It sounds like both of you are satisfied with this frequency and that's all that matters. It's only unhealthy if one or both of you are unhappy, because that leads to frustration or resentment.
Learn this and learn it NOW: When someone threatens suicide, you call an ambulance/EMS. Every time. Call the non emergency police line or mental health line in their area and report it. Always. Because it's an emergency. If they're being manipulative that's their problem to tell the ambulance crew when they get there.
Why don't you just ask him how he feels about her and if he sees a future? If he's unsure then let him know you would want to check it out but don't want to step on his toes. It'll either push him into it or he will back up. Either way it'll be more of a concrete idea instead of wishy washy ville.
It sounds like both of you are satisfied with this frequency and that's all that matters. It's only unhealthy if one or both of you are unhappy, because that leads to frustration or resentment.
You don’t. But if you need some support, r/loveafterporn can be very helpful.
Way to be there for him
Reread “forced the backdoor”. It’s not an actual door…
That first paragraph is a truth bomb
Let it go
This is Not Your Business
Make sure you both agree what talking is , some still smash others during this time and others don't
Make sure you are both on the same page.
Learn this and learn it NOW: When someone threatens suicide, you call an ambulance/EMS. Every time. Call the non emergency police line or mental health line in their area and report it. Always. Because it's an emergency. If they're being manipulative that's their problem to tell the ambulance crew when they get there.
Do it now.
INFO: What about that strange behavior made you want to marry hm?
Ehhhh, this might be one of those bells that can’t be unrung.
I think you’re just incompatible
Why don't you just ask him how he feels about her and if he sees a future? If he's unsure then let him know you would want to check it out but don't want to step on his toes. It'll either push him into it or he will back up. Either way it'll be more of a concrete idea instead of wishy washy ville.