Thank you
I think a job is my best option right now.
3 years and you're only discovering this sh*t now…..really?!
Either he cheated already just like what foreverlullaby said or he’s waiting for the confirmation and then throw your ass to the curb but that’s fukn insanity so most likely unless he is crazy he already cheated and wants you to do the same so he thinks you won’t leave him but any man that cheats don’t deserve a good woman and that’s real and just by you being so concerned with this issue and it being hard for you to make a decision on the dumbest and most turned off question just goes to show how much of a good woman you are!! so Fuck that don’t lose your awesomeness for no man and yeah I’m a man but still stay true like the amazing woman you are and you definitely deserve better if that’s the case have a good one I hope we have all helped you out in this situation
Do not apologize, I repeat DO NOT!!
I too have very dry skin in winter and I always get itchy but my boyfriend doesn't accuse me of anything while doing that and in fact he brings me losion and antiseptic to use so I don't harm myself by scratching too hard. + and if you were touching yourself where is the problem? You are an adult and u have needs like every person. Some people don't wanna have sex all the time, they want to masturbate by them selves for a change and there is nothing wrong with that.
He shouldn't be making u feel bad about yourself in any way.
Restraining order is next thing I'll do if he ever approaches me again.
Her behavior is uncommon. She knows how this affects you. Yet she carries on. What's so life saving about this friendship that she is willing to hurt husband so much? Her conduct is destroying marriage. Explain to her and tell her you don't want to carry on like this and most wouldn't.
“She loves me enough” – that's not marriage and far from enough.
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Lame reason of her to break up lmao. It's a pretty normal work boundary to not be chatting with non-work people on company time, especially when you're very busy
100% a boundary for him. He doesn’t want it in his life- and maybe for a legitimate reason. But if it’s something you want to do and he’s 100% against it you have to make a choice: sacrifice substances or leave him. Because you can never change your mind on it and go backwards on the sacrifice if that’s what you choose. And remember it is your choice. He’s not telling you you have to stop but he is telling you he won’t allow it in his life. Do you love him enough to never do it ever again?
It is absolutely 100% a trap.
Couples who get bored usually decide to advance their relationship hoping it will fix things. “We're always bored so we got a dog! We got bored of the dog so we got married! We got bored of marriage so we bought a house! We got bored of the house so we had a kid!”
It doesn't always happen this way, but if you're seeing these signs now, you need to figure out if that's the path you want to go in life.
I would maybe suggest sitting down and expressing these concerns. Ask her to do more things with you, because if she's bored and you aren't, she's going to expect you to drop your hobbies to do “her things” like house/wedding/baby
It was in college and I know before college he really didn't have many social experiences. I'm not too sure what's happened between the breakup and me, other than alot of mixed dating experiences that's not talked about in detail at all. I do think he struggles to perhaps bring up an experience that doesn't include her. I just hope that's the actual case and not cause he's thinking of her all the time.
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I throw a pretty big Christmas party every year. A few years ago at one I threw my friend Tara met my former co-worker Tony and they hit it off. They dated for a while, and two years later, once again at my Christmas party, she showed up with a ring on her finger and they announced for the first time that they were engaged. I was super happy for them.
They got married this past spring. I didn't get invited.
When I was sending around invitations this year, I didn't see any reason to invite them back if they didn't think I wasn't worthy of making their guest list. I have known them both for years, basically introduced them, and they literally announced their engagement at a party at my home.
It got back to me today that they're very upset with me for not inviting them this year, that my party is something they consider special and they think I'm being petty. A couple friends mentioned it was a smaller wedding and they feel like I'm just punishing them.
It wasn't though. I knew at least 50 people at that wedding, and I was a little surprised at some of the names that made the cut over me. I didn't make a stink about it or anything, but I don't see why I should welcome them into my home again after being snubbed like that.
My partner thinks I should just let it go and invite them back, but I don't see a reason why I should.
You are very welcome.
