I can't really bring myself to break up with him. The thought just hurts. We've talked about having a business together or other ways that would allow me to be around him more often. I'm still studying and a lot can happen in the future so I guess we'll just have to wait and see.
I’ve honestly considered therapy but the NHS waitlists are a joke and i’m not in a financial position to pay for it myself (student loans will do that lmao). Please enlighten me on how I should interpret him watching porn. The way I see it, if I looked different videos of me would be enough to satisfy him. So why weren’t they
My friend who makes over twice what you do bought his ex fiancé a ring that cost $3000. H even thinks that’s too much in hindsight and he’s not someone stingy with money.
On the one hand, theoretically it’s an item she will wear every day for the rest of her life so in some sense it’s worth spending more money on than other jewelry (though in reality a lot of people won’t be married for that long). But I also think that expecting a more expensive ring for the sake of it/tradition rather than what qualities she actually likes in a ring is a bit of a red flag. But your comment about the Rolex isn’t much better – what exactly makes a Rolex any more of a practical purchase than something she will wear every day? Prestige? Resale value?
I think you both need to have some serious conversations about expectations, approaches to tradition and spending, etc. before getting engaged. I also think that if you do continue on with proposing, you should get an idea of the style of ring she likes, buy what you can afford that matches, and never tell her the cost. Or you could offer something like “if I buy this, we have a cheaper wedding.”
I can't really bring myself to break up with him. The thought just hurts. We've talked about having a business together or other ways that would allow me to be around him more often. I'm still studying and a lot can happen in the future so I guess we'll just have to wait and see.
Wow, what a swindler. Leave now because divorcing him would suuuuck!
I’ve honestly considered therapy but the NHS waitlists are a joke and i’m not in a financial position to pay for it myself (student loans will do that lmao). Please enlighten me on how I should interpret him watching porn. The way I see it, if I looked different videos of me would be enough to satisfy him. So why weren’t they
If you want that it sounds great, tell her soon so you minimize the risk of resenting her if she doesn’t feel the same and try to take things slowly.
Don't propose out of pressure, but she deserves someone that prioritizes her and you should let her go find that.
It’s his way of trying to control you.
All the time you agree to this ludicrous idea he will be able to keep you under his control.
Don’t fall for it. Take the bonded pair then cease all contact. Block him and never let him contact you again.
My friend who makes over twice what you do bought his ex fiancé a ring that cost $3000. H even thinks that’s too much in hindsight and he’s not someone stingy with money.
On the one hand, theoretically it’s an item she will wear every day for the rest of her life so in some sense it’s worth spending more money on than other jewelry (though in reality a lot of people won’t be married for that long). But I also think that expecting a more expensive ring for the sake of it/tradition rather than what qualities she actually likes in a ring is a bit of a red flag. But your comment about the Rolex isn’t much better – what exactly makes a Rolex any more of a practical purchase than something she will wear every day? Prestige? Resale value?
I think you both need to have some serious conversations about expectations, approaches to tradition and spending, etc. before getting engaged. I also think that if you do continue on with proposing, you should get an idea of the style of ring she likes, buy what you can afford that matches, and never tell her the cost. Or you could offer something like “if I buy this, we have a cheaper wedding.”