Agree on your brother being an asshole in this situation but plenty of reasons not to like Ronaldo. Most importantly there's the rape case from 2009 but also he just comes across as a massive narcissist and not much of a team player (e.g. recent interview with Piers Morgan over Man Utd).
Still understand why people like him though as he is one of the greatest footballers of all time, and doesn't affect the fact that your brother should apologise
This is Reddit not a court room. I don’t have to prove anything. Please believe what you want. I’m too busy to search for you but I have seen it multiple times. Women like that do exist, just like the men do.
Oh bull. His mental health will be affected? What about yours? What about your physical health too? If his mental health is going to be affected that badly he should find someone with those same interests he wants, rather than forcing someone to have an invasive operation when they do not want one, forcing someone into something in general while knowing they don’t want to, manipulating and guilt tripping their partner because they have reproductive issues, etc. Just because he wants it, doesn’t mean he gets to force you into it.
Like I wouldn’t want to be with someone if they were to do that to me. That’s so disgusting and it feels like he only sees you as a baby carrier. Like he sees you as something at his disposal, he wants to use your body for something he wants, and is going to manipulate you if he doesn’t get his way by saying you’re hurting his mental health. You were already willing to give that to him but unfortunately as circumstances will have it, it can’t happen naturally because he has reproductive problems. It’s sad, but he doesn’t get to bully you because of it.
He doesn’t care how he’s already affecting you, your mental health is already suffering, but does he care about that? No. Sounds like you might not even be at a good place to have kids altogether. Your mental health is suffering, it’s going unnoticed, he’s expecting you to sacrifice your body, your feelings, your boundaries, because he unfortunately has reproductive problems. But that’s not your responsibility to solve his issues, if it means doing something you don’t want done.
He needs counseling. Because he is trying to compensate for his own problems by forcing you into something that you’ve clearly expressed not wanting to do it and get physically sick over. He needs to understand that you aren’t in a relationship for you to be sacrifice your boundaries and feelings just so he can avoid swallowing the pill that maybe biological birth isn’t going to happen. Expecting you to go a route you don’t want to go to have a child is already bad because you aren’t on the same page, and he’s fine with sacrificing you to get what he wants.
Thats not an equal power dynamic. That’s not healthy. And him not giving a shit that he’s manipulating and coercing his wife, someone he is supposed to love and care about more than anyone, into something she has clearly stated she doesn’t want, and it’s making her mentally and even physically sick is really bad. He shouldn’t even want to bring this up at all, knowing how you’re sick over this and have said you aren’t comfortable with that.
That was a question I had in my mind as well – I've asked him multiple times if that's what he's doing and told him I will never do his dirty work, so that if he wants to leave, he has to do it on his own – he kept saying no. I know that he has no problem breaking up with people, so this is all very strange. It's so hard, and I really don't want to leave, but I know I'll have to if this continues much longer.
Oh, I don’t blame them for that but they do ask if he’s home but not to invite him. Just to know if someone will be home with the dog. She is more than ok with being home alone for a good few hours of the day. She’s fine when I go to work. They did the same when he was in all of his previous jobs where he was home at the end of every day or night.
Your girlfriend not shutting him down from the get go is a huge problem. You guys moving forward to hang out with this dude is going to be a bigger problem.
Is your period key broken?
Agree on your brother being an asshole in this situation but plenty of reasons not to like Ronaldo. Most importantly there's the rape case from 2009 but also he just comes across as a massive narcissist and not much of a team player (e.g. recent interview with Piers Morgan over Man Utd).
Still understand why people like him though as he is one of the greatest footballers of all time, and doesn't affect the fact that your brother should apologise
This is Reddit not a court room. I don’t have to prove anything. Please believe what you want. I’m too busy to search for you but I have seen it multiple times. Women like that do exist, just like the men do.
They’re dating. She’s playing you.
Oh bull. His mental health will be affected? What about yours? What about your physical health too? If his mental health is going to be affected that badly he should find someone with those same interests he wants, rather than forcing someone to have an invasive operation when they do not want one, forcing someone into something in general while knowing they don’t want to, manipulating and guilt tripping their partner because they have reproductive issues, etc. Just because he wants it, doesn’t mean he gets to force you into it.
Like I wouldn’t want to be with someone if they were to do that to me. That’s so disgusting and it feels like he only sees you as a baby carrier. Like he sees you as something at his disposal, he wants to use your body for something he wants, and is going to manipulate you if he doesn’t get his way by saying you’re hurting his mental health. You were already willing to give that to him but unfortunately as circumstances will have it, it can’t happen naturally because he has reproductive problems. It’s sad, but he doesn’t get to bully you because of it.
He doesn’t care how he’s already affecting you, your mental health is already suffering, but does he care about that? No. Sounds like you might not even be at a good place to have kids altogether. Your mental health is suffering, it’s going unnoticed, he’s expecting you to sacrifice your body, your feelings, your boundaries, because he unfortunately has reproductive problems. But that’s not your responsibility to solve his issues, if it means doing something you don’t want done.
He needs counseling. Because he is trying to compensate for his own problems by forcing you into something that you’ve clearly expressed not wanting to do it and get physically sick over. He needs to understand that you aren’t in a relationship for you to be sacrifice your boundaries and feelings just so he can avoid swallowing the pill that maybe biological birth isn’t going to happen. Expecting you to go a route you don’t want to go to have a child is already bad because you aren’t on the same page, and he’s fine with sacrificing you to get what he wants.
Thats not an equal power dynamic. That’s not healthy. And him not giving a shit that he’s manipulating and coercing his wife, someone he is supposed to love and care about more than anyone, into something she has clearly stated she doesn’t want, and it’s making her mentally and even physically sick is really bad. He shouldn’t even want to bring this up at all, knowing how you’re sick over this and have said you aren’t comfortable with that.
That was a question I had in my mind as well – I've asked him multiple times if that's what he's doing and told him I will never do his dirty work, so that if he wants to leave, he has to do it on his own – he kept saying no. I know that he has no problem breaking up with people, so this is all very strange. It's so hard, and I really don't want to leave, but I know I'll have to if this continues much longer.
Oh, I don’t blame them for that but they do ask if he’s home but not to invite him. Just to know if someone will be home with the dog. She is more than ok with being home alone for a good few hours of the day. She’s fine when I go to work. They did the same when he was in all of his previous jobs where he was home at the end of every day or night.
Textbook depression. Good luck on your journey to finding joy again!
He is an idiot.
Leave him before he does catch something and pass it onto you
He tells me he loves me every day and has always been good to me, he even defended me against his family when they were disapproving of my tattoo.
Tell him you're not a virgin. If he's this wonderful, it shouldn't change much.
Yes, there is more. She hasn't told you in the past 4 years because she wants to have her cake and eat it too.
Chances are you found out about one of the times they were intimate in your relationship, but there are most likely way more.
I'm sorry man.
Your girlfriend not shutting him down from the get go is a huge problem. You guys moving forward to hang out with this dude is going to be a bigger problem.