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So a couple of things, OP. First, it's not your responsibility to entertain your GF at all times. Second, beware of how you phrase things when you talk to her about this. I personally would focus on my own need for down time and space, rather than trying to tell her what she “should” do. I'd explain, as I did with my own partner, that I am an introvert at heart and need a certain amount of time by myself in order to maintain my mental health and be a good partner to them.
Part of this is going to depend on whether she's able to accept it in the moment when you start setting boundaries around your time. It might help to give her an idea of when you're receptive to hanging out, frame it positively and plan dates during those times and invest energy in making the time you DO give her “quality” time. Tell her that it's good for the relationship to miss each other sometimes and to have things to talk about when you are together. Tell her you don't want to get bored of each other and so it's important to have time to explore different interests. It's not that you don't want to spend time with her. It's that in order to be a good partner, you ALSO need time by yourself.
I hope that helps. Being around anyone constantly is exhausting for some of us. It helps to both communicate your needs AND frame it as positively as you can.
You would find yourself feeling guilt and this post shows that you already know that.
If you want to do right, just break up with your cheating boyfriend. Then as a single girl looking for a threesome, you can go seek out being the third wheel for someone else.
Keep saying no. You don't need to get to know her sister. Being far and respectful is good enough.
Why can’t you just be honest and say that this is unacceptable as you don’t want to go on a date with her sister. She obviously wants to see your reaction or seeking for some attention. Is it really so hard to communicate about this situation?
Absolutely agree! A sober conversation is in need, clearly. I would need time and see some actions from him to make my mind at ease.
Couples therapy?
This is some that random internet people sage advice I was hoping for… thank you I feel hopeful for something like this in my future….
YES. This exact thing happened to me and where he finally asked me to be his gf I was repulsed. I thought we were just friends. I told my family and they scolded him and we never spoke again. I saw him a week after, though, and he had a mail order bride from the Philippines. Fucked me up for a while.
Before you would do a paternity test by putting a big ass needle into the uterus and suck out amniotic fluid to test it. Huge risk. My neighbours lost their twins due to testing the amnio for fetal abnormalities back in the 90ies.
Now a days it is a run of the mill bloodtest at the nook of the elbow (or similar) on the mum. Literally no risk to the baby. Or the mum for that matter.
So there isn't any medical reason to not do it.
Also what do you mean by “more like me”? Is it really that bad to have a crush on him? Ive had people inbox me telling me im perverted and gross. It's actually getting to me. Its just a crush right? I feel like i just feel appreciated in a way that i havent been before
It sounds like you have a fundamental incompatibility. You was someone who is present and helps set up and is as high strung as you are while he is a child. Find someone more mature and also work on getting out of your family's house.
Dump him
You. Need. Therapy.
You need to unpack your incredibly sexist ideas about what men and women bring to a relationship or you’re going to end up sad and alone.
Going to parties and drinking is not an issue for me.
I think that is good for her to relax because she likes dance.
The issue here is grinding and dirty dancing with random people, that are also guys and getting very drunk at nearly all parties.
I don’t agree. I personally think you are tweaking a perfectly fine behavior (helping with school) into some sketchy thing just because you are not happy with age gaps. Which is fine (albeit I, again, don’t agree), but that’s the point. Not helping a partner. Act of service are one of the most common love languages after all.
You don't want to have sex with him, you cringe when he trys to kiss you and you want him to take your last name?
What exactly is he getting out of this relationship? Are you his first girlfriend?
I’m sorry you are going though this and I hope you have a good support network as well as y your therapist. It is definitely not cheating. Trust your intuition. I hope that reading your own post back has also highlighted to you that your boyfriend is abusive
He's reliving moments via memory about ways he USED TO FEEL, not how he currently feels. This is a normal part of grief.
You are feeling current jealousy/anxiety about those old memories. Keep reminding yourself of this.
As his grief passes and becomes less intense in the following days, weeks, so too will your feelings.
Yes. What the hell
But you already are putting yourself in danger by giving in to them
Because the last guy that did it kept texting me.
