Ok first screen shots of his discussion of divorce in his chat. All of them. Second Move out. Take 1all your personal belongings (nothing shared) 2 all your personal paperwork passport birth certificate type of stuff. 3 get a good divorcé attorney and then follow his advice TO THE LETTER. sorry this is happening to you
Oh, I agree that mom needs to know. If dad won't tell her, OP should.
And sorry, but if a person who made all the wrong decisions finally makes on good one, that's admirable. Lying to the family is not, but the problem is that he knew how they'd react, and sometimes, we try to take the easier path (which has clearly turned out to not be easy).
As far as the money, once you make a human, your are obligated to support it. That deal these two made years ago is ridiculous and is inconsequential in my mind. Mom had no right to deny that girl financial support. Dad may have paid for the girls tuition, but he paid nothing of her support. I'm not feeling sorry for OP for having to pay their own tuition.
Nobody hacked his tinder why would they? He’s not purchasing anything on there he’s either already cheating or you caught him before he made the leap he’s lying to you leave him cheating should be a zero tolerance policy
I would sit her down and have a serious heart to heart. If she refuses to accept your life, or tries to make you feel bad about your choices, you know what to do.
I don't understand the ages unless these are half siblings to you that your parents had after they had you and then split up. In which case they don't even consider themselves step siblings presumably because they only thing they have in common is you, so who cares what they do? Maybe they're just dating and keeping it a secret from you because they think you'll be weird about it?
You stated ” She wants to know what love really is”. There is a difference between love and sex. Love is grown together with that one partner. What she means is she wants to know what others have to offer to her sexual experience.
If you not looking for the same as she is drop her now and let her move on to whatever she is looking for, because she will not come back to you. You have already lost her when she asked you. You have only been together for 1 year, honestly your 21 and it seems a long time, in reality it is just a blip of time.
If you tell her its over and she says she no longer wants an open relationship, I would not believe her, she is only trying to use you for a life preserver. She already has this dude lined up, or she already slept with him.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do, but never do this for just her to make her happy, because she should of been happy just being with you.
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Run, run away. This is not love, do you really want to start a marriage feeling this way?
Ok first screen shots of his discussion of divorce in his chat. All of them. Second Move out. Take 1all your personal belongings (nothing shared) 2 all your personal paperwork passport birth certificate type of stuff. 3 get a good divorcé attorney and then follow his advice TO THE LETTER. sorry this is happening to you
So you wear lingerie to please him but he won't use a sex toy to please you…. Sounds fair also sounds like your bf is very insecure
Oh, I agree that mom needs to know. If dad won't tell her, OP should.
And sorry, but if a person who made all the wrong decisions finally makes on good one, that's admirable. Lying to the family is not, but the problem is that he knew how they'd react, and sometimes, we try to take the easier path (which has clearly turned out to not be easy).
As far as the money, once you make a human, your are obligated to support it. That deal these two made years ago is ridiculous and is inconsequential in my mind. Mom had no right to deny that girl financial support. Dad may have paid for the girls tuition, but he paid nothing of her support. I'm not feeling sorry for OP for having to pay their own tuition.
Time to change the baby's diaper.
Nope, too disgusting.
Time to feed the baby.
-Nope, too cringe.
Time to take me to the hospital because I'm in labor.
-Nope, labor is disgusting and messy.
DON'T PROCREATE WITH A PERSON WHO CANNOT BEHAVE AS A MATURE ADULT. Parenting is hard. It is even harder when your partner is an immature child.
Time for you to take off your rose colored glasses and really LOOK at the piece of unfinished human you married.
Nobody hacked his tinder why would they? He’s not purchasing anything on there he’s either already cheating or you caught him before he made the leap he’s lying to you leave him cheating should be a zero tolerance policy
I would sit her down and have a serious heart to heart. If she refuses to accept your life, or tries to make you feel bad about your choices, you know what to do.
I don't understand the ages unless these are half siblings to you that your parents had after they had you and then split up. In which case they don't even consider themselves step siblings presumably because they only thing they have in common is you, so who cares what they do? Maybe they're just dating and keeping it a secret from you because they think you'll be weird about it?
OP,
You stated ” She wants to know what love really is”. There is a difference between love and sex. Love is grown together with that one partner. What she means is she wants to know what others have to offer to her sexual experience.
If you not looking for the same as she is drop her now and let her move on to whatever she is looking for, because she will not come back to you. You have already lost her when she asked you. You have only been together for 1 year, honestly your 21 and it seems a long time, in reality it is just a blip of time.
If you tell her its over and she says she no longer wants an open relationship, I would not believe her, she is only trying to use you for a life preserver. She already has this dude lined up, or she already slept with him.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do, but never do this for just her to make her happy, because she should of been happy just being with you.