You don’t sound like a bad person. Good people make mistakes, too. I hope you can work things out.
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I believe this is what is referred to as “your chickens are coming home to roost.” That is, the consequences of your actions over the past few years have finally arrived.
I’m not saying that you were wrong to make the choice you did, or that your partner is wrong now. But actions have consequences. In this case your actions were perhaps callous rather than compassionate. For valid reasons, perhaps, but that doesn’t change the rules you set up. Did you never consider a scenario where he might make more? Did you never show compassion and flexibility when he was struggling?
So you’re getting the other side of all that now, of your own rules and lack of flexibility or compassion and it’s a now a problem? You see how that might look…
I think the bigger issue, though, is your response to his proposal. Saying no is ok, but after seven years it’s a pretty clear sign that there’s no future. If that’s not the message you wanted to send, that was a clear mistake on your part. Further, a rude no is harsh rejection. I’m surprised your relationship didn’t end there. Especially since “I wanted to eventually marry him” could be clearly expressed through a “Yes! But not this year, I have too many things to do,” instead of a rude “no.”
So where to now? Tbh, I think you guys are done. You were petty or callous or selfish when you had the financial edge, and he is returning that now that he has the edge. That’s a terrible foundation upon which to build a marriage.
But, if you both want to try to rebuild in a healthy direction, start with some serious conversations about what you both want and expect from the relationship and any future it might have. Make an active effort to show compassion and support. Perhaps both of you can pursue couple’s therapy. It’s a long, difficult road to get to “healthy, loving, supportive” from where you are, but it can be accomplished if you both want it and work at it.
Enjoy that single life sis!
So is there anyway I could move on then it’s been three years and I still don’t think I can
A dentist u mean, like a Dr for the mouth
Yes you do. You know exactly what to do so do it.
It’s time to end things.
She married you under false pretenses.
She doesn’t accept your children and that’s a red flag.
Don’t ruin your relationship with your children for her.
I am currently saving on the side just in case something happens and I have to leave
Why didn’t you just call a ambulance the moment he said no?
Did you really feel the need to ask this? Like, you weren't sure if this was ok and needed a second opinion?
But it's not how things actually are, everything you say is just lies. That's why you've got a mob of internet strangers going for your bs.
I would say it’s made me better in some ways worse in others. I was a bit more reckless and impulsive before but that’s also probably just because I was younger, I’m still pretty young. Although my roommate said they noticed I don’t really go out anymore or make new friends, which is something I used to always be doing. I’ve become more insecure and spiteful though. I actually messaged his ex and revealed that he cheated on her like 5 years ago to piss them both off which I’m really not proud of.
As for the other women thing, he went out to a bar 1:1 with an old college friend who confessed she always used to have a crush on him. He didn’t tell me this happened till several months later. I was already upset about the going out situation in the first place. Another example would be he went to NOLA w/ his best college guy friend for Mardi Gras and obviously partied every night. Some girl commented flirty things on a post he made about it complaining he didn’t post any pics w/ her…and he wouldn’t delete the comment when I asked him to until I made a big fuss about it. He was upset but did delete it. Him and his friend swear everyone knew he had a girlfriend. Maybe that’s true and the girl just didn’t care. He says all photos with her would have been group photos. Not sure if it’s relevant but I was having a miscarriage at this time which just added salt to the wound so to say.
I’m aware nothing is lining up. He says one thing, does another, or says another thing to someone else. It’s difficult because he’s so caring and doting otherwise- always making me dinner and hardly ever has me drive and if I want to do something like watch a specific show he will consider it done. And my family loves him and knows he has a ring. My dad says I can’t marry him soon enough. I was on board with at least getting engaged before I found out about him talking to his ex.
