If she wants to pay to run your information through an online background check, fine, she doesn’t need your involvement to run that.
Right, I was thinking that too. That's not the worst part here. I mean it is ridiculous under the circumstances, but hey if you want to pay one of those background check websites to look him up, go ahead. Although all that will tell her is if he's ever been arrested or charged of any type of abuse, or had a restraining order placed against him. He could still theoretically have abused someone who just never did anything about it. But if that would put her mind at ease, she should have done that on her own. It's the requesting that they go to therapy specifically to “screen” him, to make sure he's not an abuser, that's over the line. If she could point to anything in their relationship over the past 6 years that she now sees as potentially problematic, that's one thing. In which case you suggest couples counseling for both of them to make their relationship stronger, but just saying “Well my friend's ex turned out to be abusive so now I think you might be too,” is not cool.
Break up with him. I imagine that part of his problem is his ego can't handle being financially supported by you which speaks poorly of him. You can do better than this AH.
Are you the one that refused to let his daughter have her own birthday party for turning 18? You wanted a joint party with your friends giving you a cake and singing happy birthday to you?
Savage, I like it.
Savage, I like it.
If she wants to pay to run your information through an online background check, fine, she doesn’t need your involvement to run that.
Right, I was thinking that too. That's not the worst part here. I mean it is ridiculous under the circumstances, but hey if you want to pay one of those background check websites to look him up, go ahead. Although all that will tell her is if he's ever been arrested or charged of any type of abuse, or had a restraining order placed against him. He could still theoretically have abused someone who just never did anything about it. But if that would put her mind at ease, she should have done that on her own. It's the requesting that they go to therapy specifically to “screen” him, to make sure he's not an abuser, that's over the line. If she could point to anything in their relationship over the past 6 years that she now sees as potentially problematic, that's one thing. In which case you suggest couples counseling for both of them to make their relationship stronger, but just saying “Well my friend's ex turned out to be abusive so now I think you might be too,” is not cool.
DTMFA. It’s crazy that she just decided that you guys would be poly when you didn’t agree.
Break up with him. I imagine that part of his problem is his ego can't handle being financially supported by you which speaks poorly of him. You can do better than this AH.
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Are you the one that refused to let his daughter have her own birthday party for turning 18? You wanted a joint party with your friends giving you a cake and singing happy birthday to you?