thank you, fair point, despite the genders being reversed. all in all my concerns are more pre-emptive. i haven't met her yet and from our chatting, i reckon this may just turn into a short and sweet fling for both of us
u/TheBlackCowboyHat77 Think of it this way. A baby is born only when the parents what it to be, & when the parents don't want it to be born, it's bc they can't take care of the kid. Then it isn't worth having the baby. See what i am getting at? She has issues, u have issues, u both have issues, both from heath & money perspective. So fix all those so that you can choose to bring a beautiful baby into this world full of love & care. But if you hurry up that process, your premature understanding of this might hinder baby's development. Regardless of how this goes, you have to take responsibility, not abt the pregnancy, but the baby, the baby isn't born by itself, right ?
She's just 23, & you are 27. You guys still have a plenty of time to start thinking abt lasting ideas. My suggestion is, start saving/investing now, like $20 a month if you can or as much as you can. Keep it safe, when u are earning enough increase the risk you are willing to take & then when you are stable enough. You can, fix up all your health related problems .etc. Then in a few years you can actually choose with pride to bring a baby into this world.
Unfortunately she’s chosen the path of learning the hard way. As her family all you can really do is be there to catch her when she falls.
Let her know that no matter what, you’ll be a safe place she can go to
thank you, fair point, despite the genders being reversed. all in all my concerns are more pre-emptive. i haven't met her yet and from our chatting, i reckon this may just turn into a short and sweet fling for both of us
u/TheBlackCowboyHat77 Think of it this way. A baby is born only when the parents what it to be, & when the parents don't want it to be born, it's bc they can't take care of the kid. Then it isn't worth having the baby. See what i am getting at? She has issues, u have issues, u both have issues, both from heath & money perspective. So fix all those so that you can choose to bring a beautiful baby into this world full of love & care. But if you hurry up that process, your premature understanding of this might hinder baby's development. Regardless of how this goes, you have to take responsibility, not abt the pregnancy, but the baby, the baby isn't born by itself, right ?
She's just 23, & you are 27. You guys still have a plenty of time to start thinking abt lasting ideas. My suggestion is, start saving/investing now, like $20 a month if you can or as much as you can. Keep it safe, when u are earning enough increase the risk you are willing to take & then when you are stable enough. You can, fix up all your health related problems .etc. Then in a few years you can actually choose with pride to bring a baby into this world.
Yeah, either his family are weird Christians or something, or he has another official GF.
Two years is far too long. Ideally you start meeting friends and family once you've got to something like a 6-month mark.