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If you want her to hate you, and for him to try you one more time… otherwise no
It was over for her the moment the separation happened, she just needed you to pay the bills. Bet she was cheating while you were together too. Go through with the divorce asap and move out.
Use current photos that show you as you are. Don't try to snag someone based on how you looked in the past. And don't wait on dating until you lose weight. Just put yourself out there. There are people who will like you as you are. You don't need to catfish and you don't need to deny yourself love until your weight is lower.
I actually put some less than flattering photos of myself on my profile and it worked as a great passive filter for people who were focused on looks. The reality is that partners see us in all kinds of unflattering situations so I figured they might as well know up front. I'm sure I got fewer matches than other people but I don't consider that a bad thing. I found the love of my life and he likes me just as I am.
Talk to her and clarify your relationship status first. Then see what you want to do.
Just break up. Dodge the bullet. It won't get any better. She doesn't respects you, but want to keep YOU committed with having her things around your house (even her dog). She is not willing to make any lasting commitment with you but is expecting 100% of you.
Let her go back to the streets.
You’re welcome to disagree, but I’m going to let you in on a little secret that has kept faith and trust going in my relationship. I would rather my wife be a little upset in the moment and allow her the opportunity to work through those feelings herself, than for her to find out later down the road that I lied to her and made that choice for her. All that would reveal to her is that I’m willing to lie to her to preserve her myself, and that she can’t trust me. That tends to cause more damage.. especially if she finds out that I’m willing to take other’s feelings into consideration over hers. My wife comes first every time. I’ll re-emphasize what I did in another comment, I don’t care what level or dynamic of relationship it is (girlfriend/wife), my partner comes first every single time, especially if I’m looking to establish a life-long relationship where trust and honesty is key.
OP’s gf might be upset over finding out this information, and possibly justifiably uncomfortable with the situation, but it would be a lot more destructive if his friend or friend’s girlfriend let this information slip accidentally or in a moment of spite opposed to up front. It’s not our place to choose our partner’s emotions or what they’re capable of handling ourselves. If anything, it’ll just show them that we’re willing to lie for the sake of ourselves, or willing to choose other’s feelings over her’s and our relationship. The relationship and partner comes first every time, that’s just my opinion, but it’s worked out preeeeetty well for me. It’s also bought me a lot of faith from my partner where they can say, “No, TalmidimUC wouldn’t do that. That’s not like TalmidimUC or his character at all.”
I didn’t mean it as a way to look down on anyone. A common trait is to miss emotional cues so I was thinking it might be helpful for the girlfriend to understand this. Also I agree with you, he is indeed learning! Just keep learning!?
Definitely fair, I just feel like I'd need three lifetimes to actually give EVERYONE a chance! Who knows, maybe he has a single friend.
100% this…I’ve been there.
Nah that is reasonable. If you're compatible I'd say go for it.
Yes sadly I am thinking it over if we can’t see eye to eye on this it may be a deal breaker. And i really really don’t want to be in a limiting or controlling relationship even if I love him to death
It would be better not to get involved with her rn. Given the circumstances she might see you as triggering. Also there's a reason people at rock bottom are not advised to date. It might be in the way of her healing process and it might create an unhealthy attachment where you are in a saviour role and every disagreement with you would be the end of the world to her (and you have seen the consequences of that)
If you want to keep contacting him on the DL try to get his number from the cousin you mentioned. Call him and talk to him very gently. You have the proof so if there ever is any denial you can shut that question down. He would probably be willing to meet you at a public place so you could disclose the paperwork. Just inform him you just want him to know you exist and you don't want to damage what he has going on. So that way he can decide what he wants to do with that information but be very adamant that you do not want to endanger his situation and you just want to have the opportunity to meet him.
Do her knees match her elbows?
Who fucking cares. She is with you not them.
That's fine. I asked for advice before here and I did get nice perspectives, but half the people went like this “Wow, my relationship is so much better”. I'd rather have 1 nice reply, then skim trough all immature comments in risk of putting off some decent people from reading. I'm sure I did not frame it my disclaimer perfectly, but honestly my issue is not that big of the deal anyway, ain't got time for subtleties. Have a good day mate
I hope he did, but I don’t know. I couldn’t be responsible for him or his well-being any longer. Haven’t spoken to him in years at this point. Choosing to put yourself first can be painful, but it will ultimately be the most fulfilling decision you can make in a situation like this.
I see a lot of people telling you that you did nothing wrong. I understand your intentions were good but all the research shows how damaging it is to try to hide a child's biology from them in cases of adoption. You were supposed to tell her about her origin in an age appropriate way from the very beginning and again throughout her life, revealing more details as she grew older. It is extremely traumatizing for her to learn that you've lied for 22 years about her birth mother and the circumstances of her conception, especially since her father isn't there for her to ask questions or get reassurance from.