I came to a breaking point on NYE over a small minor argument (unrelated) and finally exploded. He said he was just waiting for me to say the word to propose to me already. He’s had the ring for months. I told him it wasn’t fair to buy a ring when he had just talked to his ex a few months ago. I said I felt like he was getting closure from her and that wasn’t fair this far into our relationship and he’s in no place to be buying anyone a ring. Now we are in limbo figuring out what to do next.
Your wife is greatly manipulating your emotional state and that is seriously fucked up dude. You need to have the proper reaction to her “game” of making you constantly repeat yourself while she decided to use that app or not. Trust your gut, if it tells you something is up it more than likely is. I would honestly wait and see if she has any remorse. If she doesn't at least come and apologize then you need to really consider what your marriage really is and what she might be doing behind your back.
There are 2 possibilities here.
First – traveling together is a great way to get to know someone, and if you don't do well traveling, it's good information to have, and it's reasonable to reevaluate the viability of the relationship.
But the other possibility is that you may have been too sensitive about how her behavior reflected on you. Like if she did something that you found embarrassing because it didn't conform the image that you like to project, it may have been an unfair reaction. Or it may have been important enough to you, that it's better to know sooner than later if she's not “the one”.
So it's good that you're being somewhat introspective here (with the mention of your therapist), but one way or another the overall experience may have served some worthwhile purpose.
You probably can't. No addict will quit until they are ready, and that usually requires hitting bottom. You are going to have to walk away from this one.
Keep the hair, cut out the boyfriend. I mean, the audacity and shallowness!!
Maybe something happened in their college days that you don't know about. Maybe Kate has outshone her many times and she thought this was her one time to be the best, only to have the limelight stolen again. I know your wife set this all in motion, but she didn't foresee this and it seems it was like the final straw.
Because it is so irrational and out of proportion leads to the idea that there is a bigger back story here
Yeah, sounds like a good option, maybe it will lead to him starting the individual as well
That’s exactly it, by communicating. If I truly care like I say I do, I make an effort to listen to them and avoid making insensitive comments. It’s not always perfect, and I still do sometimes slip up, but I’m much more self aware so I’m able to realize after I do it and I immediately apologize.
I would not fucking entertain another moment with this turd.
The unexpected turn this post took…
You need to do both. Pee before and after sex
Your boyfriend is a gross creep. You can keep dating him in hopes that at almost 30 he is creeping on minors because he is still 'immature' or you could find yourself a dude who isn't a gross creep.
This is may sound brutal, but you may need to tell him you're not asking him to cut her off. But she has no business in your relationship. That if things continue the way they are he's sabatoging the relationship. Considering your ages and what you've said. Maybe you never wanted to realize it, but it seems this wasn't what you signed up for by being with him. That's fine but at some point you need to also be willing to stop trying to change things and move forward.
You absolutely can raise children with someone you love platonically. That's not the issue. The problem is that you want a romantic partner. If you want your romantic and sexual partner to be the father of your children, then staying married to your best friend probably won't be fulfilling for you. You don't have to stay in this just for him either. If you're ready to be on your own, then he has to respect that.
You're in your early 20's. You have a ton of life ahead of you. Do you wanna spend your best years putting up with your boyfriends bullshit because he doesn't wanna act like an adult?
Tell her you don't want her to be friends with someone who is constantly trying to make moves on her and wishes for the death of your relationship with her. I don't think that this is a disrespectful thing at all to ask.
That doesn't excuse saying 'what does he see in you'. This is all you.
Dude you’ve only been together 6 months AND he’s almost a decade older than you. Couples change A LOT past the honeymoon phase and you’re still clearly in it.
My thoughts are that you rock. You did not go for his weird sick mind games. Which this was, all of this was a mind game that was supposed to keep you off balance. It was a disturbing power move and you did well by just calling his bluff. And you did great when you said “fine” after he said he wants to break up, bc honestly – that's the appropriate response to this amount of mind games and head fucking you. Mind games are a red flag and never lead to good things.
she might be asexual because making out didn’t turn her on and she’d never been turned on before in her life.
Can you see a relationship with her with no sex?
