I’m learning that you can’t compare the new relationship energy phase with the more comfortable and settled in phase. You’re through the discovery phase so those nights where you stay up talking become fewer because you no longer have everything to learn about each other. If it’s the long talks you miss most, I would suggest getting a good couples conversation card deck and using those as prompts.
I’m saying this for myself as much as you…being able to exist in comfortable and companionable silence with your partner is healthy!
I think it would be okay to tell her it can't become a pattern, although I suspect she is already very embarrassed.
A better approach is you could ask what her jobhunting strategy looks like. If you live in the US, there are loads of jobs begging for applicants. Sometimes a job hunter is too picky and that's a problem, because the longer you are unemployed, the more unemployable you become.
Your partner is sacrificing real life for a imaginary life. I understand making friends can be hard for introverts….but she is ignoring giant red flags and sounds like you don't wanna take the stand you know needs to be taken.
Describe the flirting between them? Is it the way she’s talking or what she’s saying? Is she being touchy?
Do you trust him? Has he ever given you reason not to?
If he knows how you feel about her and still goes, he doesn’t respect you or your feelings. You can’t convince him not to do something he wants to do. He should consider your feelings, and it seems he’d rather enjoy the cruise than respect how you feel. Take that however you want.
So, to put it bluntly, you’ve got an addiction. That rush you describe? It’s a rush of hormones that you’ve gotten addicted to, and as soon as they deplete – because they always will – you’re out to find your next fix. It’s not even a committed, long term relationship you’re out for, it’s the hormone rush you’re out for. Which sucks, because there is always going to be someone at the butt-end of it who will likely feel misled and wind up hurt.
If you’re not ready to break your addiction, I suggest using apps where you can forge connections with folks who are also addicted or at least be up front that you’re not committed to long term!
But does mom love him more than she would love a grandchild? Like someone else said, donuts to dollars those jerks are gonna come back around begging for forgiveness when little bit gets here. I mean, you were struggling to conceive have a ONS and bam pregnant?! It’s never gonna be the same with your husband and deep down you probably will never forgive him if you do get an A. Block everyone right now so you can focus on your pregnancy and not stress.
Why would he allow this journal to be added to the attic collection? A journal like that isnt something you want falling into the wrong hands.
And have you considered that if he has to write this out ten years after the fact that he has some guilt and trauma over this himself? Perhaps he has tried to become a better person and atone for his actions? Who is to say that the criminal justice system would have done a better job of punishing and rehabilitating him? Surely its worth talking to him since this can destroy your family on top of the poor girl's life that twenty-five or thirty years ago?
I'm not saying you should not divorce him, but shouldnt you at least allow him a trial in your own mind?
Gosh, this sounds familiar!
I’m learning that you can’t compare the new relationship energy phase with the more comfortable and settled in phase. You’re through the discovery phase so those nights where you stay up talking become fewer because you no longer have everything to learn about each other. If it’s the long talks you miss most, I would suggest getting a good couples conversation card deck and using those as prompts.
I’m saying this for myself as much as you…being able to exist in comfortable and companionable silence with your partner is healthy!
I think it would be okay to tell her it can't become a pattern, although I suspect she is already very embarrassed.
A better approach is you could ask what her jobhunting strategy looks like. If you live in the US, there are loads of jobs begging for applicants. Sometimes a job hunter is too picky and that's a problem, because the longer you are unemployed, the more unemployable you become.
Let him decide if you’re the kind of person he’s looking for.
Don’t prematurely end a good thing you have going baes on your insecurities.
Schwang!
Your partner is sacrificing real life for a imaginary life. I understand making friends can be hard for introverts….but she is ignoring giant red flags and sounds like you don't wanna take the stand you know needs to be taken.
Describe the flirting between them? Is it the way she’s talking or what she’s saying? Is she being touchy?
Do you trust him? Has he ever given you reason not to?
If he knows how you feel about her and still goes, he doesn’t respect you or your feelings. You can’t convince him not to do something he wants to do. He should consider your feelings, and it seems he’d rather enjoy the cruise than respect how you feel. Take that however you want.
So, to put it bluntly, you’ve got an addiction. That rush you describe? It’s a rush of hormones that you’ve gotten addicted to, and as soon as they deplete – because they always will – you’re out to find your next fix. It’s not even a committed, long term relationship you’re out for, it’s the hormone rush you’re out for. Which sucks, because there is always going to be someone at the butt-end of it who will likely feel misled and wind up hurt.
If you’re not ready to break your addiction, I suggest using apps where you can forge connections with folks who are also addicted or at least be up front that you’re not committed to long term!
But does mom love him more than she would love a grandchild? Like someone else said, donuts to dollars those jerks are gonna come back around begging for forgiveness when little bit gets here. I mean, you were struggling to conceive have a ONS and bam pregnant?! It’s never gonna be the same with your husband and deep down you probably will never forgive him if you do get an A. Block everyone right now so you can focus on your pregnancy and not stress.
Have you ever been in a serious relationship with sex? When was that?
So you aren't poly. You are irrelevant and all other communication from you will be ignored
Dude you totally changed the course of your life for the better. Bra-fucking-vo ?
Why would he allow this journal to be added to the attic collection? A journal like that isnt something you want falling into the wrong hands.
And have you considered that if he has to write this out ten years after the fact that he has some guilt and trauma over this himself? Perhaps he has tried to become a better person and atone for his actions? Who is to say that the criminal justice system would have done a better job of punishing and rehabilitating him? Surely its worth talking to him since this can destroy your family on top of the poor girl's life that twenty-five or thirty years ago?
I'm not saying you should not divorce him, but shouldnt you at least allow him a trial in your own mind?
You still don’t get it. That’s what your “bestie” is doing.
Sounds awfully toxic to me. Plan B behavior. She wanted the breakup and is now dangling hope in your face, as well as other guys.
Trust me, cut contact, move on, find better. It'll save a lot of heart ache.
Dude.. Just, like what?!
Was there lead paint in the Short bus that took you to school?