Abusers are controlling people, and they are kind as can be as kind as they are getting their way. You are describing a coercive relationship. The 10% of felt abuse allows him to enjoy being in control the other 90% of the time, when he is probably lovely. Love does not demand control. This all sounds like a lot of big red flags.
Absolutely. He might be the best ever, but there are limits to people's patience. If he sees you continually frittering money away because your friends/family think you owe them, then he might start thinking that YOU are only with him to get to his money. This is a slippery slope and it might end with you out on the street because you can't stand up to your friends/family.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Went through it with my dad a few years ago and I still regularly come up with thing I wish I’d asked. Best wishes to you and your family.
So this whole diatribe was written to simply point out how he called you autistic or how you don't like his mom? Because now I'm fucken lost. Your title makes it seem you're mad at him. But the rest of it makes it seem like a hate towards her.
You know what, I wrote out a longer response that mentioned if we weren't told, then you can't have a go at us and so on and so forth, but you're so ready to pounce that it would make no difference.
Go to your specialists. Work on your health. Good luck.
OP, it's past time for your wife to look into government disability help. My understanding is that the US's is super perverse and practically bars her from owning property or accruing savings, but it can help some.
You don't need to confront him. Just concentrate on your mother right now. When you are ready you can move away and separate your lives. Or take what opportunities that show up now to do that without making any issue about it. Save your energy for your mother.
For real though, you need to stay away from that guy. He's acting totally inappropriately. Even if you have no intentions, by not pushing back, you're leading him on at the very least.
Abusers are controlling people, and they are kind as can be as kind as they are getting their way. You are describing a coercive relationship. The 10% of felt abuse allows him to enjoy being in control the other 90% of the time, when he is probably lovely. Love does not demand control. This all sounds like a lot of big red flags.
Absolutely. He might be the best ever, but there are limits to people's patience. If he sees you continually frittering money away because your friends/family think you owe them, then he might start thinking that YOU are only with him to get to his money. This is a slippery slope and it might end with you out on the street because you can't stand up to your friends/family.
Just tell him you miss seeing him in less formal clothes and see what he says.
Also you could give him an outfit for Christmas you find attractive and ask him to wear it on the next date night.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Went through it with my dad a few years ago and I still regularly come up with thing I wish I’d asked. Best wishes to you and your family.
So this whole diatribe was written to simply point out how he called you autistic or how you don't like his mom? Because now I'm fucken lost. Your title makes it seem you're mad at him. But the rest of it makes it seem like a hate towards her.
Find a better gf and move on.
You know what, I wrote out a longer response that mentioned if we weren't told, then you can't have a go at us and so on and so forth, but you're so ready to pounce that it would make no difference.
Go to your specialists. Work on your health. Good luck.
based on her disability.
OP, it's past time for your wife to look into government disability help. My understanding is that the US's is super perverse and practically bars her from owning property or accruing savings, but it can help some.
That much pain is not normal, even for a first time.
Please consider seeing a doctor for an exam. There are a number of conditions that can affect the ability to have sex comfortably.
Did you even read OP’s post?
I guess it got deleted within the past 10-20 minutes cuz I can't see shit… but that just makes everything extra suspicious lol.
Not your monkeys … not your business.
Of course you don’t have to be. It’s not illegal to not acknowledge someone, but it is a bit rude.
Or you simply communicate that some behaviours have certain reactions. Totally not controling.
You don't need to confront him. Just concentrate on your mother right now. When you are ready you can move away and separate your lives. Or take what opportunities that show up now to do that without making any issue about it. Save your energy for your mother.
YTA. oh wait, wrong sub.
For real though, you need to stay away from that guy. He's acting totally inappropriately. Even if you have no intentions, by not pushing back, you're leading him on at the very least.