Yeah, if he doesn't like the division of labor while his wife is pregnant, he's not going to like it after the baby either. And he's certainly not going to want to be a single dad.
My money is on him being a visitation dad, returning the kid to mom after a few hours of candy and all the “fun stuff” he thinks fathers do. At least until he gets his new wife or family and disappears, showing up only for the important events to tell himself he's a great dad.
You can’t both be annoyed you don’t have enough sex and uncomfortable when your girlfriend gets horny. A huge chunk of my middle aged friend’s sex lives livened back up when smut came into their lives. Your girlfriend got horny talking about sex with a friend about sex this is pretty common.
Ok, your friend needs space. You need to respect that. Your friend also needs support, so you need to stop worrying about yourself for a minute and offer that support.
Send Lond a text that says something like:
Hey Lond, your sibling told me you're dealing with some things right now and need a little time to handle that. I am going to give you some space to take care of your business, but I wanted to let you know first that of course I am here for you whatever you need— you know all you have to do is reach out & I will do what I can. Otherwise, I hope whatever it is works out as well as it can, and I'll be ready to talk (or just listen) whenever you want. Talk to you soon, buddy
Then spend some time hanging out with other people and socializing yourself a little more with different people. Lond will reach out when he's ready, but it's important that you give him space and that he feels confident that he can lean on you if needed
If she’s still doing drugs then she’s the same parent you always had. Why would she suddenly care about children when she didn’t care before? There isn’t a rule book to life- sometime you have to do what you must to save your sanity and in this instance protect your baby. You don’t have to feel bad or worry about being called cruel. Cruel was what you had as a child. She is lucky to be alive, but clearly not reborn!
Yeah, if he doesn't like the division of labor while his wife is pregnant, he's not going to like it after the baby either. And he's certainly not going to want to be a single dad.
My money is on him being a visitation dad, returning the kid to mom after a few hours of candy and all the “fun stuff” he thinks fathers do. At least until he gets his new wife or family and disappears, showing up only for the important events to tell himself he's a great dad.
You can’t both be annoyed you don’t have enough sex and uncomfortable when your girlfriend gets horny. A huge chunk of my middle aged friend’s sex lives livened back up when smut came into their lives. Your girlfriend got horny talking about sex with a friend about sex this is pretty common.
Ok, your friend needs space. You need to respect that. Your friend also needs support, so you need to stop worrying about yourself for a minute and offer that support.
Send Lond a text that says something like:
Hey Lond, your sibling told me you're dealing with some things right now and need a little time to handle that. I am going to give you some space to take care of your business, but I wanted to let you know first that of course I am here for you whatever you need— you know all you have to do is reach out & I will do what I can. Otherwise, I hope whatever it is works out as well as it can, and I'll be ready to talk (or just listen) whenever you want. Talk to you soon, buddy
Then spend some time hanging out with other people and socializing yourself a little more with different people. Lond will reach out when he's ready, but it's important that you give him space and that he feels confident that he can lean on you if needed
Yikes what’s going on?
sounds like it ?
If she’s still doing drugs then she’s the same parent you always had. Why would she suddenly care about children when she didn’t care before? There isn’t a rule book to life- sometime you have to do what you must to save your sanity and in this instance protect your baby. You don’t have to feel bad or worry about being called cruel. Cruel was what you had as a child. She is lucky to be alive, but clearly not reborn!