You have shaken the core of her trust in you and she probably has a lot of doubt and hope about whether this is actually the truth or not. You could spend time researching how learning about an adoption or a coercive conception in adulthood can affect someone.
“I never meant for it to go like this” Well how did you mean it to go? Because it seems like you were determined to lie until you were dead and didn't have to deal with the fall out anymore. You forced her into this position. And as difficult as everything she learned is, she is also probably full of anger at you not just for lying throughout her childhood, but for continuing to try to lie when confronted.
I don't think you can successfully rebuild trust in any relationship until the person who broke the trust takes full responsibility for the choices they made that got them there. It seems like you're still in the justifying stage. It seems like you blame her for pushing when she confronted you or blame her fiance for the dna tests, but you wouldn't be in such a difficult situation right now if you and your husband had told the truth already.
You have an opportunity to work with your daughter and a counselor to determine a plan to tell her siblings. Hopefully you will take advantage of that opportunity because leaving her with the burden of knowing alone is awful and being proactive with your other children might help you retain some level of trust with them, although you should be prepared for them to be angry as well knowing you've only told them after being backed into a corner.
You haven't done anything wrong, here, and her realizing she didn't want to know AFTER she forced you to tell her doesn't change the fact that she would not let it go until she found out the truth. The only other option was to flat out refuse, in which case you would have alienated her, and she'd then get whatever version of the story your husband's rapist was going to tell. And since you clammed up, she'd believe it, and it could have landed her in a situation where she one day put a child of hers in danger not knowing the truth. You really had no choice.
Her fiancé is reacting to her pain, and logic is hard to digest when someone is that hurt, so it may not be the time to argue your point. She's going to need therapy, and once things have calmed down they will hopefully understand she put you in a position that forced this information out.
No you didn't.
Nothing about the BF involves Hilary Clinton or tribal culture and ancient abortions.
You are insane.
No you didn't.
Nothing about the BF involves Hilary Clinton or tribal culture and ancient abortions.
You are purely nonsensical in this thread.
Hell no!!! If my dude isn't smacking my ass and telling me I'm hot, I don't want him.
That’s true. I’m not asking for that. I want a sex life. There is a huge difference between them
Ooooh, you are religious, hence the need to “warn” me against living my life the way I want and the egregious amount of guilt you clearly feel when doing anything for yourself. It all makes a lot more sense now
The story where the guys wife or GF or whatever has a scummy friend that convinced the GF he was cheating and she killed herself and then the parents wanted the scummy friend to talk at the funeral or whatnot. I don't remember if they had kids or not
Y'all seriously in your late 20's? Damn. Sound like HS drama. lol
Make the first move. Think real hard about what happened. Be objective. Know what your part was in the issue. Be willing to accept responsibility for your actions as well as any related consequences. Approach your cousin and initiate a conversation. Admit where you were wrong, talk about what you were feeling that led you to act that way, then talk about what you could have done differently to handle the situation in a more mature manner. This will give you a blueprint for how to act next time you're in a similar situation. Keep in mind, there's a big difference in maturity between 19 and 25. I've had to check myself recently with my 6yo sister who constantly acts out. Now that I've stopped behaving in an immature manner when she misbehaves (or catching myself when I do and talking to her about it so I can correct it) she has become much more receptive to me
This is going to turn into an inside joke you’ll laugh about the rest of your life. Don’t say anything. Just suck it up.
If there was any unnecessary comment, it’s this one
She may love you, but she doesn't want to have sex with you. It will never get better. Get used to a celibate life.
Your bf broke up with you because you not only rejected him countless times regardless of what he did (it’s your right to not have sex of course, but at the same time it doesn’t mean he doesn’t have the right to feel bad about it.), but because you dismissed him when he tried to talk about how he felt simply because you didn’t view it to be something that concerned you until it was too late. Even though you won’t die without it in the same way you’d die from not eating or drinking, sex is considered a need for many people because it’s how they feel loved/bond with their partner in a way that goes beyond kissing, hugs and other “mild” stuff in terms of intimacy.
Is it important to everyone? No. You don’t even have to be asexual to not be interested in sex. It can just simply be one of those things that doesn’t have any appeal to you for reasons that are valid regardless of what they may be. That doesn’t mean it’s okay to push that view onto a partner that does sex as an important part of their relationship and consider it to be a need whilst also dismissing their feelings on the matter.
YOU need to learn to not dismiss your partners concerns simply because you don’t understand what the fuss is about. It’s also non YOU to be upfront about your sex drive/views on sex when it comes to partners to avoid any future heart ache. Don’t just wait until they “understand” and most certainly do not offer them sex just to stop them from leaving, especially if you don’t intend to continue to have sex with them after they agree to stay. It’s manipulation plain and simple.