I don’t have roadside assistance. And I just moved here so don’t have anybody to call Rlly. I usually actually keep jumpers in my car ?. And yes u know how to use it
OK, so it's been 4 hours since you posted this, so he's your EX-boyfriend now, right? And he's out of your apartment and never coming back, RIGHT?
If you remain in a relationship with this loser, you will end up battered and bruised, in a hospital or DV shelter after running for your life. Life is waaaaay too short to waste it on someone who thinks nothing of throwing you across a room because you wanted a place to sleep in YOUR OWN DAMNED BED!!
Get his stuff together and throw it out in the hallway. Then push his sorry butt out the door. If he has a key to your place, get the locks changed today. For your own well-being, please do not have any contact with this POS again.
With this incident, he has shown you who and what he really is. You saw the part of him he's been hiding from you all this time. Well, now that he's introduced you to the real him, tell him to get out of your life and never come back or contact you again.
You got this, girl. You can do this. No man who puts his hands on you in anger is worth your spit.
I’m definitely not the sort who wants to argue until the other gives in, though thanks for the judgement:)
I suppose the issue lies in the answer given – my partner thinks she has given me a satisfactory answer, even if I don’t know what it is.
If I’m having a conversation with a friend and one mentions they think x player is the best in the world, if the other person asked for a bit more detail “how many games have they played/who have they played against” the other person generally gives more info “they’ve played 1000 games” they don’t just suggest the first person already knows, or doesn’t say.
I’ll have to talk it out with her.
Thanks for the reply
Why are you putting up with this?
She doesn't have TMJ and from my view point of going down on her for hours my face, nose, chin, jaw, teeth are sore af afterwards sometimes till the next day. She has even busted my lips and given me a few nose bleeds several times riding my face.
Haha yes! I do happen to like the word sus, I'd feel silly saying it out loud at 33 though.
I think breaking up immediately is a bit premature at this point.
First of all, are you certain that she's physically well and not in the hospital or anything?
Second, yes, having space can be important, but regardless of the circumstances, this is really extreme for two people in a relationship.
Communication is vital, and you deserve to know when she's going to talk to you again. If this is the kind of space she needs but that doesn't meet what YOU need, then maybe you need to consider ending the relationship.
Good luck OP. You will come out the other side of this a much stronger and eventually happier person even if it may not feel like it right now. Hugs to you.
no, i'm fine. if the barista finds me charming and wants to give me their number, it's okay. i am not paid to be nice, so it isn't a problem
This is sus. Because people uses polyamory as an excuse to cheat op. If she just decided to told you know she may have someone in mind tha she wants to have sex with
You set a boundary to not be “corrected” he does not adhere to this boundary. what are you doing to reinforce this boundary?
My husband is a great man, he just rapes me all the type. You are lying to yourself. There’s nothing great about a rapist. I suggest you speak to some experts in a women’s shelter, they’ll be able to talk to you in confidence.
This dude is ignorant AF. Please find someone better.
I think what he did was probably for the best. I’ve been in his situation before. It just can’t really work. At least from the perspective of someone with a high sex drive, and wants to monogamous. It’s tough.
I agree. They both handled this really well.. But It's not just guys that need sex or have a sex drive, although testosterone causes sex drive to go up. I'm a woman and have suffered, literally suffered, for years because men would have a lot of sex in the beginning and then as soon as I assured them I wasn't going to cheat they stopped having sex. It's just as bad to be the person who isn't interested and feel pawed at and annoyed. So matching the other person is important.
I suspect that was said more to hurt you than to be an accurate representation of how he felt throughout the relationship.
When people are trying to show you who they are, believe them. This is the family you're marrying into. Its not IF they hurt you, its WHEN. Do you want to end up on a crime show after you get murdered?
So you wouldn't be friends with someone just because they're white? Imagine if it was the other way around. That is prejudice.
“Lmao”, you tell me u/Upbeat-Parking-4579…
I genuinely don't know.
True, but how you express yourself does.
