I have a hug for you. His arms are not the place to be anymore. You decide where you want to be and what you want to be doing, and start taking the steps. You can do it!
You should not be going through with IVF unless you as an individual absolutely 100% want to do it. No one should be pressuring you into it, the potential father included. Find a way to communicate that to him – a conversation, an email, a handwritten letter, whatever it needs to be. He needs to understand how you feel, and he needs to accept it. If he can't accept it, you shouldn't be having children with him anyway. I'm sorry you're struggling, and for the situation you're in. I hope it works out ok.
I mean yes it could lead to cheating. But that depends on your partner. It doesn’t sound like he’s loyal if he was snapchatting women at the start of your relationship. And trust me, cheaters make time. He could be doing it at work or when you step away for things. They’re sneaky.
She's gotta learn to communicate her issues then. Maybe she feels like she wasn't safe to, or you weren't receptive to open and honest communication, but that's still not an excuse to do what she was doing. Sounds like she needs therapy and a lot of work on her self esteem. Just don't sacrifice yourself to sunken cost fallacy. I get the kid aspect, trust me. It's tough. But this situation is a major uphill battle for you. Good luck
You are young, I didn't meet my husband until my mid twenties and we became friends first, then best friends and then more. It's the best because I'm married to my best friend.
After reading this it looks like you guys aren't compatible, and although you care about it, you'll meet someone in the future that will absolutely share your interests. Personally I'd move on, make friends and see what comes from it!
And don't get together with someone who's having a competition with his friends on getting laid, that's very disrespectful to you, and frankly, immature as hell.
I have a hug for you. His arms are not the place to be anymore. You decide where you want to be and what you want to be doing, and start taking the steps. You can do it!
You should not be going through with IVF unless you as an individual absolutely 100% want to do it. No one should be pressuring you into it, the potential father included. Find a way to communicate that to him – a conversation, an email, a handwritten letter, whatever it needs to be. He needs to understand how you feel, and he needs to accept it. If he can't accept it, you shouldn't be having children with him anyway. I'm sorry you're struggling, and for the situation you're in. I hope it works out ok.
I mean yes it could lead to cheating. But that depends on your partner. It doesn’t sound like he’s loyal if he was snapchatting women at the start of your relationship. And trust me, cheaters make time. He could be doing it at work or when you step away for things. They’re sneaky.
She's gotta learn to communicate her issues then. Maybe she feels like she wasn't safe to, or you weren't receptive to open and honest communication, but that's still not an excuse to do what she was doing. Sounds like she needs therapy and a lot of work on her self esteem. Just don't sacrifice yourself to sunken cost fallacy. I get the kid aspect, trust me. It's tough. But this situation is a major uphill battle for you. Good luck
I got tired only by reading this, god.
You are young, I didn't meet my husband until my mid twenties and we became friends first, then best friends and then more. It's the best because I'm married to my best friend.
After reading this it looks like you guys aren't compatible, and although you care about it, you'll meet someone in the future that will absolutely share your interests. Personally I'd move on, make friends and see what comes from it!
And don't get together with someone who's having a competition with his friends on getting laid, that's very disrespectful to you, and frankly, immature as hell.
Wish you the best!