I see some really janky age differences all the time and have never once seen someone turn to their friend and say “that old man is a pedo”. At most, they say “hmm, father daughter” or “siblings” or “She sure is close to her grampa.” LOL, I've had people ask if my “dad” wanted to come into appointments with me… he's my husband. Either way, I have to wonder if she looks that young or if you look really old. Moreover, if she looks 15 with a 5 year old, common sense and math would prevail. The person suggesting therapy was right. You need to deal with your feelings and your reactions to this. You cannot control others and you're not being persecuted by your wife's youthful appearance. If literally everyone you see ever really believes that you've somehow gotten your teenage child bride into a high-profile profession and fake identity after she gave birth at 9 or 10 years old?…. it's ludicrous. It's also extraordinarily insulting to her intelligence and accomplishments to say that society thinks more believable that she's been planted into this role and identity by some pedo cabal, than earning her way. Get help for your insecurity and … I don't know. Try to look younger if it matters that much to you.
You need to be upfront. If you aren't into it, you aren't into it. Maybe there is a middle ground you can settle on. But jumping straight to full on sex with another man is a bit much to ask.
Be nice about it. You found it and are ok with it.. say maybe he should have talked to you about it.
You feeling bad is WHY he is hiding it. Have an open conversation and let him know its ok to do this but communicating is the most important thing.
Sometimes a guy just prefers to jack off, don't shame him for it.
I see some really janky age differences all the time and have never once seen someone turn to their friend and say “that old man is a pedo”. At most, they say “hmm, father daughter” or “siblings” or “She sure is close to her grampa.” LOL, I've had people ask if my “dad” wanted to come into appointments with me… he's my husband. Either way, I have to wonder if she looks that young or if you look really old. Moreover, if she looks 15 with a 5 year old, common sense and math would prevail. The person suggesting therapy was right. You need to deal with your feelings and your reactions to this. You cannot control others and you're not being persecuted by your wife's youthful appearance. If literally everyone you see ever really believes that you've somehow gotten your teenage child bride into a high-profile profession and fake identity after she gave birth at 9 or 10 years old?…. it's ludicrous. It's also extraordinarily insulting to her intelligence and accomplishments to say that society thinks more believable that she's been planted into this role and identity by some pedo cabal, than earning her way. Get help for your insecurity and … I don't know. Try to look younger if it matters that much to you.
You need to be upfront. If you aren't into it, you aren't into it. Maybe there is a middle ground you can settle on. But jumping straight to full on sex with another man is a bit much to ask.