26 is a lot for display purposes. I would suggest that you both limit yourselves to ONE shelf each on a bookcase that can be used for your collections.
I've talked to him about it before and I told him my concerns and feelings but apparently I'm just complaining and making him feel like he can't do anything right when I tell him my feelings.. .I never see change, thank you for replying!
You’re missing the point:
It’s not about a preference for Magic Mountain, Knots Berry Farm, or Disney. It’s about you planning a big outing with your family that you showed her she wasn’t a part of.
You can’t do this act over, but here is what you should have done:
“Daughter, wife and I would like to take (younger kids) to Disney Land. This is part of their Christmas present. We think it would be really awesome if we could go as a family and that you’d join us. Is this something that you would be interested in doing with us?”
If she starts saying things like- she can’t afford it. Then you follow up with:
“Just like this is a Christmas present for (younger kids) we’d like to make this your present too.”
This shows her you want her there as part of the family. If she says “no” because she would rather have a MacBook, then you follow up with.
“Ok, but I really hope that we can find ways to spend more time together as a family. It’s really great having you around.”
You see this as 100% about money. You’re not understanding how this is about rejection.
What a fucking weirdo
Oh, I agree that mom needs to know. If dad won't tell her, OP should.
And sorry, but if a person who made all the wrong decisions finally makes on good one, that's admirable. Lying to the family is not, but the problem is that he knew how they'd react, and sometimes, we try to take the easier path (which has clearly turned out to not be easy).
As far as the money, once you make a human, your are obligated to support it. That deal these two made years ago is ridiculous and is inconsequential in my mind. Mom had no right to deny that girl financial support. Dad may have paid for the girls tuition, but he paid nothing of her support. I'm not feeling sorry for OP for having to pay their own tuition.
Have you told her about this cool new thing called getting a fucking job?
Asking ruins the whole game
Says you're too much, but then goes out clubbing. No. Fuck this guy. He's a hypocritical douche. Go have a good time.
What advice are you looking for? It sounds like an unhealthy 28y.o got with a teenager and had an unhealthy relationship. It's best for y'all to cut contact, heal and move on.
You're not being “reasonable”: you're ignoring her very clearly stated plans – she's not leaving Ohio – and trying to pressure her to change them because it's what you want.
Break up. In the future, stop trying to change people to fit your desires. Accept them as they are or avoid them.
He’s excited to meet the wedding coordinator. Is the wedding coordinator a man by any chance? 6 years is a long time, you’ve lasted about 5 years and 10 months longer than I would ?
Do you have a place to go?
Coming back from your partner cheating is incredibly difficult. The trust just isn't there. It takes a lot to rebuild it. it also mind fucks you. It really hurts your self esteem and willingness to trust anyone.
In the end she didn't admit what she did until you confronted her with the evidence. She didn't feel guilty until that moment. She was happy cheating on you. She kept cheating on you.
You would be very justified to move on.
Time to ask some questions : what about your finances ? Have you ever lived together for more than a week ?
The kids thing is the biggest reason too. You’d literally be a bad parent for letting this man be around your family. I was dating this girl and her dad was such a moron, right wing conspiracy shit all the time. I’m a confrontational person when need be, but I let it go for the sake of my gf, until he went off on a racist rant about Obama….I’m black, lol. My gf was one of those people who thinks their parents are the smartest and most infallible people. Where as I know my parents are idiots but considerably smarter people, but I still know and correct them when they’re wrong. Anyways, once I thought about raising a mixed kid that’s around an openly racist person. No fucking chance. I have trauma that I carry from family members and I resent my mom for allowing it. I’d never put my kid through that and you shouldn’t either. That man will ruin your child
You cut very deep with that truth
Dw man
As others here have said, I don't believe that she actually loves you to anywhere near the same degree as you love her.
