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This! Fuckin this!!! Amen!
You did your part. Your boyfriend should know his strengths and weaknesses. He should know that the objective was to get you another chance. BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY. Just don't tell him his letter sucked.
This is a narcissist. He’s hiding something, or you from someone.
“The meat thermometer Christmas.” I'm sorry, OP, but that made me laugh. He's a crappy gift giver or he just doesn't care, but surely you would have known this by now…?
Nope. Not your problem. Nobody asked you if this plan worked for you, so now it’s not your plan to execute.
It’s time to grow a spine and stand up for yourself. Tell your husband he needs to figure out who’s going to do all this work, because it isn’t you.
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He has a right to put what he wants on his body. You have a right to be disturbed and not like them. He’s aware you don’t like them and if he gets them your attraction to him will take a hit. This will affect your relationship. If he gets these violent tattoos you won’t want to go out anywhere w him. You’ll start to go out alone or w friends & start to resent him because he knows this will affect you negatively but he only cares about himself.
As tattoos do they represent you. What we put on our body has a reason behind it. I haven’t met anyone who has tattoos that they don’t mean anything. Including my wife & myself. Then to put those tattoos for everyone to see I think is more disrespectful to you & others. If people are shielding their kids from what he has now it’ll be worse if he gets these more violent ones.
So it’s a question of can you stay w him and be comfortable around him when you go out in public? If you have kids how are other parents to react if he takes your kid to other kid’s birthday parties, to their school etc etc? You’ve told him how they make you feel. And he has a right to do as he wants but his decision to do so will affect the relationship and he is aware.
Personally if my wife suddenly chooses to get violent or sexual tattoos for the public to see and it made me sick to look at them it’d be hard for me to stay and we’ve been together 31 years. However she respects me so if I told her she wouldn’t do it and neither would I because we respect each others opinions.
Go back to work full time and make sure your husband has to do half of the household chores. Your youngest is old enough and in school all day. Don’t depend on your husband for your financial support, as it sure sounds like he has little respect for you. Regain your independence.
Wonderful name for that advice you throwing. I believe it’s hard to use that defense in some states and situations.
Maybe the state has laws that could allow for this situation.
Legal stuff aside (I’m not a lawyer and all reddit advice should be taken with a grain of caring the Boston marathon bomber salt).
I say trust is gone so you would need to have a long conversation about how you feel and what kind of relationship you are looking for (a healthy honest one essentially). You can forgive her if you feel a true connection and she has not lied about anything else. You would have to work on your trust with her and she should understand that going forward since trust is not a given.
Your boyfriend is a toddler and a twat. If he said that at my dinner table on first meeting he would be asked to leave and he wouldn’t ever get invited back. You thinking what he said isn’t the issue is beyond believe. He is an absolute douche canoe
If his male ego tells him that men don't communicate and have feelings, when he's got examples of the problems that causes (not to mention the actual feelings), that's his problem.
The main for you is to realize that you tried to correct the issue and he ignored it until the relationship was over.
Thanks girl. After the “ex” incident, I did talk to another girl in our group who said she wasn't going to pick sides. She said that this “friend” tends to flirt with guys she's interested in, but it's never been her boyfriend or other peoples' boyfriends from what I can see.
I am a bit wary of who they will believe. I think this girl is a master manipulator and very, very good at lying and playing the victim. Most people think she's a lovely person.
Most people with this view on their partners are very very insecure and have no confidence at all….but do not mistake that for your problem.
You need a journal dude. You're basically using your ex as one rn anyway. And I think you'd solve a bunch of your own issues by downloading and using a diary app on your phone and a place to put your thoughts.
Breaking contact with him is low price for keeping respect for your husband.
Incidentally you should talk with your husband about going on dates and other things, because you feel unfulfilled and your relation has gotten stale.
It just sucks so much. I was so happy to move in with him. I was so excited to get to spend more time with him. But at every step of the way, he's done the exact opposite. This shit sucks.
I need a therapist and an attorney
Hmmm. You will take your Time, Sounds like you Allowed Him to take over 20 years
How Much More are you going wait? Life's Short Girl and tomorrow is Not promised
But that's not healthy. YOU are a Person, not a cure for his past relationship. There was no need to drag you into this and analyze you, when he's trying to process his past. The comparison is what makes this whole thing so gross.
