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Date: November 6, 2022
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At a bare minimum you need to cancel the wedding, you can't get married after this revelation. The only reason she told you is because she is likely being forced by her affair partner.
If you live together I would either insist she leaves while you consider the relationship, or move out if you aren't the owner.
I personally would end the relationship completely because you would never trust her again.
Sorry mate.
I’m baffled by the comment section. Is the new dating norm now that once you go on one date you own that person exclusivity until you clearly communicate that you don’t want to another date? Really? One date means being exclusive?
OP isn’t clear what “after the date” means. Could be hours or weeks. If it’s hours I understand the bf feeling weirded out.
However I don’t think exclusivity is usually established after the first date unless discussed. It’s about getting to know each other and seeing if you want a second date. No idea why people a so insulting to OP like she is a cheater here.
I’m also a bit concerned by the bfs actions. 1) he was secretly going through her phone 2) he is constantly bring it up, blaming her for cheating, 3) he calls her a cheater but doesn’t want to break up. And OP complied with the request of not being in the same place as the other guy again. The bf needs to get over it or break up. I wouldn’t say that if real cheating was involved but unless in OPs culture date=exclusive is the norm then it wasn’t cheating. If according to his morals they established exclusivity withe the first date then their morals don’t align and they are incompatible. However bringing it up all the time seems weird to me. That and going through her phone within the first few weeks of dating just doesn’t put him in the best light.
So can someone advise what I should do?
Move on from A and learn how to be a better partner.
It's not necessarily related to dryness. Sometimes it could be that the girl's anatomy just works that way, respective or not to the man's. Also her hormones could have been playing a role. Many men seem to turn deaf during the act, it isn't exactly that they're purposely being insensitive.
To the OP I'm sorry you went through this. But I think you should talk to him while NOT in the act and try to explain the concern. Then if he still seems like he won't listen you can know you have a problem to deal with.
Why would he have that fear?
This comment will probably be lost, but I'm gonna write anyway.
You need to put your engagement on hold indefinitely. He needs to come and talk to you in person, just the two of you. But you need to grow a shiny spine in the meantime. You're trying to be accommodating, which is great, but he is obviously not interested in compromising with you in return. In fact, he is making the decisions for the both of you, for your body and your intimate details, without even being in the same room as you.
Let that sink is. He is making decisions about your life and your body without your consent or foreknowledge.
Look, if it were me, I'd call the wedding off. I would never tolerate some geriatric biddy under the guise of religion to dictate my life. He would never come into my relationship and try to dictate what I do, let alone if my partner did what yours did. It could not be me.
But you may have also fallen into the trap of the sunk cost fallacy. That if you just stick it out, things will get better, they have to, because you've put so much time and effort into this relationship. That is not how a healthy relationship goes. That is how failed marriages go.
At the least, you need to sit down with him and talk about your core values together. And there are some things you may not want to budge on and you know what? That's okay. But poor, or no, communication especially when talking about your autonomy? You need to seriously think about all of this, full stop.
And it sounds like you're agnostic btw which is perfectly fine, but just wanted to let you know that term for future reference. Good luck.
I wasted time on few girls who can’t get better. You better off learning to love yourself more and do the things you want and along the way you will meet someone who can be on the same page
This is a minor subplot on the west wing
She is using you for emotional support, not mutual love and attraction. You are trying to earn her love and attraction. It isn't healthy. Move on and find someone who will love you for more than therapeutic support
Probably because stay at home men are shunned. Patriarchy and all that
This! And it’s something more people need to realize!
As a friend of 10 years, you can certainly gently tell him that you’re concerned for him based on what you’re seeing. Don’t expect it to do much though. But at least he’ll know how you feel
As someone who lives in the house and pays half the bills…. You can 100% tell him that the arguing she starts in the house is unacceptable and makes you uncomfortable in your home. Her leaving dishes in the sink…. A problem. This convo might not go well. Or it might go okay. Depends on how you approach it and your relationship with him.
