It seems like you know what would be best for you, I hope you’re able to love yourself enough and build the confidence required to go through with it. You feelings are valid and if something controllable makes you uncomfortable, handle it. Good luck!
Oh gosh OP I know how you're feeling. I recently found a love letter from my bfs ex (from about 14 years ago). I don't know why I read it. I shouldn't have done it. I thought it would be just cutesy crap from a 20 year old but no, it was raunchy ?? and my dumbass read the whole thing. So I saw it all in black and white. It wasn't even that it was particularly good or adventurous sex. It was just a strange read. I should have stopped as soon as it looked like it was about to turn, but nope, like you I pushed on lol. Anyway, afterwards I'd get this weird niggly feeling everytime we had sex or he said he loved me. We usually have a totally sound relationship but this letter shook me to the core. I don't think you are being a little bitch, I think it's a jarring situation and abit disheartening. If you keep the lines of communication open then in time you will get over it. It doesn't mean he was better, it was obviously the spontaneity of it that made it a memory. You can capitalize of that information and bring some spontaneity into your sex life with her. Experiment with new toys, sex games, new places, role play etc. It will eventually get out of your head.
It sounds like you're spot on with your assessment of the situation, it's pretty much what I thought too. Personally, I don't think this is a relationship worth getting back into, and you'd be better off broken up. She can pine for her ex single if she wants.
It seems like you know what would be best for you, I hope you’re able to love yourself enough and build the confidence required to go through with it. You feelings are valid and if something controllable makes you uncomfortable, handle it. Good luck!
That's horrible . I'm glad your leaving
He at least deserves the chance to get help before being abandoned for his illness.
Oh gosh OP I know how you're feeling. I recently found a love letter from my bfs ex (from about 14 years ago). I don't know why I read it. I shouldn't have done it. I thought it would be just cutesy crap from a 20 year old but no, it was raunchy ?? and my dumbass read the whole thing. So I saw it all in black and white. It wasn't even that it was particularly good or adventurous sex. It was just a strange read. I should have stopped as soon as it looked like it was about to turn, but nope, like you I pushed on lol. Anyway, afterwards I'd get this weird niggly feeling everytime we had sex or he said he loved me. We usually have a totally sound relationship but this letter shook me to the core. I don't think you are being a little bitch, I think it's a jarring situation and abit disheartening. If you keep the lines of communication open then in time you will get over it. It doesn't mean he was better, it was obviously the spontaneity of it that made it a memory. You can capitalize of that information and bring some spontaneity into your sex life with her. Experiment with new toys, sex games, new places, role play etc. It will eventually get out of your head.
You're not supposed to have to beg your partner to be apart of their life.
It sounds like you're spot on with your assessment of the situation, it's pretty much what I thought too. Personally, I don't think this is a relationship worth getting back into, and you'd be better off broken up. She can pine for her ex single if she wants.
By all means make THEIR relationship all about YOU. News flash: they don’t need your permission to date. Try being supportive and happy for them.
I won’t update anymore, and even if she invited the strippers it’s still my fiancé that cheated
Aw man, you made the water works start again. Thank you ❤️