You ARE being controlled and dominated, and he’s been doing it over years. I bet this isn’t the only area where you have to acquiesce to him despite knowing his opinion / thoughts / decision is ridiculous.
He sounds like a douche but it is NEVER okay to put your hands on someone. You have two important things to think about: 1) why did you slap him? It sounds like you have some things related to death you've tried to ignore. Believe me, I acted very out of character when my sister died. You need to get control of this now. 2) This man obviously brings out the worst in you. He's not contributing to any healing you need to happen. He is minimizing your grief. You DO NOT need that in your life. At all.
There is a reason people don't use references to pop culture or whatever in formal language or business conferences or academic journals – because they are aware that people who lack their exact background in pop culture or whatever won't understand them.
I'd say whenever there's a communication problem it's almost always the fault of the person making the reference rather than the person trying to follow the reference. Not everyone has the entire script of mean girls memorized word for word.
Is that really someone you want to be with mate? I mean you paint her as the woman of your dreams… But really? the woman of your dreams wouldn't pick someone else over you would they?
The boundary doesn't make sense lmao you cant stop cheating by making it a rule.. that rule is already implicit in the relationship. “no guy/girl friends” as a boundary will be broken every single time because its completely unrealistic.
I’m sorry, but I’m literally laughing at all of your comments. You just wanna stay totally clueless and not listen to a word people are saying. You’re in for a world of hurt with this guy!
I hate to break it to you, but realistically 13 is not that bad for 24 years old, and its pretty unrealistic to think you'll find a virgin at your age… I'm not saying they don't exist, but odds are not in your favor.
I think its extremely unfair to break up with someone because they slept with people in their past… Shes got experience, let her help catch you up on some things that you might have missed out on. Think of the glass half full instead.
You realize that he did this because he doesn't consider the effects of his actions on you, right? Frankly, assuming it's available in your area, you should be telling him outright that he's financially SCREWED you both, and he needs to download gig delivery/rideshare apps, sign up immediately, and do that at night while spending ALL DAY applying for jobs, and any time he's not spending applying for jobs, he needs to be doing uber/lyft/doordash/grubhub/etc., because he's REALLY screwed up big time. Anything other than “yes dear” should be met with divorce papers because he has REALLY screwed up. This is nearly as bad of a betrayal as cheating would have been.
Yup second this also seems to not be able to read normal social clues if he just assumed that he got the job and that having a massive tantrum is normal. It’s a bad combination of traits and I think this is the sort of person that under pressure can turn dangerous.
She sounds like she's gearing up to abandon you and your daughter.
Sorry there isn't more along the lines of mending your relationship, but you've got to think of taking care of your kid first, especially since her other parent doesn't.
I would seriously consider a divorce so you can focus on doing your own thing before she up and bails to Europe and you don't here from her until she's done being a shit bag.
You’re such a piece of shit and a pervert I hope you are miserable forever. married a teenager and then cheated on her with a teenager. Fucking tell her if you ever loved her at all which I’m assuming you don’t
Ok I will. Thank you so much. You've been kinder to me than my ex was for our entire relationship. Thank you for helping me to see that I wasn't overreacting and that it was fucked up. He treated me like I was being ungrateful and tried to act like there was nothing wrong, like it was totally normal.
He almost had me convinced that I was the problem. I was still going to leave him anyway. He completely broke my trust and was emotionally cheating and for me, there's no coming back from that. Thank you again.
Once you tried sexual activities and they were unenjoyabke for you, you should have stepped this back to just friends.
I'm not sure why you let this escalate to living together but it's only going to go down hill. Long term relationship typically start with the most/hottest sex and things cool from there. They don't start with not being attracted to the other person at all and hoping your tastes suddenly change.
What of woman did you date before? If it was no where near your current girl, she knows what's up and it's destroying her self esteem.
Seems like you were not sexually attracted to her from the beginning. The way you describe her sounds more like a beloved friend rather than a romantic companion.
I would be honest with yourself. If you were never sexually attracted to her – and still am not, it might be time to end the relationship. Sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship.
It’s not a small issue that someone blatantly does something you asked them not to. You can continue letting people stomp on your boundaries but I beg of you to not advise the same to others
Daaaaaaaamn. So you think that it's immoral to think certain things? You believe that having a certain thought is itself an immoral act? That's wild. I didn't know people still believed in thought crime. I strenuously disagree with you, however I do thank you for being honest about your views!
? She made sure to let me know my place early on ?
I like to think of us as some real life version of Garfield where she is obsessed with cereal instead of lasagna. I cuss at her like a sailor, but that cat is my ride or die. Well. She’s ride or die as long as I keep feeding her with these sweet ass thumbs. Lol
You ARE being controlled and dominated, and he’s been doing it over years. I bet this isn’t the only area where you have to acquiesce to him despite knowing his opinion / thoughts / decision is ridiculous.
He sounds like a douche but it is NEVER okay to put your hands on someone. You have two important things to think about: 1) why did you slap him? It sounds like you have some things related to death you've tried to ignore. Believe me, I acted very out of character when my sister died. You need to get control of this now. 2) This man obviously brings out the worst in you. He's not contributing to any healing you need to happen. He is minimizing your grief. You DO NOT need that in your life. At all.