No I used him for monetary gain, never my children. If I was I would have made sure they were both his instead of being with both thinking he wouldn’t notice. I just wanted my kids to grow up rich tbh and I didn’t think he would find out they weren’t his, I never even fully knew until my son started looking the spitting image of his father (really really blonde hair and his blue eyes) and unlike me and my husband who are both brunettes and his hair I’d close to black and he has dark eyes so my son looked his polar opposite.
Well let’s assume you’re the only one he’s talking to because everyone else is definitely gonna be saying he’s cheating. He may be scared of how his friends and family react, I know my family didn’t want me having a girlfriend until I was 18 so I kept a lot secret from them until then. The fact that he hasn’t told his friends is a bit concerning but that could be his way of keeping it fully from his parents. Now that I’ve given him the benefit of the doubt though, it’s been two years, at this point I’d say he’s had plenty of chances to face those (probably unwarranted) fears and he hasn’t taken them, so best case scenario you’re dating a guy with absolutely no backbone, and worst case scenario he’s manipulating you so that he can back out of the relationship whenever he wants without much in the way of repercussions. Either way I’d suggest moving on, at this point it becomes a trust thing and if you can’t trust him to tell other people about you then how are you gonna trust him with anything bigger than that?
Before you jump to conclusions and end things, ask yourself if this is something you’ve really talked to him about or if it’s worth bringing up again in more detail. Let him know how his behavior makes you feel and if he’s willing to change I’d say try giving him one more shot. Y’all are young, he might just be acting stupidly. If it develops into another argument, cut him off. You should not have to argue with your boyfriend just to get him to tell people that he’s dating someone. It’s immature behavior and he’s older than you, so don’t let him drag you down with him. Good luck OP
In some organizations, they have Equal Employment Opportunity office, which is usually a subgroup of HR, sometimes not. Normally? Sexual harassment cases will be investigated. We have new trainings that have popped up over the last year. Say I was a coworker and saw their behavior in my organization, I could file a case against them. Is there a policy that prohibits employees from dating or being in relationships? Their employer may have different rules. However, getting involved with coworkers is never good. You still have to still work with them after the dalliance ends. Awkward, and if in your case what trust would you have with your BF? He would see her every day. One of them would have to leave their job or be reassigned if the workplace is big enough to distance them.
For your sons sake, having a decent and even friendly relationship with your ex is fantastic, and I don't see anything out of line here. Just because you weren't good romantically doesn't mean you have to become enemies. And its especially important to have a decent relationship when kids are involved.
If your girlfriend can't accept that you are not going to stop cooperative coparenting and being a generally decent guy to your sons mother, then maybe she's not ready to date someone who still has kids with an ex.
Well you guys are incompatible. But as a smoker I would just like to say “why in the house?”
How could he acknowledge kids he never knew existed?
He's 27, I am sure he can evaluate and see if he enjoys staying with you. I am not sure why you think you have to make that choice for him.
Then bf needs to calm down
Its time to focus your time and energy on other things. This is an unhealthy and probably codependent relationship. You both need to spend time to work on yourselves. She is already cheating by emotional affair and lying both major deal breakers for most people.
It hurts, a lot. Pain is a great teacher, harness that to work on you. Read, hit the gym, pursue or further your education, explore your world, spend time with friends.
You got this!
What would he have done if you'd had children with your ex? Tell you to leave them with him?
No he needs to lay low and get everything in order. He shouldn’t say anything to the wife until he’s met with a divorce lawyer.
You could bring it up but it's likely you'll lose both your friends when you do. Talk to your friend again, find out if his feelings or motivations have changed. How long do you have left on your stay?
Why not tell him? Butt dialing an ex is a funny story. If he asks for more information, tell him the rest.
Ask for smaller payments, and come to an agreement on frequency/amount. It'll be easier to get smaller amounts. Yes it sucks, but there can be a compromise. He'll likely complain, but stay strong.
Talk to an attorney about prenup if you decide to move forward. I have to say I have a bad feeling about the whole thing.