I do think saying something would be a good idea. Approach it gently so he doesn’t get defensive
My husband did this to me a few years ago. I responded by first stopping all makeup wearing (I hate the stuff anyways and am much happier not dealing with it). Then for every comment he made I got rid of a piece of clothing he preferred but I didn’t care for and made sure he saw me get rid of it. I now only have clothing I want and like to wear, my closet it so much easier to manage, and my husband no longer cares how I dress. Of course he has come to the dark side with me and lives in sweatpants or basketball shorts, no longer caring what others think. We still dress appropriately for the event/situation when necessary but when it’s just us, we are very comfortable in our clothing choices. I realize this won’t work for everyone and probably not most, but this happened 5 years ago and I have so much happier dressing as my “shabby” self.
You could turn the tables on him and make comments about his clothing or haircut or facial hair or whatever. It’s petty and not the most mature action but it would show him how the comments hurt.
I've only been with my wife. I like it that way. I can't fathom having that many partners and not having a serious problem.
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this guy is disgusting and how can you even stay with him? either you're a troll or don't understand how disgusting this is
You really have to wonder if these questions are real, since everyone has the opportunity to not marry someone during this process called “dating”.
Her sudden change in behavior just freaks me out. I generally consider myself emotionally mature but with her I feel like I need to act like an idiot. It works. Being distant and cold towards her is more effective than just being me. The more I care for her the more we seem to drift apart and I feel incredibly uncomfortable with that.
Usually I’m not a cold or distanced guy at all. I care very much and it pains me to act this childish and stupid. She’s 20 and she’s never been in a relationship so maybe that’s that.
No offense but where do you all find these piece of shit guys? I would NEVER act that way towards a woman I love. Thats absolutely insane to me for someone to act that way and not put your feelings, wants, and needs before his. Leave his ass if he's not more considerate than that.
Your husband used you as an emotional crutch, and his pasted is coming back to haught yall. Divorce him and leave, you dont have kids together. Also, he may not be over his ex still, and now with their kid…….things may get worse. GTFO
I totally understand what you’re going through it. I’ve been there. This happened to me in the beginning of my relationship with my husband, and his parents absolutely hated me because he was constantly going to them about problems in our relationship at the time and vice versa because I had no choice but to go to my parents because I had no one to talk to at the time and hadn’t started therapy.
I know that this is confusing to you now, but I can tell you what is happening and it hopefully clarifies things. The most likely reason this is happening is because the things your boyfriend has been telling them are very negative things about you. He is feeding them verbal garbage about your relationship and making you out to be the bad guy. While I can’t tell you exactly what he’s saying (since I obviously don’t know lol), I recognize exactly what you’re going through because I have been through it.
When my in-laws started to have disdain for me, it turns out that my husband had been going to them anytime we had problems. He would portray me as a really bad person to them to the point where they were trying to talk him into breaking up with me.
This did not stop until we came to an agreement that we would no longer run to our relatives or friends about our relationship problems. This is the only thing that improved this because running to other people was completely tearing apart our relationship.
Your boyfriend is definitely lying because there is no other place this could have come from than him, and I know this because my husband told me the same thing. He said he didn’t know what their problem was and swore he never told them anything. Later on, when our relationship completely improved, he finally admitted that he actually did and knew why they were treating me that way.
Whatever he has been telling them is the source of this. If he doesn’t stop running to your friends and alienating you from them, you’re going to have no choice but to put your foot down or to end the relationship if he doesn’t listen when you tell him it has to stop.
You're 18.
Let me give you some advice I wish I would have heard when I was 18.
Don't date girlfriends that make you feel bad. Especially ones that don't act like your girlfriend when you're not around.
I dont think its that OP expects him to pay their bills so much as expects him not to blow 1000 freaking dollars on some person outside of his relationship when OP is his partner and should be the only one he's spoiling like that. OP's financial situation is most likely just what is triggering these feelings and the easiest to latch on to and complain about, when realistically what they really want is to be cherished and thought about like he's obviously doing for his best friend.
Are you in the southern US? Because this sounds like sex ed never happened for him…
Also, leave his ass. You deserve better.
Yeah the toothbrushes are just put together in one cup
You mean all the door slams..
I've gotta be honest… it doesn't feel like it. I feel really shell-shocked & confused. I mean, I know how all of this sounds, but, I thought everything was mostly okay. She never once hinted that she was displeased with my appearance in the slightest.
