I'm not sure why you posted here, if I'm honest. You know you're pissing her mother off. You intend to keep doing it. Why are you surprised you have a contentious relationship? It sounds like neither of you has any interest whatsoever in amicable coparenting. And you are using your childhood trauma as a justification to bulldoze her without even attempting to look for a better solution.
You could mitigate this issue by sending your daughter WITH packed food/snacks that she will eat so that at least you know she's fed without bringing fast food in the middle of her mother's custody time. And that way you could pack something more nutritious than fast food since from what I'm seeing she's eating a lot of junk.
A mitzvah is a big deal. (You mention you were raised Catholic, perhaps you're not getting the significance of it.)
You celebrating your birthday on a day that isn't the exact day is not a big deal – you are 28, not 8. (And even then, surely you had parties as a kid that were not on your actual birthday?)
Just because you haven't met them before (as we head into another year of an ongoing global pandemic) doesn't mean they aren't important to him as non-immediate family.
And is this trip … to the town where your partner's parents live? You say you'll be spending it “on a plane / at his parents' house”. So this mitzvah is a good reason to see his parents who also live a plane ride away? Hmmmmm.
If you don't want to stay with his parents then don't. Get a hotel. That seems reasonable. Or, don't go. But don't ask him not to go if he wants to go.
I am getting therapy though I just want to know what more I'm supposed to do what am I supposed to say to the therapist so they don't blame everything on me
One of my ex's had a best friend that was an ex of hers that she firmly denied was anything more than platonic. However, anytime they drank or smoke together he immediately tried to get closer with her, really handsy and trying to kiss her. Ultimately I believe they were strictly platonic, but only because she refused his advances. We ended up breaking up after she confessed to cheating on me with someone else, not even best friend. Looking back, I would never put myself in that position again where there is a friendzoned male that close to a potential partner for me.
It is possible for men and women to be platonic friends, but you are more likely to win the lottery than find a healthy platonic male/female relationship as close as “best friends” that will ever only be platonic. Men, especially in current era, are willing to be a forever friend to a girl they like but feel like they have no chance with. Likely, if you told your best friend you liked them as something more than just a friend and you wanted to start dating them, they would jump at the opportunity. And at that point, he was never your best friend and was always a friend zoned male.
Basically it's an unnecessary source of stress on the relationship, and can be perceived as a red flag. Alternatively, if you start lying about your male best friend to your potential partners, it's going to betray their trust when they eventually figure it out. And your best friend is going to be hurt when they find out you are actively hiding the fact they exist.
I mean even with looking for friends some people (myself included) just aren’t interested in spending time on internet pen pals you’ve never met. If you joined the app not actually wanting to meet anyone IRL you should probably make that clear in your profile because right now you’re just wasting the time of anyone who is looking to meet people.
I'm not sure why you posted here, if I'm honest. You know you're pissing her mother off. You intend to keep doing it. Why are you surprised you have a contentious relationship? It sounds like neither of you has any interest whatsoever in amicable coparenting. And you are using your childhood trauma as a justification to bulldoze her without even attempting to look for a better solution.
You could mitigate this issue by sending your daughter WITH packed food/snacks that she will eat so that at least you know she's fed without bringing fast food in the middle of her mother's custody time. And that way you could pack something more nutritious than fast food since from what I'm seeing she's eating a lot of junk.
Stop crying cheater, you did something that will stick forever.
How can I even tell him this? He won’t listen
the first sentence was all you needed. run
the first sentence was all you needed. run
The average woman is that unreasonable and sensitive as well…should I call them “little girlies”. People without insecurity are rare, sad but true.
A mitzvah is a big deal. (You mention you were raised Catholic, perhaps you're not getting the significance of it.)
You celebrating your birthday on a day that isn't the exact day is not a big deal – you are 28, not 8. (And even then, surely you had parties as a kid that were not on your actual birthday?)
Just because you haven't met them before (as we head into another year of an ongoing global pandemic) doesn't mean they aren't important to him as non-immediate family.
And is this trip … to the town where your partner's parents live? You say you'll be spending it “on a plane / at his parents' house”. So this mitzvah is a good reason to see his parents who also live a plane ride away? Hmmmmm.
If you don't want to stay with his parents then don't. Get a hotel. That seems reasonable. Or, don't go. But don't ask him not to go if he wants to go.
I am getting therapy though I just want to know what more I'm supposed to do what am I supposed to say to the therapist so they don't blame everything on me
One of my ex's had a best friend that was an ex of hers that she firmly denied was anything more than platonic. However, anytime they drank or smoke together he immediately tried to get closer with her, really handsy and trying to kiss her. Ultimately I believe they were strictly platonic, but only because she refused his advances. We ended up breaking up after she confessed to cheating on me with someone else, not even best friend. Looking back, I would never put myself in that position again where there is a friendzoned male that close to a potential partner for me.
It is possible for men and women to be platonic friends, but you are more likely to win the lottery than find a healthy platonic male/female relationship as close as “best friends” that will ever only be platonic. Men, especially in current era, are willing to be a forever friend to a girl they like but feel like they have no chance with. Likely, if you told your best friend you liked them as something more than just a friend and you wanted to start dating them, they would jump at the opportunity. And at that point, he was never your best friend and was always a friend zoned male.
Basically it's an unnecessary source of stress on the relationship, and can be perceived as a red flag. Alternatively, if you start lying about your male best friend to your potential partners, it's going to betray their trust when they eventually figure it out. And your best friend is going to be hurt when they find out you are actively hiding the fact they exist.
Either way good luck.
So you can take an iud out early if you want to have kids. It doesn’t need to be left in until it’s no longer effective.
I mean even with looking for friends some people (myself included) just aren’t interested in spending time on internet pen pals you’ve never met. If you joined the app not actually wanting to meet anyone IRL you should probably make that clear in your profile because right now you’re just wasting the time of anyone who is looking to meet people.