To put this as simply as possible, she sees you as a safety net and not as a true partner. To her, you are not a “sexual person”, but rather you are one who is a means to an end. That is not a good way to have a relationship and an absolute disaster when it comes to marriage.
The thing you have to understand is that her words and her actions do not match up. Her reassurances do not match up with her actions – in fact nothing she says matches up with the reality of the relationship you have.
TLDR: This makes NO SENSE!
And this is why you are in this state – nothing makes sense if you look at her words and actions together. I mean, how can a person say one thing, but then act in a completely opposite way? So of course to you it doesn't make sense. To any rational person it would make no sense.
What she has in you is someone who provides. You provide her with love, you provide her with stability, you provide her things and she never has to give any of that back to you because even when she turns it off, you still keep on providing her with these things.
To her, you are not a lover or a source of her romantic fulfillment. You are a giver and she is a taker. And that is what her actions are telling you.
So whilst her words say the opposite, her words are said within the context of keeping you providing. If you stopped providing she would then put some of her words into actions to reel you back in, and then once you get back to providing she'll scale back to words only.
You are marrying into a sad state of affairs OP and if you hope that it somehow will all magically get better, please understand that it won't. She'll just keep taking and you'll just keep giving and her needs she'll eventually find somewhere else.
Of that you can be guaranteed.
makes sense that the only suggestions to which op is responding positively are the ones that recommend allowing the clown to come to the wedding and “ignoring” him as a “power move”
This man cheated on you then Streisanded himself with a super common scam he could have just Googled. He's unfaithful and foolish, why would you stick around?
Kick him out or leave if you can- relationship is done. I’m sorry it came or this way, but it’s definitely not you (it’s him).
You can do better than this man- he rebuked your offer to help with and responds with a slap in your face. GTFO of this relationship and don’t look back.
Turn around walk out that door and find someone who doesn’t resent you
I just read your other posts. You have been miserable with him for years. Why are you doing this to yourself?
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Tell your girlfriend you fucked up and cheated on her. She deserves to know you were unfaithful even if you hadn’t contracted an STI. She deserves to know the kind of person she’s with.
I mean… 605,000 women were diagnosed with cervical cancer in 2020, alone.
I see your other comment and appreciate your willingness to reconsider your thoughts. With that background you’re right to be hurt but make sure it’s proportional to the relationships as a whole.
You both will be fine and get through this in the scale of a decade this will be a small blip and just goes to show there will always be mistakes and learning forever on. For both of you.
Tell her that you are an autonomous person that can make your own decisions and decide what’s right for you. That this is what you want to do and she either needs to accept it and stop putting her own guilt/issues onto you or break up with you.
She’s got validation issues so she feels unworthy of a relationship without providing physical affection so it’s going to take a lot of patience. Tell her to stop worrying about you and only worry about what she wants.
some people need therapists and self growth, not boyfriends.
He's been pretty clear there are some incompatibilities that need to be worked on before he's willing to make a permanent commitment to you. That is, in fact, the correct approach to marriage. Marrying someone for paperwork is not the best foundation to lasting happiness.
You're right. I just feel guilty about not communicating my feelings effectively to her, and closing myself off emotionally to her. Maybe if I contended with her more, she would've respected me more?
In general, your premise would almost always be completely true.
But the reason I’m arguing against it in this specific situation is because you already know the root cause of the issue. To back up, that’s why we talk things through when arguments/issues arise; to work as a team to identify the issue and work as a team to remediate it.
Coming back here, this has always been an issue. You’ve talked about it or at least brought it up many times (as you should). But we’re talking about the exact same issue each time; he’s insecure.
You logically want to know why he’s insecure (valid). But you already know; past traumas. You didn’t provide any detail, so obviously I can only speculate, but I’d have to assume we’re talking about past shitty relationships, probably infidelity, and maybe abuse. You’ll have to confirm.
