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Pets don't forget people just because they don't see them in a while. They remember years later.
Question. Is a date with another man not cheating?
Four years is long enough to figure out whether you should be married. If you don’t have enough information to make a decision, then go to a counselor, and maybe spend the next few months putting work into figuring it out.
Honestly, even doing an exercise like writing down your opinions on finances, house purchase, location you want to live, career goals, number of children, etc. etc. Might give you an idea if you’re on the same page or not.
Just telling her you need more time at this point is leading her on. If marriage is important to her, and you’re not sure that she’s the right person then let her go.
You've been together 4 years (living together for the past year). That should be sufficient time and experience to know whether you can commit to marriage.
but it feels like we are still discovering something new about one another
I don't see that as a problem. On the contrary, your relationship could become boring if you know everything there is to know about the other person.
or we encounter a difficult situation between us that we don't know how to navigate comfortably
But do you ultimately manage to resolve the situation with a good (or at least neutral) outcome? If so, then it's okay to occasionally have difficult situations that make one or both of you uncomfortable; it means you are able to communicate with each other to make the relationship work.
I don't want to get married only to find that we generally just don't agree with one another.
You ought to know by now whether you “generally” don't agree with one another. More time is unlikely to change that.
Every adult in my life has been through a really rough divorce and I really would just love to avoid that.
Don't let the relationship troubles of others intrude on your relationship.
What you're seeking is absolute certainty, but you're not going to get it.
Bring it up.
If somehing bothers you, even if it's minor, you have the rigth to bring it up. Politely obviously. Simply tell him that you couldn't help but notice that he looks at her on socials quite a lot and express how it makes you feel.
Your girlfriend needs a licensed professional more than she needs a boyfriend right now. Clawing, grabbing, pushing, and holding you hostage should be a deal breaker for you.
Your fears are normal and valid. But so is your progress. Some people just don’t find a partner until later and that’s totally fine (sometimes better). Just do your thing and you’ll meet people along the way!
As soon as you like, he called it off, you don’t owe him anything.
BUT, keeping the above in mind, you’re still friends with him. Do you still want to stay friends, or don’t really care? Is he apart of a wider friend group? Do you know he’ll cause drama and put them in a bad position? While there’s literally no actual rule or reason to wait, if for whatever reason that friendship is important to you, you probably should until things settle down a bit.
Your username makes this even better lmao
I always had “the one” that I wondered about. We were sweethearts at a young age and broke up and I thought of him often. We tried again in our early twenties – it was great at first, and then the same issues arose and I ended things. But for some reason I still was like “what if” and he contacted me and said all the right things, how it was gonna be perfect and different so we tried again in our mid twenties. Third time was a charm and I saw it for what it was, he was just an idiot, same issues came up after the romance period and we broke up.
Honestly, in our heads I think we romanticise these “lost loves” and imagine it’s going to be perfect. But the reality is, it’s not.
In your case, the guy was happy enough to tell you to your face he didn’t want to marry you. Imagine choosing to inflict that kind of hurt on the person you’re seeing. He didn’t want to marry you, and he didn’t mince his words when asked.
Now he is married with kids.
So two things. A) You need to accept he wasn’t that into you, he plainly said he didn’t want to marry you. B) He’s married with kids and very unlikely to leave them to be with the girl he didn’t even want to marry in the first place.
My advice – and you already know this OP – delete him from everywhere. Don’t let yourself keep looking at his social media’s. Don’t forget people only post the best version of themselves on social media so not only are you constantly looking at his life, you’re looking at the glossy “picture perfect” version he posts.
My other advice is throw your everything at your husband and family to make that work. If you’re not happy with your husband perhaps you need to make a plan to leave.
Either way. You need to stop chasing unicorns, they don’t exist.
You meaN aromantic? Or u smell bad?. Check the word you are using.
Yeah im not going to tone it down. Its not like im wearing my more spicy clothes around him anyway.
You didn’t understand a thing, did you?
