People are usually on their best behavior for the first 2 years of a relationship. After that the real person starts to come forward. What you're seeing now. Is what your future looks like.
You're right, he might leave. But I don't want to have sex or be FWB. That's part of what I no longer want to feel pressured to do. I really feel like I want to know him a lot deeper before continuing to share my body and life with him. He definitely has the right to say “no thanks” and find someone else
If you are uncomfortable around him, don't move in with them. Explain to your boyfriend that sometimes he's a bit too eager around you and it feels inappropriate bc of your relationship.
Don't stay with a partner who will let friends (or anyone) disrespect you. Don't stay with someone who acts like they don't know doing so is wrong (I guarantee if she heard you let a friend belittle her it would be a big deal). The “I'm not going to bed until you do” – is very very clearly inappropriate. It's effectively the childish 'You hang up first!' flirty thing young people do. If she can't even straightly admit she was acting very inappropriately I don't see a lot of hope.
People are usually on their best behavior for the first 2 years of a relationship. After that the real person starts to come forward. What you're seeing now. Is what your future looks like.
Of course you should pay rent if you live there.
I think I do eventually plan to cut them out of my life just still don’t know if that’s the right decision
!remindme 6 months
You're right, he might leave. But I don't want to have sex or be FWB. That's part of what I no longer want to feel pressured to do. I really feel like I want to know him a lot deeper before continuing to share my body and life with him. He definitely has the right to say “no thanks” and find someone else
Yeah, I can see that being the case for like a teenager, maybe, but she's 37! If that is the case, I'd be more concerned about her lack of a backbone.
If you are uncomfortable around him, don't move in with them. Explain to your boyfriend that sometimes he's a bit too eager around you and it feels inappropriate bc of your relationship.
Don't stay with a partner who will let friends (or anyone) disrespect you. Don't stay with someone who acts like they don't know doing so is wrong (I guarantee if she heard you let a friend belittle her it would be a big deal). The “I'm not going to bed until you do” – is very very clearly inappropriate. It's effectively the childish 'You hang up first!' flirty thing young people do. If she can't even straightly admit she was acting very inappropriately I don't see a lot of hope.
Don't get pregnant! Find someone who is compatible with you in all the important ways. This relationship cannot be sustained.