She said he was a 10/10 but then called you a pedophile for saying he wasn't your type as she's dating someone who's not only 5 years older but also started dating her freshly as an adult. Lemme guess they met before she was 18 lmfao. She's totally projecting bro.
Maybe the dude just likes his privacy? Or doesn't like lending out his devices to anyone? I'm both of these to be honest. I don't have anything in particular I need to hide but I still don't like people using my devices. It's my personal device. Plus, I have had too many instances of people handling my things not as carefully as I would like and damaging them.
I mean, we barely know each other so I'm not gonna ask her out right away if that's what you mean by “shoot your shot” I am however gonna ask her to hang out so I can get to know her better. Actually, I already asked her that I'm just waiting for her to get back to me.
I am a mother and I love my children. It's wrong to assume that a woman that doesn't want children are missing out. And when I was starting out (18 years ago) It was easier financially. The reasons not to have children has increased, mainly it's affording them.
I have a friend who has always said no kids, we will be 40 this year, she works in a daycare but she still doesn't want children of her own.
I don't and have never talked like that specifically with my guy friends, but there's a lot that people probably wouldn't like if they heard and didn't appreciate that we weren't being serious.
It's possible that there's a self-deprecating 'edge' to this that isn't visible to you (for obvious reasons).
For instance, if I ever say something like 'Oh yeah, that waitress was totally into you' to a guy friend I'm actually (lightheartedly) making fun of him and the joke is that she clearly wasn't 'totally into him'. It's mainly us making fun of how we used to think as teenagers and sort of acknowledging how far we've come.
I think most guys talk like that with their friends. Do you ever joke about guys with your friends?
If they're not making fun of themselves then it is cause for concern, yeah.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
As others have said, I recommend you get some therapy. You've been through a traumatic experience and have been retraumatised by your ex taking her ashes. You need to learn how to heal and move on.
I hope you realise that your daughter will always be with you. Your daughter is more than her remains. You carried her, your body made her, your body was the only world she ever knew. She has left her mark on you, physically, emotionally, mentally and perhaps spiritually. Nothing can take her away from you.
You completely missed the entire point of the post
Didn't read this. Cheers my friend!
This may sound crazy but I feel like when you get into the realm of +28 dating you shouldn't just take people's word. You should verify things for yourself.
If you think that a guy is amazing and wonderful. It should immediately raise a yellow flag of why some other girl has not thought the same and why he still single. And he very well might be single for a good reason like a marriage just not working out and mutually choosing to separate.
But that's why you should ask questions and verify. You can easily do a quick Google search of his name and find out if he's married. Or if he was married and got a divorce.
Neither one of your are kids who don't have a past.
seems a reasonable request to be honest, a lot of people don’t let their dogs on their furniture at all and dogs in the bed is bad for your back a lot of the time. however you don’t have to deal with it if it’s a dealbreaker for you
Yes thank you so much! I felt so awkward talking to him about work and then right as he was about to leave I dropped the question would you like to get coffee sometime ane he seemed to be expecting it because he said yes so fast lol I told him ok I can give you my number and you can text me and he did and I guess he was so nervous he had to come back up to me and ask me for my number because he typed it in wrong lol we texted all throughout the day yesterday and today I haven’t heard from him but I sent him a text and hopefully we’ll be meeting up this weekend I know he’s down to see me he even offered to drive to my location to make it easier on me I just don’t wanna always be the one initiating contact with him first
Happy to have helped in some small way. It’s commendable to have empathy for and patience with someone you care about. But there are certain choices an adult will make that all the love and empathy and patience from a partner will not change. This is one of those things.
The only way you can play a part on him changing this is by demonstrating that this type of behavior is a deal-breaker in an adult relationship. By continuing the relationship and continually waiting for him to magically change, all you’re doing it showing him that it’s “not THAT bad,” so he has no reason to do anything different. You leaving, truly leaving and moving on (not just waiting for him to make some “grand gesture” to win you back) might be the wake-up call he needs. He has to want to stop doing it because it harms him. Not because it upsets you.
And in the meantime, you’ll be able to move on and seek out a partner who doesn’t create this kind of situation.
If they weren’t fooling around in the car, what were they doing? Did a snake bite his dick and she had to suck the poison out, but dropped and broke her phone in the process? What kind of lame contrived sit-com fake-out BS is this?
The wise thing would be a clean and complete break, but I’m petty enough to want to hear the story.