You don’t even know what caused or break up, why are you so quick to defend her side and criticize me for feeling things that i can’t stop feeling?
Yes
Im sorry to hear that.Maybe it's a sign that the spark is gone…or maybe it will pass. But you can't force yourself not to think about it.
It's only a joke if everyone is laughing. Maybe look at your mode of communication and see if being sarcastic and 'silly' is worth causing upset to those around you.
You need to go else you are impliedly opening the door for them to have alone time.
Anywhere she is, make sure you are blocking her view of him
Gah! The worst. Steer clear as much as possible.
Pretend to be toxic to spice things up? This is insane advice.
I need some details. Who initiated the separation and what was the reason? From what you've written your marriage exists only on paper. You don't have any real relationship outside of that. I gather there are children involved. Save EVERYONE a lot of heartache and legally DIVORCE. Set limits and boundaries for yourself and DO only communicate with him about things concerning the logistics of co-parenting. End this farce because it does no good to anyone.
For what it's worth, I'm sorry. This has to be stressful as hell, and the miscarriages also have to be so hard.
Sounds like you have your priority, then. Try looking into other countries, may be cheaper or some other options that can work for you. Have you looked into grants? Two years is a short timeline, there's no way to extend it as that's a health risk?
I'd hope you'd tiger mom it for sure. But I'm also worried about YOU. I think you probably didn't think you could do better, had rose-colored glasses, and were afraid of change/ losing someone you love (and love isn't always healthy, and sure doesn't always make sense). But you can control how you move forward. I hope you can teach your child to do better than the father, and I don't blame you one iota for how he treats you or his inability to change. But you also have to temper this with your best interests.
I think knowing your timeline, need and limitations here, if you do have a baby with him give him a firm “you do THIS without me telling you. You shape up right gd NOW or we're done” and once he, regrettably almost inevitably can't be a decent partner or adult, you get out. You and your kid.
I wish you the best of luck. But please please please, even if you have a kid with him, do not stay with him. He has already had 15 years to change. He has demonstrated he cannot, long term. He'll just suck you in again and disappoint you. There's someone out there for you, he ain't it
Met my spouse at work…risk it.
I’m female… and yet somehow I’m still not in your side?
Reading your replies… block her. She wants attention and that’s why she started by blocking and then unblocking you and then asking to be friends and now being terrible to you. You’re broken up. She doesn’t sound like someone who is your friend. Take your agency back and block her.
Is this a hill to die on? Apologize and move on. Maybe she overreacted, but still a fk up on your part.
Chalk him up in the losers category. Normal guy would have been thrilled with what you wanted
Honey, he is going to assault you or worse, and soon…please be extra vigilant and NEVER be alone with him EVER. Keep that door locked and any communication is to be done through text ONLY. His aggression and entitlement to your body is a flaming red flag, please please PLEAAE don’t unlock your door to ‘talk’ no matter how much he begs.
He's a 29 year old acting like a child. Good grown men don't yell at their partners over bs.
Tbh the gaming or sleeping monitoring is a bit weird. Who cares? You kind of made a none issue an issue. It's pretty immature and drama for no reason. That being said, him yelling at you was WAY over the top. He could have calmly explained himself. Instead he flipped out. Bit of a red flag.
This relationship doesn't sound healthy.
OP listen to this^
She seems to have no intention of returning. If she leaves get new cards for the other 4 accounts and when her fun money runs out and she calls you, you tell her she has to return and go to therapy or leave the relationship altogether. You don't deserve this and neither does your daughter. Tell your inlaws and your family what's happening and if she leaves rethink your relationship and if it's worth staying with someone who would abandon you and your child.
Having consensual safe sex isn’t a ‘lack of morals’. Do you even like this girl?…
Lmao just saw that.. sooo OP are u married or not?
If u are im saying go dump the poopster for the ex! He's closer to ur age anyway!
Wtf is wrong with ppl ??♀️
Sorry but it shouldn’t be that hard…..Why would you want to stay with a guy who has caused you nothing but drama and clearly DOESNT love you?