So you know “why” he is how he is. The problem is he’s projecting those issues onto you and that’s not fair to you. I assume your mindset is something like “I understand and I’m so sorry he’s dealt with that, but I’m not them and I’ve shown him as much, so why won’t he trust me? He should. I need to understand why he doesn’t trust me.” His past is why he doesn’t trust you, despite all of us knowing it’s illogical and unfair to you.
Having said all that, that’s not an excuse. Regardless of his past, you don’t deserve to deal with it and constantly be questioned. He doesn’t trust you. Healthy relationships can’t work without trust. He might otherwise be amazing, but this is a fundamental problem, and you’re here because you’re at a breaking point.
I’d almost always be here giving you advice to end things, and that very likely might be the case here as well. I’ve only taken pause because he started therapy. If he’s doing so having acknowledged to you that he’s projecting his trust issues onto you unfairly and wants to fix them, then it might be worth giving it more time.
Couples therapist will frequently have 1-on-1 sessions which each member of the couple with the goal of improving the relationship. It’s not individual counseling, but individual sessions so that each party has a chance to talk to the therapist without the other individual present. I’m assuming this is what she is talking about
Haha no.
I'm bored of you now.
You have value as a human. Even if you don’t feel it, you have the same value as your daughter. All that love you have for her, all the worth you see in her, you also have. Life might be trying to defeat it out of you, people may try to trick you into believing your value is a lie, but it’s not.
You finding safety, security, self-worth will also be a boon for your child, whom you love. You deserve it for both of you.
I don’t know what the first step is for you, but you can make a life that feels good to you, one that you can be proud of and feel safe in. Look at yourself – you already are doing that for your daughter. You love her and want to keep her safe, and it sounds like she isn’t lacking for your care.
There have to be social services resources near you. I know you might feel you’re in a big hole, but there’s a way out.
♥️
When depressed or emotionally drained porn is often 'easier' than sex and it could be that a degree of this is him compensating for his complicated feelings about the pregnancy or just a more general depression period by using porn as a crutch… even when having sex.
It seems to me that's the conversation to have, about his feelings. I think libido could be a symptom of it especially as you know in the past that wasn't a problem [ie the argument he is making about the importance of porn to cum is not true].
She does take charge though – by cycle-tracking, if both methods of contraception fail, being prepared to carry the baby to term and raising it. The problem is not that she won't take charge, but that she and OP have incompatible attitudes toward having kids.
It's normal to reassess bills and responsibilities when life circumstances change.
Have that conversation with him to make sure you are both happy with the split.
If you were paying for things other than rent and doing most of the housework, sounds like you were doing more than your fair share, but sit down together and quantify things.
I am in the same situation. I was a SAHM for 9 years. I will never catch up in my career. My ex is super helpful and supportive but I will never be able to retire. I don’t regret it because our daughter is well adjusted and in college but if I had to do it over again I would at lest work part time. I was an admin assistant and when I was going back to work nobody needed them anymore. I have my insurance license now and I am doing ok but I am not financially secure.
I'm sorry you had to experience this!
If you think it would help, then I think you should bring it up. It is such a heavy subject matter and they may have their own feelings (guilt, shame, etc.) about this. That is important to consider too, and might be reasons why they don't want to talk about it. If you're close friends, I can't imagine it going badly.
You can say something like “Hey, I've been working through this incident/trauma. I would appreciate it if we could have an open conversation about what happened and debrief.”
Do whatever will help you. Speak about it in whatever way will make you feel comfortable (coffee, phone, at home, etc). Dragging it out just ups everyone's anxiety and awkwardness. It's hard, but I've always found it easier to just get into it when having difficult conversations.
If they say no, or that they don't want to talk about it, that is in no way a reflection on you.
Your friend is supremely self-centered and inconsiderate. She hasn’t the slightest qualm about setting you up and then running out on you, leaving you in the lurch with a lease to pay for, but expects you to chase after her and make her feel special.
Count yourself lucky that you’re no longer required to maintain a geostationary orbit around her emotional gravity well.
