Do exactly what she asked for, OP. Show her some empathy.
It sounds like you are bitter and jealous that your mother is upset about something trivial, when she has more assets and disposable income than you do. You clearly think she made her own bed and now she deserves to lie in it, since she made the dumb financial decision to get the lease in the first place. But surely, even so, you can understand why she might be feeling upset, worried about what happens next, and probably a bit angry with both herself and the dealership. She probably AGREES with you at this point that she shouldn't have allowed herself to be talked into the lease.
So really, how hard is it to say “Aww Mom, I'm so sorry. That really sucks. This is turning into a real Catch-22 situation, isn't it? But don't worry, one way or another everything will work out and you'll get your car back…or else a brand new one.”
None of the empathy you show your mother will detract from the fact that you think you have REAL problems in your own life, concerns that are much more valid than what she's dithering on about. You can continue to think that, and still be kind and supportive to your mother while she is going through an unexpected crisis.
Even without speaking each other's language, it is possible to communicate with a smile. You call having a visitor for a week “brutal”? Whatever happened to being a generous, gracious host and making room for one of the most important people in the life of the person you love?
My best man and ushers thought they’d prank me on my wedding day. I had a cream coloured tux (pls don’t judge!) and the guys all had dark brown. We all had matching dark brown bow ties. Just before the ceremony my cousin, one of the ushers shows up with a red bow tie suggesting the tux rental place messed up! I just said, no problem, I’d swap with him and they’d still all match and I would wear the red one and stand out even more. Their faces all wilted and he pulled the brown one out of his pocket. I suggested he should wear the red one, but he decided to go conventional.
He doesn't tell her she's not attractive enough. It's actually the opposite. He doesn't tell her to go to the gym to meet his standards either…????
I am sorry, you deserve better. Divorce him
That's a great and secure way to respond.
Do exactly what she asked for, OP. Show her some empathy.
It sounds like you are bitter and jealous that your mother is upset about something trivial, when she has more assets and disposable income than you do. You clearly think she made her own bed and now she deserves to lie in it, since she made the dumb financial decision to get the lease in the first place. But surely, even so, you can understand why she might be feeling upset, worried about what happens next, and probably a bit angry with both herself and the dealership. She probably AGREES with you at this point that she shouldn't have allowed herself to be talked into the lease.
So really, how hard is it to say “Aww Mom, I'm so sorry. That really sucks. This is turning into a real Catch-22 situation, isn't it? But don't worry, one way or another everything will work out and you'll get your car back…or else a brand new one.”
None of the empathy you show your mother will detract from the fact that you think you have REAL problems in your own life, concerns that are much more valid than what she's dithering on about. You can continue to think that, and still be kind and supportive to your mother while she is going through an unexpected crisis.
This guy sounds exhausting. You know you can just break up with him right? Free yourself!
Even without speaking each other's language, it is possible to communicate with a smile. You call having a visitor for a week “brutal”? Whatever happened to being a generous, gracious host and making room for one of the most important people in the life of the person you love?
hahaha perhaps. We're quite open with each other tho so seems unlikely. Why do you feel so strongly about this?
My best man and ushers thought they’d prank me on my wedding day. I had a cream coloured tux (pls don’t judge!) and the guys all had dark brown. We all had matching dark brown bow ties. Just before the ceremony my cousin, one of the ushers shows up with a red bow tie suggesting the tux rental place messed up! I just said, no problem, I’d swap with him and they’d still all match and I would wear the red one and stand out even more. Their faces all wilted and he pulled the brown one out of his pocket. I suggested he should wear the red one, but he decided to go conventional.
What does he say about all this? Does he laugh? Is he sad? Is he willing to get help?