I don't see why they couldn't be sent directly. I can't guarantee you wouldn't need contact, but you could file for a no contact order which might help. Pressing charges against him for animal cruelty could also get your other cat back assuming she's still safe and a police officer should escort you to go get her if that's the case.
I don’t think you both are meant to be. I mean, yes, you are the AH for wanting the apartment. But I don’t think this is about the apartment. Not really. You want to be number 1. But you know you aren’t. You’re feeling like Plan B. And maybe you are.
You deserve to be number 1. I don’t think this will work.
Remove the disability from this post and it is simply a case of two people whose goals have changed. You now want children – that is a big change and it’s ok to end a relationship when goals change. It’s not an issue you can compromise on. Good luck.
Who cares what he does your not together anymore and distance yourself from your ex. Close the chapter and move on, you broke up for a reason and any guy you date in the future is going to see you and your ex being friends and having lunch together as a glaring red flag.
Since this is the highest upvoted comments, I just wanted to say…this feels a bit harsh. I'd wager a good portion of jobs do not include bonus structures in their compensation plans. Many people have never negotiated salaries or bonus packages, so it feels unfair to say she's dumb.
A third option of she is unaware that bonuses aren't gifts and reacted emotionally at the idea of having to save alone seems entirely plausible.
Suppose you do go out with her, and it develops into something. When happens when (like all couples who have occasional arguments) she is mad at you for the first time in the relationship? How will your mind be able to separate the negativity and/or hostility, no matter how temporary, from those school days when the bullies were hostile toward you? Everytime you have an argument with your gf, it will probably bring it all back. Also, is she friends with any of these other former bullies in her present adult life? If so, you will eventually and likely regularly cross paths with them too.
This coming from a guy who's in his early 20s, unlikely to have real relationship experience, and has anime photos as his profile pictures. You also describe yourself as a 'Muslim', although a 'very bad one'. I don't think you're someone who should be dishing out comments on morality or relationship.
Heartworms are a terribly slow and painful way for a dog to inevitably die. The treatment for Heartworms is incredibly expensive and hard on the dog.
Lyme disease can destroy motor function in the hind quarters and causes extreme pain and lethargy.
Fleas transmit tapeworms and the bites can go septic. A flea infestation will affect everyone in your home and cost thousands to rid, if it gets bad enough.
Please. Please. Use preventatives. Way better in the long run.
That being said, avoid cheap brands like Hartz, they cause more harm than good.
OP -What are you looking for here? I would never let anyone tell me what to wear. This is not a good foot for you two to get off on…..he's controlling your wardrobe at 19? Who TF does he think he is, your husband?
“However, I'm very dependent on him and value his opinion a lot.” Does he pay your way thru this life? Does he pay your rent or bills? Why are you so dependent on a man who thinks he's gotta control your wardrobe? Because you let him control that, you'll let him control anything.
It's your life, OP. You do what you like and if allowing him to control your wardrobe is okay with you, then have at it. But I can tell you his controlling probably won't stop at your wardrobe.
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I don't see why they couldn't be sent directly. I can't guarantee you wouldn't need contact, but you could file for a no contact order which might help. Pressing charges against him for animal cruelty could also get your other cat back assuming she's still safe and a police officer should escort you to go get her if that's the case.
I’ve been with my SO for 21 years. I still feel that way most times. He is so good in the bed I’m always dtf. lol.
I don’t think you both are meant to be. I mean, yes, you are the AH for wanting the apartment. But I don’t think this is about the apartment. Not really. You want to be number 1. But you know you aren’t. You’re feeling like Plan B. And maybe you are.
You deserve to be number 1. I don’t think this will work.
Remove the disability from this post and it is simply a case of two people whose goals have changed. You now want children – that is a big change and it’s ok to end a relationship when goals change. It’s not an issue you can compromise on. Good luck.
Who cares what he does your not together anymore and distance yourself from your ex. Close the chapter and move on, you broke up for a reason and any guy you date in the future is going to see you and your ex being friends and having lunch together as a glaring red flag.
Your username is A+
Since this is the highest upvoted comments, I just wanted to say…this feels a bit harsh. I'd wager a good portion of jobs do not include bonus structures in their compensation plans. Many people have never negotiated salaries or bonus packages, so it feels unfair to say she's dumb.
A third option of she is unaware that bonuses aren't gifts and reacted emotionally at the idea of having to save alone seems entirely plausible.
Suppose you do go out with her, and it develops into something. When happens when (like all couples who have occasional arguments) she is mad at you for the first time in the relationship? How will your mind be able to separate the negativity and/or hostility, no matter how temporary, from those school days when the bullies were hostile toward you? Everytime you have an argument with your gf, it will probably bring it all back. Also, is she friends with any of these other former bullies in her present adult life? If so, you will eventually and likely regularly cross paths with them too.
This coming from a guy who's in his early 20s, unlikely to have real relationship experience, and has anime photos as his profile pictures. You also describe yourself as a 'Muslim', although a 'very bad one'. I don't think you're someone who should be dishing out comments on morality or relationship.
Okay but where did you get that he wasn't being responsible for her kid though…
Heartworms are a terribly slow and painful way for a dog to inevitably die. The treatment for Heartworms is incredibly expensive and hard on the dog.
Lyme disease can destroy motor function in the hind quarters and causes extreme pain and lethargy.
Fleas transmit tapeworms and the bites can go septic. A flea infestation will affect everyone in your home and cost thousands to rid, if it gets bad enough.
Please. Please. Use preventatives. Way better in the long run.
That being said, avoid cheap brands like Hartz, they cause more harm than good.
OP -What are you looking for here? I would never let anyone tell me what to wear. This is not a good foot for you two to get off on…..he's controlling your wardrobe at 19? Who TF does he think he is, your husband?
“However, I'm very dependent on him and value his opinion a lot.” Does he pay your way thru this life? Does he pay your rent or bills? Why are you so dependent on a man who thinks he's gotta control your wardrobe? Because you let him control that, you'll let him control anything.
It's your life, OP. You do what you like and if allowing him to control your wardrobe is okay with you, then have at it. But I can tell you his controlling probably won't stop at your wardrobe.