Because it’s not going to get better. She’s not into you clearly. Leave her, grief the relationship and then find someone else.
There is a reason people don't use references to pop culture or whatever in formal language or business conferences or academic journals – because they are aware that people who lack their exact background in pop culture or whatever won't understand them.
I'd say whenever there's a communication problem it's almost always the fault of the person making the reference rather than the person trying to follow the reference. Not everyone has the entire script of mean girls memorized word for word.
Is that really someone you want to be with mate? I mean you paint her as the woman of your dreams… But really? the woman of your dreams wouldn't pick someone else over you would they?
The boundary doesn't make sense lmao you cant stop cheating by making it a rule.. that rule is already implicit in the relationship. “no guy/girl friends” as a boundary will be broken every single time because its completely unrealistic.
Stop spewing misinformation.
If you have doubt about paternity you can get a paternity test, even in the US.
OP is a woman.
I’m sorry, but I’m literally laughing at all of your comments. You just wanna stay totally clueless and not listen to a word people are saying. You’re in for a world of hurt with this guy!
I hate to break it to you, but realistically 13 is not that bad for 24 years old, and its pretty unrealistic to think you'll find a virgin at your age… I'm not saying they don't exist, but odds are not in your favor.
I think its extremely unfair to break up with someone because they slept with people in their past… Shes got experience, let her help catch you up on some things that you might have missed out on. Think of the glass half full instead.
You realize that he did this because he doesn't consider the effects of his actions on you, right? Frankly, assuming it's available in your area, you should be telling him outright that he's financially SCREWED you both, and he needs to download gig delivery/rideshare apps, sign up immediately, and do that at night while spending ALL DAY applying for jobs, and any time he's not spending applying for jobs, he needs to be doing uber/lyft/doordash/grubhub/etc., because he's REALLY screwed up big time. Anything other than “yes dear” should be met with divorce papers because he has REALLY screwed up. This is nearly as bad of a betrayal as cheating would have been.
Yup second this also seems to not be able to read normal social clues if he just assumed that he got the job and that having a massive tantrum is normal. It’s a bad combination of traits and I think this is the sort of person that under pressure can turn dangerous.
She sounds like she's gearing up to abandon you and your daughter.
Sorry there isn't more along the lines of mending your relationship, but you've got to think of taking care of your kid first, especially since her other parent doesn't.
I would seriously consider a divorce so you can focus on doing your own thing before she up and bails to Europe and you don't here from her until she's done being a shit bag.
Mom is 54 and should be able to make her own accommodations. Even if she stayed by brother, she could have been assaulted if she went out to eat.
You’re such a piece of shit and a pervert I hope you are miserable forever. married a teenager and then cheated on her with a teenager. Fucking tell her if you ever loved her at all which I’m assuming you don’t
Ok I will. Thank you so much. You've been kinder to me than my ex was for our entire relationship. Thank you for helping me to see that I wasn't overreacting and that it was fucked up. He treated me like I was being ungrateful and tried to act like there was nothing wrong, like it was totally normal.
He almost had me convinced that I was the problem. I was still going to leave him anyway. He completely broke my trust and was emotionally cheating and for me, there's no coming back from that. Thank you again.
In a hypothetical world with magic, no I would not add an inch in length or girth to my husband.
Once you tried sexual activities and they were unenjoyabke for you, you should have stepped this back to just friends.
I'm not sure why you let this escalate to living together but it's only going to go down hill. Long term relationship typically start with the most/hottest sex and things cool from there. They don't start with not being attracted to the other person at all and hoping your tastes suddenly change.
What of woman did you date before? If it was no where near your current girl, she knows what's up and it's destroying her self esteem.
Reservations due to lack of attraction?
Seems like you were not sexually attracted to her from the beginning. The way you describe her sounds more like a beloved friend rather than a romantic companion.
I would be honest with yourself. If you were never sexually attracted to her – and still am not, it might be time to end the relationship. Sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship.
It’s not going to get any better.
I'm worried for your future.
You think it's better to keep natural conflicts from your partner, and you also seen to think that you have a leg up on those who don't.
You're the type of person that we usually read about on these subs
Exactly. Suck it up for 60 seconds and just fake it.
Therein lies the problem.
He left the friend zone when he professed his love to a married woman. Now she should be on damage control for her marriage.
She's ridiculous. She likes the attention, and is disrespectful to you and your relationship.
It’s not a small issue that someone blatantly does something you asked them not to. You can continue letting people stomp on your boundaries but I beg of you to not advise the same to others
Daaaaaaaamn. So you think that it's immoral to think certain things? You believe that having a certain thought is itself an immoral act? That's wild. I didn't know people still believed in thought crime. I strenuously disagree with you, however I do thank you for being honest about your views!
I agree, if you’re in a tough spot, need time to save some money and make a plan, this is a good option. Definitely stop sleeping with him though.
? She made sure to let me know my place early on ?
I like to think of us as some real life version of Garfield where she is obsessed with cereal instead of lasagna. I cuss at her like a sailor, but that cat is my ride or die. Well. She’s ride or die as long as I keep feeding her with these sweet ass thumbs. Lol
Sounds like time to move in together.