Why would you need to test? He flat out told you he doesn't live you, he loves the numbers in your bank account and the numbers he can get from your family.
I'd find a better partner for your life.
I bet he snorted something too. But allergies can absolutely make you sweaty and seem “antsy”. Your body is having an allergic reaction to something.
Part of our job as parents is to demonstrate healthy relationships for our kids to model. Even if you two aren’t being awful in front of the kid(s), they pick up on tension and that can make them more prone to anxiety disorders and such.
End it. Don't fuck around. Tell her x journal, y entry = done city.
He said he nearly broke up with her because of her looks.
Be straight and to the point. You don't even need to mention the cheating if you want to save having that argument. Just say that things aren't working out and that you want out of the relationship.
Best of luck my man. Shit things happen to the best of us.
I have married someone other than the father of my kid, but didn't insist on a name change or adoption. This seems to be more about setting a narrative that she can wield against someone. Its not enough to just be thankful that her soon to be spouse is kind to the child and welcomes them in their life, it's not enough that the child's father isn't for the name change, and just wants to avoid a fight. Do you want to wake up in a few years with a partner who is doing something unnecessary and unwanted but will be allowed to do it because everyone would rather have peace? Like being held hostage for dissenting.
I’d say weird, not alarming. I wouldn’t find it absolutely insane but I’d notice.
I guess what you’re saying is trust that he doesn’t when he says it and ignore my gut feeling. That’s the only way or end it. Got you! Thanks ??
You cant force people to buy you stuff
If he doesnt do it then it doesnt want to, if the relationship is great besides this one little thing, then get over it.
I commented on a post a long time ago about my mom dying, and received messages asking if I'd send nudes and wanting to know if sex during grief feels different than when not mourning.
Some people are truly fucking disgusting.
His heart is absolute garbage, but his act is en point.
Don't fall for the aft. Even if he normally gives you love and affection and is only evil to others. You will become a regular victim.
1 – good 2 – but you didn't listen within this thread? 3 – also good 4 – saying “men do xyz” isn't the same as saying “all men do xyz”. For example, “I get catcalled by men every day” is different than “all men catcall me”. Make sense? 5 – refer back to 4
I wasn't clear on 1 point so let me clarify. He isn't keeping this relationship secret from anyone outside the house. I have met some of his friends and co-workers that I knew before this relationship took place, and they're aware of the relationship as well as happy for him and me. I have become somewhat acquaintances with people my age (trying to start a friendship with 1 girl currently actually) and people who could be my grandparents. Me and my BF go to supermarket, have coffee etc. together and he has publicly always hugged and kissed me without issues.
I know this might sound strange but we have a lot of common interests and we share similar views on things like politics, beliefs, humor and hobbies.
He and his ex-wife have been divorced on paper for 9 years, separated for 11~12. I'm fairly good friends with the ex-wife and she has told me a lot of times prior that she wants him to leave from the house since a year ago. They don't get along, and I've witnessed this many times. Most often, they don't see/talk to each other for days at a time, and when they do, it's usually about asking to pick up the daughter from somewhere or about paying bills. He doesn't have close relationship with the daughter but he loves her very much and that's what's mostly keeping him here. He hadn't been living in the house for years but moved into the 2nd building due to personal complications in his life about 2 years ago, and was staying because the daughter asked him to.
I understand your point and I thank you for your advice and your in-depth thoughts. You have confirmed what I believed in the first place that there really isn't anything I can do here since it's not a me-problem, and I've already done everything I can to prove the negative. I can and have apologized for my inconsideration for not informing him that I was staying later than expected (as he was the one who had to come pick me up from the office), and I have offered to do everything in my power to make this as transparent as possible by inviting him to come with me to the next appointment (he has never met the doc), by offering to tell what topics were covered (AI and governments and webdev stuff), even telling him to ask the chiropractor for the reason why I was staying so late. The rest is up to him. Thank you for validating my thoughts, and I will seriously consider what you have said to make a good decision for my life.
If the genders were reversed people would be crucifying you.
If the genders were reversed people would be crucifying you.
Does he not have a credit card or saving for emergencies??? Idk how people go through life like that. Definitely be direct. “Hey so remember that cash I gave you for your repairs? When can you pay me back?”
Listen to your gut. I’d cancel the wedding.
My gosh, that was perfect! You must be a writer.
Best way to respond:
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You’re 19 bro. Drop the girl. Focus on yourself. Men are most attractive from 25-32.