You were wrong, and you know it, instead of punishing be the best girlfriend you can be and show he is right to you. You made a mistake. Nobody is perfect
Where do you take her sons needs into consideration? Like, at all. Everyone means not just you. You seem to not grasp this.
I'd start to wonder if he has feelings for her or if it has ever gotten inappropriate.
This is silly. I've masturbated to more of my real life friends than I can even remember, and I didn't have feelings for, or get inappropriate with, any of them. It's fine if it weirds you out but it's not an indicator of other transgressions in the way you seem to think it is.
with so much misinformation out there about these issues and how it effects others, many will just to answer based on the norm. Things are not always that set in stone.
Its well worth the effort to gain any information you can going forward.
For a side note, I have been married for 33 years to my wife who is biplolar and have 3 wonderful healthy children all grown up and on their own. It take work as with everything worth while and wish the world to you going forward.
Normally I’d be inclined to agree with you, but what he’s going through isn’t everyday stuff. It’s not like everything was fine and he got board. He’s had some deeply upsetting things happen, I know people behave differently under different circumstances, and knowing how he was before makes me still want to be there for him through his problems.
I’m not someone who gives up on people because it’s hard. I guess I’m just trying to work out if he has given up on me.
You are doing a fantastic job as a dad and your daughter should be proud of herself too. It takes strength to move forward after something like that.
Keep getting tested for a few months. Certain STDs can take time to show up on a test.
He’s fucking her or not (I think he is) but overall he’s shitty and sussy. You don’t need evidence to leave someone. Leave.
I’m sorry to say but something similar happened to me and I didn’t handle it well. However, this was after 30 years and came after years of asking why some things were happening the way they were. We also had the kind communication that most people would envy. The shock came in the form of, I thought I knew everything to know about her.
While I was hurt that she took so long to confide with me, I was also hurt for her as well. I realized minutes later how wrong I reacted and how hard it was to say anything about it. Thankfully, she forgave me my initial reaction and we moved on.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that sometimes your first reaction isn’t the totality of how you feel and in my case the opposite of how you generally will act. My advice is to sit down with him and gauge his feelings after he’s had time to think about it. If he’s still upset and doesn’t get why you didn’t say anything then you may have a big hill to climb.
You appear to be the only one in this marriage who gives a damn so I believe you're better off looking out for yourself at this point. Your wife has no interest in you otherwise things would have changed long before now. My advice is to seek out individual therapy and free yourself to recover from this train wreck and hopefully meet someone who is actually compatible with your idea of marriage.
Also, both my kids are like clones of me and don’t look like their father. Genetics is wild. Fortunately they got my looks ?
I don’t care if she groomed him or not she knew him since he was 8 them having sex is disgusting
36 hours/week is a full time schedule for a nurse. This is the standard. Its not a “lack of work hours.”
Source: am a nurse.
Don't be surprised when he starts treating you with the same lack of consideration
Yeah no absolutely not. Don’t put yourself through this.
I manage a store. If one of my employees pulled that shit they would be out on their ass so damn fast.
Tall to your boss
Sounds like his schedule makes it hard for a relationship to thrive.
I think its a bit sad to go 3 weeks without spending the night and barely seeing each-other over that period.
Now, is this schedule of his likely going to be a frequent thing? Or just a temporary phase?
If this is more permanent, then I think you need to decide for yourself if you're going to be happy long term seeing your partner this infrequent.
Due to his schedule, it seems that this is all he will be able to offer you.
I think you need to give it a more direct, 'relationship in jeopardy' type of talk…
Barely seeing you makes me unhappy, are you sure you even have room to maintain a relationship right now?
We hardly see each-other and I have been as flexible as possible to work around your schedule… But its getting to me that I rarely get to spend time with my boyfriend anymore.
Our relationship is slowly making me feel hurt the longer this goes on. I was hoping for a little more activity in our relationship.
Do you think you even have the room to have a relationship right now?