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Hurt people hurt people, but you sound like you two talk a lot which is monumental and you'll get there even if one or the other is learning healthier communication
This is the first time I’ve hit back. He’s hit me before and I didn’t do anything, and last time he strangled me. I’ve seen my mum get abused – the abuse stopped when started fighting back. I don’t think it’s fair to say we’re both abusive
Consider couples counseling. Your partner using your child as an ultimatum is never going to be ok. Plus you’ll have a better chance of gaining custody if the worst should happen since you’ll have a record of making an effort for the kid.
Consider couples counseling. Your partner using your child as an ultimatum is never going to be ok. Plus you’ll have a better chance of gaining custody if the worst should happen since you’ll have a record of making an effort for the kid.
From my experience, someone like that won’t just abandon you for a major illness. He won’t take care of you when you have a cold. He’ll go out of town when you’re feeling depressed. He’ll cheat on you because you can’t have sex for 6 weeks after giving birth. People don’t just change who they are because of 1 diagnosis. They lack the ability to care for and have have empathy for others from the very start.
I would never say never go back but this is way too soon. You have not had a chance to try other relationships yet and she is probably just rebounding after getting her first rejection. Tell her you are not ready and will meet her in another three months when you have both had a chance to get some distance.
After 6 months you'll both be better placed to know if your are compitible or just lonely.
She has not had time to appreciate what you had and genuinely miss you imo. She has not had time to date properly and move on so its not an active genuine choice at this point its a fear response. She will run again unless she is sure it you above ALL others she wants.
Try things with Eva and you'll at least get some perspective on your previous relationship.
He's due for an oil change.
Didn't have a response to how it was handled. IMHO there may be
room for a bit more of what was introduced but with a more
coordination between partners and maybe ease into it rather
than a hard drop. FWIW
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Don't trade in people shrugs
Hurt people hurt people, but you sound like you two talk a lot which is monumental and you'll get there even if one or the other is learning healthier communication
This is the first time I’ve hit back. He’s hit me before and I didn’t do anything, and last time he strangled me. I’ve seen my mum get abused – the abuse stopped when started fighting back. I don’t think it’s fair to say we’re both abusive
Yeah right ??
You're welcome. Best wishes for finding a good place to live.
Consider couples counseling. Your partner using your child as an ultimatum is never going to be ok. Plus you’ll have a better chance of gaining custody if the worst should happen since you’ll have a record of making an effort for the kid.
Consider couples counseling. Your partner using your child as an ultimatum is never going to be ok. Plus you’ll have a better chance of gaining custody if the worst should happen since you’ll have a record of making an effort for the kid.
Do you really think so? If these changes are sudden, doesn’t that mean that there’s a way back?
I know. Been up and down this damned ladder more times than I care to think about sadly.
From my experience, someone like that won’t just abandon you for a major illness. He won’t take care of you when you have a cold. He’ll go out of town when you’re feeling depressed. He’ll cheat on you because you can’t have sex for 6 weeks after giving birth. People don’t just change who they are because of 1 diagnosis. They lack the ability to care for and have have empathy for others from the very start.
You need to be honest and not string her along. She’s 33, she wants kids, her best fertility years are already behind her.
I would never say never go back but this is way too soon. You have not had a chance to try other relationships yet and she is probably just rebounding after getting her first rejection. Tell her you are not ready and will meet her in another three months when you have both had a chance to get some distance.
After 6 months you'll both be better placed to know if your are compitible or just lonely.
She has not had time to appreciate what you had and genuinely miss you imo. She has not had time to date properly and move on so its not an active genuine choice at this point its a fear response. She will run again unless she is sure it you above ALL others she wants.
Try things with Eva and you'll at least get some perspective on your previous relationship.
I’m dying?