As someone who very similar to her partner it's definitely not meant to be insulting or rude. It's honest. Some people are perfectly fine being alone. Especially after you've been in enough relationships to know that you often prefer being alone to being in a relationship. Every now and then someone you like comes into your life and for whatever reason they get you and don't allow you to push them away or disappear without nagging you or making you feel guilty. So you don't mind it and a genuine affection can grow from that. I'm not saying it is a healthy way to live but we all play the cards we're dealt.
I'm eternally grateful for the people I have in my life and a lot of that has to do with knowing I don't have to edit myself or perform for them. They know what they are getting and still want to be in my life. That's more powerful to me than any talent or special skill they have. Which isn't to say they aren't all talented wonderful people in their own right. It's just not why I love them. I love them for the person they are regardless of those things.
Her ex boyfriend controlled what she could wear, who she could talk to, and beat her up. You on the other hand, let your girlfriend's friend move in, no questions asked, to your extra bedroom to help and support her and make sure she was safe. You'd think that, combined with your SIX YEAR LONG HISTORY, would be sufficient evidence that you and this guy are nothing alike and I don't blame you for feeling insulted.
I think you did the right thing leaving because your girlfriend isn't being rational. I get being upset on her friend's behalf but for fuck's sake you do not deserve this at all. She is the one that needs therapy, not you.
It illustrates a lack of respect for you, I would 100% be unhappy / disinterested in someone who openly flirts with someone else in front of me. Life's too short to mess around with fools who play games like that.
I swear to God he will never persuade me enough to be in an open relationship. His view is sex is not that big of a deal and sexting/dirty talk to him is a quick jerk off and an unreal fantasy. Like a more realistic porn. If it doesn’t hurt our relationship then I’m ok with it. I just need to figure out what boundaries should I set so this sexting won’t go too far. But thank you for your comment
Hey thanks for responding, I ended up sleeping with the first guy, he didn’t bring his friend, we spoke about what I was ready for and what I wasn’t and we both agreed that I am not ready for one yet xx
As someone who very similar to her partner it's definitely not meant to be insulting or rude. It's honest. Some people are perfectly fine being alone. Especially after you've been in enough relationships to know that you often prefer being alone to being in a relationship. Every now and then someone you like comes into your life and for whatever reason they get you and don't allow you to push them away or disappear without nagging you or making you feel guilty. So you don't mind it and a genuine affection can grow from that. I'm not saying it is a healthy way to live but we all play the cards we're dealt.
I'm eternally grateful for the people I have in my life and a lot of that has to do with knowing I don't have to edit myself or perform for them. They know what they are getting and still want to be in my life. That's more powerful to me than any talent or special skill they have. Which isn't to say they aren't all talented wonderful people in their own right. It's just not why I love them. I love them for the person they are regardless of those things.
Dump the boyfriend. Wear whatever you want.
Call your grandparents to check on them. They are old and have physical and mental problems now. The will have good and bad days.
When your nan is calm and alone mention how shocked you were and try to have a discussion with her.
I admire you and your mom both. Best to you. Hugs.
Her ex boyfriend controlled what she could wear, who she could talk to, and beat her up. You on the other hand, let your girlfriend's friend move in, no questions asked, to your extra bedroom to help and support her and make sure she was safe. You'd think that, combined with your SIX YEAR LONG HISTORY, would be sufficient evidence that you and this guy are nothing alike and I don't blame you for feeling insulted.
I think you did the right thing leaving because your girlfriend isn't being rational. I get being upset on her friend's behalf but for fuck's sake you do not deserve this at all. She is the one that needs therapy, not you.
It illustrates a lack of respect for you, I would 100% be unhappy / disinterested in someone who openly flirts with someone else in front of me. Life's too short to mess around with fools who play games like that.
I swear to God he will never persuade me enough to be in an open relationship. His view is sex is not that big of a deal and sexting/dirty talk to him is a quick jerk off and an unreal fantasy. Like a more realistic porn. If it doesn’t hurt our relationship then I’m ok with it. I just need to figure out what boundaries should I set so this sexting won’t go too far. But thank you for your comment
Which could change if you fk it up. The smallest thing could turn that around.
Hey thanks for responding, I ended up sleeping with the first guy, he didn’t bring his friend, we spoke about what I was ready for and what I wasn’t and we both agreed that I am not ready for one yet xx