I dated someone I didn’t have anything in common with.
Completely different ethnic and socioeconomic, different levels of education, fields, different hobbies and passions, different food preferences, and heck, they don’t even drink. And I love drinking!
But we had a great rapport and we laughed all the time together. We understood each other and were strong in areas the other was weak in. We were enthusiastic to learn about each other and support each other. Generally, it worked for a long while.
The reason it didn’t was because we had incompatible views on raising children. I never wanted any. She was unsure.. until she was sure. That was the dealbreaker.
So, I think it can work if you align on the important stuff and both are committed to it.
That said… are you in a place to date? My philosophy is that you don’t have to be over an ex completely. You just have to be ready to date. And sometimes, it’s the dating that helps you get over the ex.
If he makes you feel good, I say why not? Just be super open and honest with where you at emotionally, and don’t rush anything. He could be a rebound. He could be something more. Up to you if you want to find out.
Yes, i proposed 6 months ago, but i never wanted to do the wedding thing. Just propose, get marry on civil and travel. I don't like parties, i think they're a waste of money tbh
It sounds like you are going through a very difficult and painful situation. It's clear that you care deeply for your girlfriend and have been doing your best to support her during this time. However, it's also understandable that the constant emotional strain and focus on her problems is taking a toll on you.
It's important to remember that you are not responsible for fixing your girlfriend's problems or being her sole support system. While it's admirable that you have been there for her, it's also important to prioritize your own well-being and mental health.
Breaking up with someone is never easy, especially when you still love them. But it's important to remember that ending a relationship doesn't mean you stop caring about the person or that their struggles are any less valid. It simply means that you have recognized that the relationship is no longer healthy or sustainable for both parties.
It might be helpful for you to talk to a therapist or counselor about your feelings and how to move forward. They can provide support and guidance during this difficult time. Additionally, it might be helpful to talk to your girlfriend about how you are feeling and try to come up with a plan for both of you to prioritize your own well-being and mental health.
Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish. It's necessary for your own health and happiness, and it can also benefit your loved ones in the long run.
You 100% need couple's counseling. Don't get that and you're headed for a divorce.
It's hard for a man to rationalize a miscarriage. I have been through it but it took a long long time for me to understand what was physically and emotionally happening. I will 1000% guarantee I would have never asked for a blow job during that time.
But, you need yo get him to understand and also for you to understand what the fuck he's thinking asking for a BJ a week after. As for him walking off like that, he's either a complete obtuse asshole or he doesn't understand his feeling.
How old are you both?
Why would being married after 8 years be a hurry? What does you being married mean in regards to your career? What’s it stopping?
You’re telling her you like her at the healthy weight?new clothes sound like a good idea to me
Beards look cool but are itchy. Is short hair on your head itchy? No
This sounds just like my ex who also worked a manual labor job.
It doesn’t get better. Don’t have kids with him, for the love of all things holy. It gets worse.
I dated someone I didn’t have anything in common with.
Completely different ethnic and socioeconomic, different levels of education, fields, different hobbies and passions, different food preferences, and heck, they don’t even drink. And I love drinking!
But we had a great rapport and we laughed all the time together. We understood each other and were strong in areas the other was weak in. We were enthusiastic to learn about each other and support each other. Generally, it worked for a long while.
The reason it didn’t was because we had incompatible views on raising children. I never wanted any. She was unsure.. until she was sure. That was the dealbreaker.
So, I think it can work if you align on the important stuff and both are committed to it.
That said… are you in a place to date? My philosophy is that you don’t have to be over an ex completely. You just have to be ready to date. And sometimes, it’s the dating that helps you get over the ex.
If he makes you feel good, I say why not? Just be super open and honest with where you at emotionally, and don’t rush anything. He could be a rebound. He could be something more. Up to you if you want to find out.
Yes, i proposed 6 months ago, but i never wanted to do the wedding thing. Just propose, get marry on civil and travel. I don't like parties, i think they're a waste of money tbh
I would also suggest this
It sounds like you are going through a very difficult and painful situation. It's clear that you care deeply for your girlfriend and have been doing your best to support her during this time. However, it's also understandable that the constant emotional strain and focus on her problems is taking a toll on you.
It's important to remember that you are not responsible for fixing your girlfriend's problems or being her sole support system. While it's admirable that you have been there for her, it's also important to prioritize your own well-being and mental health.
Breaking up with someone is never easy, especially when you still love them. But it's important to remember that ending a relationship doesn't mean you stop caring about the person or that their struggles are any less valid. It simply means that you have recognized that the relationship is no longer healthy or sustainable for both parties.
It might be helpful for you to talk to a therapist or counselor about your feelings and how to move forward. They can provide support and guidance during this difficult time. Additionally, it might be helpful to talk to your girlfriend about how you are feeling and try to come up with a plan for both of you to prioritize your own well-being and mental health.
Remember, taking care of yourself is not selfish. It's necessary for your own health and happiness, and it can also benefit your loved ones in the long run.
Pennywise would have better taste in lovers.
You 100% need couple's counseling. Don't get that and you're headed for a divorce.
It's hard for a man to rationalize a miscarriage. I have been through it but it took a long long time for me to understand what was physically and emotionally happening. I will 1000% guarantee I would have never asked for a blow job during that time.
But, you need yo get him to understand and also for you to understand what the fuck he's thinking asking for a BJ a week after. As for him walking off like that, he's either a complete obtuse asshole or he doesn't understand his feeling.
You both need counseling now.