Set a time line. Even if its just in your head and move on once its hit. If she dropped you to hang with the EX I would say you have your answer anyway. Make the decision for her an move on.
Seriously, start planning a fast exit strategy. Call parents relatives, friends, etc, let them know what’s going on and that you need a place to stay. This bitch you are dating is extremely abusive. What if you had a little sister or lady friend explaining this story to you? What would you tell them? Start documenting incidents too. I also suggest calling a domestic violence hotline, they are available for men too.
Come on man. Be honest with yourself and your feelings. Does this sound like just friend behavior to you? If you didn't think what you were doing was wrong then you wouldn't have hid it.
It's not normal to ignore your partner in favor of spending days with another girl, go behind their back to stay in contact or forgo getting her a gift on holidays to help someone you've only known 2 weeks.
He’s already told you that you won’t be first. Think if you can deal with that forever. If you can, good. I wish you a long and happy life. But don’t stay and then realize 10 years later you made the wrong choice.
Plus, you’re 32. 3 more years could mean a pregnancy is more dangerous or difficult. If you truly want kids, think about your ages. Delaying having kids will probably make it so that he doesn’t want them in the future as he gets older.
I don't think this is a big deal. I am sorry your feelings were hurt. You can't help how you feel, but I'd let this slide unless it becomes a pattern or something.
This is so heartbreaking, she really does not deserve this.
You really need to talk with her and assess if it is really what she wants.
If you really have such a high sex drive, just break up with her. In both cases her self-esteem will be crushed but at least she won’t be tortured thinking about you having sex with someone else.
Tell him you've figured out just how to solve the problem. You can easily split the house work and he can get out of the house with this one simple trick. Get a fucking JOB!!!
If she can’t gracefully accept that not everyone can afford to jump through all of her bridezilla hoops, then she is not a true friend. Many weddings these days have become out of control both financially and logistically as the bridal party is expected to shell out thousands of dollars and burn through limited vacation days in order to meet unreasonable demands.
Your priorities are your husband, child and household, not your friend’s wedding. She is asking too much of you. Don’t sabotage yourself to keep a friendship.
How exactly were you going to go clubbing with her in an LDR?
Anyway…you get to feel how you feel. Feelings aren’t right or wrong. And you can have boundaries around whatever you want but that doesn’t mean that someone must comply—if they disagree then you part ways as you’ve done.
Personally, when I was in my 20’s, I went clubbing with my friends pretty much every weekend. Most of that time, I was in a relationship. Going dancing with my girlfriends never caused me to trip and fall on a dick. I wouldn’t date someone who was telling me what I can and can’t do. I can appreciate that in your situation, there was a trust issue. But to me, if you don’t trust your partner, you should just end things. Placing all sorts of restrictions on someone doesn’t prevent them from cheating.
haha, yeah i’m insecure ? i’m not gonna lie about it. he gives a lot and it just sucks not being able to give back half the time. its why i went all out for like a couple weeks. idk, for me it feels all the more worthwhile bc i know it took a bit of extra effort
He probably hooked you in and realized that its too much work now to do that.
You guys are basically already married just not official yet. Why can't you just be happy with what you have?!
Set a time line. Even if its just in your head and move on once its hit. If she dropped you to hang with the EX I would say you have your answer anyway. Make the decision for her an move on.
I have younger twin sisters that I adore. Being apart of their lives is pretty important to me
You typed M15 wrong
That's perfect & well worded. I'd also block him so you get the last word & never have to deal with some drunken wall of text.
Seriously, start planning a fast exit strategy. Call parents relatives, friends, etc, let them know what’s going on and that you need a place to stay. This bitch you are dating is extremely abusive. What if you had a little sister or lady friend explaining this story to you? What would you tell them? Start documenting incidents too. I also suggest calling a domestic violence hotline, they are available for men too.
Bcz she's struggling I tolf my gf who's rich to give her money if she wants me to stop and she refuses I jusy want to help the friend out
Come on man. Be honest with yourself and your feelings. Does this sound like just friend behavior to you? If you didn't think what you were doing was wrong then you wouldn't have hid it.
It's not normal to ignore your partner in favor of spending days with another girl, go behind their back to stay in contact or forgo getting her a gift on holidays to help someone you've only known 2 weeks.
Get a divorce. omg this is the most disgusting thing I've ever read. LEAVE HIM.
Bro, you can convince your girl of that idiocricy but not a grown man. Dont even try.
He’s already told you that you won’t be first. Think if you can deal with that forever. If you can, good. I wish you a long and happy life. But don’t stay and then realize 10 years later you made the wrong choice.
Plus, you’re 32. 3 more years could mean a pregnancy is more dangerous or difficult. If you truly want kids, think about your ages. Delaying having kids will probably make it so that he doesn’t want them in the future as he gets older.
I don't think this is a big deal. I am sorry your feelings were hurt. You can't help how you feel, but I'd let this slide unless it becomes a pattern or something.
I have text conversations between myself and her talking about it that I have saved.
This is so heartbreaking, she really does not deserve this.
You really need to talk with her and assess if it is really what she wants.
If you really have such a high sex drive, just break up with her. In both cases her self-esteem will be crushed but at least she won’t be tortured thinking about you having sex with someone else.
Tell him you've figured out just how to solve the problem. You can easily split the house work and he can get out of the house with this one simple trick. Get a fucking JOB!!!
If she can’t gracefully accept that not everyone can afford to jump through all of her bridezilla hoops, then she is not a true friend. Many weddings these days have become out of control both financially and logistically as the bridal party is expected to shell out thousands of dollars and burn through limited vacation days in order to meet unreasonable demands.
Your priorities are your husband, child and household, not your friend’s wedding. She is asking too much of you. Don’t sabotage yourself to keep a friendship.
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How exactly were you going to go clubbing with her in an LDR?
Anyway…you get to feel how you feel. Feelings aren’t right or wrong. And you can have boundaries around whatever you want but that doesn’t mean that someone must comply—if they disagree then you part ways as you’ve done.
Personally, when I was in my 20’s, I went clubbing with my friends pretty much every weekend. Most of that time, I was in a relationship. Going dancing with my girlfriends never caused me to trip and fall on a dick. I wouldn’t date someone who was telling me what I can and can’t do. I can appreciate that in your situation, there was a trust issue. But to me, if you don’t trust your partner, you should just end things. Placing all sorts of restrictions on someone doesn’t prevent them from cheating.
No, you are the red flag. Don't ask someone a question if you don't want to know the real answer.
This is real bullshit on many levels
It just gets worse, if you can believe it.
haha, yeah i’m insecure ? i’m not gonna lie about it. he gives a lot and it just sucks not being able to give back half the time. its why i went all out for like a couple weeks. idk, for me it feels all the more worthwhile bc i know it took a bit of extra effort