Having roommates surely presents an impediment to your spontaneity. So if you haven't considered that the lack of privacy is putting a dent in her libido you should probably recognize that. You can be the “best boyfriend” in the world and be “mad into her body” but if other people can hear you having sex it's no wonder you're not having more of it. One can only be so spontaneous when they have to make sure the apartment is empty before they begin.
My advice is to stop having physical intimacy for an extended period of time. There is something deeply troubling about how non-chalantly you both are spreading disease in the community and between each-other, and that is a clear sign you are not respecting your personal health. Maybe figure out why you are seeking so much affirmation from others instead of finding it in yourself. Truth be told, sounds like you two should just stick with each other and save the rest of us the headache and sores
Oh ya i did too, especially when she cried. But dont falter. Those are not “i am sorry i will change and be a different person” tears. They never are. They are just sad they have to face consequences for their selfish actions.
Man fuck her. Literally. I’m all for everyone having a past etc, and everyone can do what the fuck they want. But shagging someone, knowing they have a family, is just as bad as being the cheater in my opinion
I'm cool with losing drip, though it is such an effective way to describe this sort of fellow.
That said, can we please teach people what gaslighting, narcissism, and clout actually mean? Because they are so fucking confused!
I cannot stand people who prefer to ask for forgiveness than ask permission.
They know the answer would be “no” so they just choose to do the objectionable action(s) then beg forgiveness later.
This lying male human deserves to be dumped at the very least.
(What he really deserves is to be permanently attached on every level to the minx he definitely cheated with.)
You did all the sacfricing and not only that but I'm sure OP's wife is still thinking “who gonna take care of the children during recovery?”.
What do you mean take him seriously? It’s the man’s house, he can send her out packing in a second…
What is this idea of oh we need to wear white gloves around the person that started it in the first place?
I read some of the posts and don’t even understand how is it possible…and then someone responds you should act like you did something wrong and more baffled about it
He’s probably told lies about you and acted like you’re the villain to make himself look better and that you deserve to be treated cruelly.
If him being distracted buys you a chance to escape, then don’t tell her until after you left and found safety. Up to her whether to believe you or not.
Don’t stick around, hoping he will get better. He might end up killing you. You shouldn’t be worried about her right now, put yourself first.
Please get out asap. Do you have family you can stay with? Get help from any women shelters in your area?
Why did she say she hates him?
I had been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and anxiety years ago and took anti-psychotic medication and anxiety medicine (plus therapy)for many years. You can get better. Turns out I was being mentally, emotionally and financially abused by my narcissistic mother. I went no contact four years ago and literally after the second year I noticed I was feeling better than I had in many years and stopped taking the meds. I’ve been off the medication for a few years now and I’m doing really well. I say all of this to let you know you can get better, it’s totally possible. Find a therapist and/or groups that will teach you coping skills. I still get a bit of breakthrough depression once in a while but I utilize the skills I learned to this day. We tend to run through made up scenarios in our minds during an episode and things seem worse than they are. It takes practice to retrain our brain. May I also recommend going on YouTube and lookup Abraham-Hicks (meditation). Her teachings actually helped save me. You got this! Hang in there.
How often does he have the little girl?
No! Don’t reduce it to every other month!
This is like you liking to take regular baths to relax and he telling you to only take showers from now on.
Or you like jam on toast for breakfast and he tells you to only eat cheese from now on.
Don’t let him change who you are!
It is common to get a false positive in pregnancy. That number makes me suspect very strongly it's a “biologic false positive”. There is a reason they tell you not to get too worked up until the confirmation.
youre 22. Your mom shouldnt be saying that to you. Thats her opinion only. Im sure youll meet many other guys that are great.
For their patients. And the support groups would usually be outside of hospice and a resource given by a grief counselor (for their patients and patients' family) outside of the hospice agency. They can connect them, if they aren't on their service, maybe. But if they are not on hospice there's not much they can do outside of share resources available. I did explain a bit in my previous comment on a bit of the definition on hospice and how OP mentioned they weren't giving up treatment yet which would mean they couldn't go on hospice. Source: worked in hospice.
ofcourse her mother would be mad, but she will know what to do to get her help. ive been in many situations like this, best thing is to tell the parents. u need someone to get her the help she needs