I am so sorry that this happened to you. This is so disheartening, and I don’t understand why it would make things more complicated if he’s living with your friend, especially when your relationship would be private. I’m wondering if there’s more to things- like maybe he has feelings for your friend too? I’m not sure what else there could be that would logically make sense.
My best advice for you would be to work on letting this one go. You will find someone who cares about you and will reciprocate your feelings, I promise. Sometimes things don’t work out the way we wish they would, and that really sucks sometimes. I feel so bad that this happened because these kinds of feelings can be overwhelming, but you will find someone. He may not be your friend’s roommate, but the person you’re meant to be with is out there.
I’m sorry to say but a girl who’s 20 will never be ready to live with a guy. I don’t know and can’t comment on male’s perspective but I was 20 living with a bf once and it was a nightmare. Just try to understand that relationships now are not what they used to. Moving in quickly together is the road to breaking up. You clearly haven’t discussed boundaries, schedules, ambitions or any future plans.
Your relationship is over. He clearly is angry about how you wanna handle it and there’s no relationship between you and he probably feels like he doesn’t like you very much right now. I would just make the decisions you need to live with it. I would make sure you don’t get pregnant again with the next guy you’re with.
Also I literally stated he had plenty of other porn lots of straight porn of all types of kinks that i dont care about:) I don’t even particularly care about the sissy porn, if thats all it is porn. However from my knowledge of the sissy community it is a very much lifestyle thing. Thats why I included the bit about messages, because I can live with it however its already clearly more than just porn.
Im looking for advice on if I should even bring it up to him:)
You're not required to do anything you don't want to ever. It doesn't matter if he wants it, likes it, cries about it, or even leaves over it. The fact that you're completely miserable and uncomfortable and he pushes you anyway is coercion and it's fucking horrible. Even worse is when you do “give in” he crosses your boundaries by finishing. So it's obvious he doesn't give a single shit about you as a person or how you feel. Anyone that treats you like this doesn't deserve to be in your life. I refuse to do things I hate or make me uncomfortable, and I've had no problem finding a partner who respects that, you will find one too. BJs are not a requirement, men won't die without them and you don't owe anyone the use of your body. Do not take him back
What is the difference then between him dating with these women against dating you?.
What would make you think it isn't rape?
I am so sorry that this happened to you. This is so disheartening, and I don’t understand why it would make things more complicated if he’s living with your friend, especially when your relationship would be private. I’m wondering if there’s more to things- like maybe he has feelings for your friend too? I’m not sure what else there could be that would logically make sense.
My best advice for you would be to work on letting this one go. You will find someone who cares about you and will reciprocate your feelings, I promise. Sometimes things don’t work out the way we wish they would, and that really sucks sometimes. I feel so bad that this happened because these kinds of feelings can be overwhelming, but you will find someone. He may not be your friend’s roommate, but the person you’re meant to be with is out there.
I’m sorry to say but a girl who’s 20 will never be ready to live with a guy. I don’t know and can’t comment on male’s perspective but I was 20 living with a bf once and it was a nightmare. Just try to understand that relationships now are not what they used to. Moving in quickly together is the road to breaking up. You clearly haven’t discussed boundaries, schedules, ambitions or any future plans.
Your relationship is over. He clearly is angry about how you wanna handle it and there’s no relationship between you and he probably feels like he doesn’t like you very much right now. I would just make the decisions you need to live with it. I would make sure you don’t get pregnant again with the next guy you’re with.
If you pay rent you’re a renter. They don’t set rules for renters
Also I literally stated he had plenty of other porn lots of straight porn of all types of kinks that i dont care about:) I don’t even particularly care about the sissy porn, if thats all it is porn. However from my knowledge of the sissy community it is a very much lifestyle thing. Thats why I included the bit about messages, because I can live with it however its already clearly more than just porn.
Im looking for advice on if I should even bring it up to him:)
Drop her. She’s cheating on her fiancé AND is probably jealous of you getting interest from guys. It’s not quirky. It’s not cute. It’s wrong.
You're not required to do anything you don't want to ever. It doesn't matter if he wants it, likes it, cries about it, or even leaves over it. The fact that you're completely miserable and uncomfortable and he pushes you anyway is coercion and it's fucking horrible. Even worse is when you do “give in” he crosses your boundaries by finishing. So it's obvious he doesn't give a single shit about you as a person or how you feel. Anyone that treats you like this doesn't deserve to be in your life. I refuse to do things I hate or make me uncomfortable, and I've had no problem finding a partner who respects that, you will find one too. BJs are not a requirement, men won't die without them and you don't owe anyone the use of your body. Do not take him back
Maybe try switching to another ring? The only other option available is Nuvaring