As a guy I can tell you these bad boy types never change and you’re in for a life of heartbreak, never ending drama and quite possibly at some point he’ll end up on the wrong side of the law and people will judge you for staying with him
Why would you want that kind of life?
Make smarter choices OP and walk away
The double standards in these comments, smh
I have had a lot of surgeries some were major requiring general anesthesia. In some I was give drugs that don’t put you total under it called twilight sleeps. Those surgeries were usually outpatient and carry less risk etc. you seriously can’t be comparing a few simple cuts to knocking someone out cutting thought layers of skin tissue muscles then removing a part of their body and then sewing them backup. But again this back and forth doesn’t matter in this case until they decide what there future will look like. And op said he was Will to have the procedure. If they get to a better place again he should be the one to take on the burden of a medical procedure as a form of birth control. He’s not child less he has 3 kids even if they break up down the road, it’s not he would lose a chance to be a father.
I feel like you see your three kids as your ex wifes kids and not yours, since you want to have the ability to make a new family with someone else in the future. Seem like you’re willing to abandon the kids you already have for the possible future ones.
Yes.. I think this is what is the worst for me. Not giving me a choice and keeping it hidden until I was trapped so the choice got taken away and she is admitting to it now only when she thinks the chance of divorce is lower.
I just wonder why after 3 years she tells me. If she went that long why not just keep it to herself. I mean I’m glad she told me in a way but it’s like shocking now.
Not abusive yet. Looks like abusers turn after the kid is born
he'll come home late
he's avoiding you now
Spot on. This sounds like a classic personality disorder. Manipulation is all she knows, which is sad but that’s how it is with these types.
Another by the front door. If she ignores that, don't blame an undiagnosed condition.
Your last paragraph is spot on. One thing so many young women don’t know is that these things aren’t rational or logical exactly as you said. It doesn’t make them dumb, they just lack the experience so they don’t know that other relationships are not like this. I was the same way & my ex boyfriend at 16-18 was just the same. He started like this & I ended up with no friends & isolating everybody but him, including my mom & sister. I felt so shitty about myself all the time. I didn’t have the courage to break up with him for good for about 18 months after the control started.
The last thing that anyone needs is months & months of living hell. OP, it will only escalate from here.
Am I exaggerating and being too paranoid?
What?
Neither.
Your bf is doing something illegal. The likelihood is, he'll get caught (honestly, this is probably the best outcome rather than ending up dead by his 'circle').
So if you're staying with him due to 'love,' be prepared to be a single parent when the time comes. And to expose your future child(ren) to an absent parent due to him doing his stint in jail.
Or he can get in and out of prison all the times. Just imagine the bond $ you'll have keep fronting too.
Also, if he does something bad, or/and the higher up decide to 'sacrifice' him to set an example, I will not even exclude the possibility of him losing his life over this. And the sad part is, you may even lose your life too and if you have kids at this point, them losing their lives. So yeah, short lives for all of you is not an 'out there' possibility.
We’re friends without benefits (haven’t had sex since our initial break up) and I encourage him to go on dates with other girls if that changes anything
nope. please don't try to justify his actions or rationalize away what he did to avoid further conflict/confrontation. this dude doesn't respect you or give a shit about you. no self-respecting man would do this in a relationship.
I feel for you bro best luck
thank you
This is the answer. My parents are Life360 parents too.
Truthfully, I just turned it off one day while I was at college and blamed it on internet. I’d turn it back on when I returned home for holidays, but then eventually I just…kept it off. And they didn’t say anything about it because by then they were used to not checking where I was 4 hours away in a town they were unfamiliar with lol. At the end of the day they can’t control how you use your phone or how you protect your data!
Maybe see if you can taper them off slowly. If you have an iPhone you can set the location data to only be used if YOU (the holder) has the app open. Then it won’t background refresh. Highly recommend you do this.
Or take some agency and say you’re done. That’s what my sister did, and after she deleted the app, it was just…over with. Think of it like ripping off a bandaid!
What is it that you want?
Buy your own house