I agree that this line of thinking is probable – please ask him what specifically he means by scared, because I can also envision that being said in a somewhat nonserious way
I use an old cell phone or a tablet with WiFi to record calls. I put the call on speaker and record on an app, it turns out fine. With some phones/service plans, you can hot spot so the old phone/tablet will record (if at home, have WiFi, can use WiFi (it's what I use). Try it before you try to do it. Use a phone call from a friend to practice so you know how to do it quickly. Make sure there is memory open and any apps you need are loaded. Good luck.
He won't do them until you tell him you need them
Ok some men are into being called Mr blah blah, or sir ect but the picture of you ? creepy
The whole keeping it a secret thing is abit wierd if he asked you to move in?? How does no one know Where you live?
Don't understanding why it would need to be a secret you graduated 5 years ago and only reconnected recently.
Tell her to go fuck herself. She's a terrible person and not a friend to you at all!
You can't force people into communication. Sometimes you just have to accept no answer is the answer. They have been together for 11 years. This is who he is. Pushing for something different hasn't gone anywhere.. He isn't explaining his reasoning. At some point she will have to decide what she wants based on the information that actually exists.
So just say you decided you didn’t want to go to the wedding because he was there, therefore rescinding your acceptance of Man of Honour. Alice would be crushed.
Bob may have known her longer, but if she liked him better, she would have asked him and not you.
Thank you, I don’t want her to get played around. Not a pick me girl just been cheated on my 3 separate partners hence the anxiety over this
Ten years of a good/happy life being put at risk for one night of pleasure. I know how hard it can be to say no. Especially since it's a fantasy. You will probably always wonder what it could have been. But It's better to leave you wondering what it could have been, rather than a broken friendship, or worse, a divorce.
If I were you, I'd tell your lover you want her and only her. And rock her world on your birthday.
Dump this asshole. What are you waiting for? To get a disease?
You are not sexually compatible with your partner. It doesn't matter to you, but it will absolutely be the thing simmering in the background waiting to implode bc its never been addressed.
And opening your relationship like that is giving him the opportunity to find someone who fulfills all his needs, not just emotionally.
Painkillers? You’re a grown ass man. Find some strange and move some furniture and you’ll be alright.
Painkillers? You’re a grown ass man. Find some strange and move some furniture and you’ll be alright.
Why would you feel like an ass? The guy is financially irresponsible, an irresponsible pet owner, has lied to you, and another thing of note is the fact that he logically has viewed this relationship as long term and that you might live together. As such, wouldn't you think considering getting a pet would be something you run by your partner?
It is a red flag. One of many. Stop saying you're selfish. Good luck.
Painkillers? You’re a grown ass man. Find some strange and move some furniture and you’ll be alright.
Sounds like a clear cut case of deeply engrained gender role expectations
Talk to your mental health care provider about personality disorders. Look into DBT treatment.
You sound like you were suffocating him. What you're going through isn't normal. It is illness. and you need to treat it.
I feel like I’m the only person who is going to say this so I’m going for it. I have an extremely open and honest relationship with my husband. We tell each other everything and especially the embarrassing stuff. If this happened to him, I would expect it to go down the same way. And he would tell me all about it. And we would laugh and I would make fun of him. I’m sorry it didn’t go how you expected. Buy her a waxing kit and ask if she wants to get you off instead? Idk her humor but that would crack me up.
Wtf did i just read
Re-read your first 2 paragraphs, it seems like it was written by an entirely different person than the one who can't bear to face family and friends with a cheap ring. You want this guy to go broke and read your mind about something you said you never wanted. Who blew all his savings buying A HOUSE WITH YOU.
I hope this is a troll post.
Is there anything here taht could be bad. I’m jsut anxious as she can’t really remember what happened
Just to add to this. My sister had a huge wedding . It was lovely but it was one day. Her and her husband still cannot afford a deposit for a house 4 years later and are stuck renting.
I will never understand the logic of their thinking.
You need therapy – since you're a student, get some free counseling at your college.
John needs not to interfere with any treatment plan you've been prescribed. It was wrong for him to try to get you to give up the meds and then to get mad at you for taking them without telling him.
Finally, a lot of people are not very cool with mental illness, and since their baby is vulnerable, respect their feelings about it. See if you can get bf's parents to work out a visiting schedule so baby can be there and you will stay
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Tell her. She can believe you or not, but you must tell her.
I hadn't l have type 2 and none of this sounds right
It is possible that you guys made up your minds to be together when you were so young, that you really didn’t get to know each other again as adults. She married her high school sweetheart as she felt safe in that relationship. Unfortunately, she was not ready to commit to one person but didn’t want to lose you as her fall back guy. Don’t be that guy. If she really respected you, she would have either not cheated or been honest and not married you. You don’t hurt someone you really love in that way.