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If the chicken didn't smell…You should have just used it. Bad chicken smells disgusting. A sell buy date means they have to sell it by that day or freeze it. Don't say anything to her it's not worth it.
I forgot to mention in the OP as I've said in my other comment that after she said she wasn't in the right headspace, she also got upset one time when I told her I was going to give her some space saying she didn't think it was fair on me to keep leaving her, this was literally in a back to back message after saying again she isn't in a good headspace
What would the purpose be of that if she didn't want to talk to me again? It just made me wonder if she actually wanted to break up or if it was more of a cry for some support or something I guess?
I think I won't message again though, I can't really see her ever coming back now, just seems like a shame
The one reason why i don't want to friends again with this person is because during the relationship also they took me for granted pretty often and i kind of have a feeling that with the friendzone path it's going to be the same…
That is your cue.you haven’t said they have to be removed from his life just his socials and he has valued these pics and whatever tie it is keeping to his ex and her fam over you. I get the impression he thinks if he removes them and her/fam see that it’s officially over. His priority is not you
He may be 'really good at hiding it' but some of his behaviours are telling.
Have you sat him down and asked his straight out, “what the hell is going on with us?” If it's a work stress thing, he may need to speak to a counsellor. If it's the 'OMG I'm an adult with responsibilities' thing, he may need to speak to a counsellor. If he's not sure of his feelings, future, etc., etc., he may need to speak to a counsellor.
He needs to come back to his role as your partner. If you're not feeling secure in the relationship, and he won't act on it, you need to talk about letting it go.
Does he do the same thing. For example, when he interrupts you does he say “I feel like it is disrespectful for you to say that without saying I feel.” Or “I feel that it is disrespectful for you to point out the dusty bunnies without clarifying that it is only your opinion that large dusty bunnies are an indication that I didn't do a good job of vacuuming, as I feel that that this is an unfair assumption?”
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Look up “sunk cost fallacy”. Drop him.
Right now i am staying in my BF country. In 3 days i am going back to the country i am staying with. For now I'm still in college
If the chicken didn't smell…You should have just used it. Bad chicken smells disgusting. A sell buy date means they have to sell it by that day or freeze it. Don't say anything to her it's not worth it.
“One lie is more than enough to break my trust. I'm not comfortable continuing this relationship. I hope you find what you're looking for.”
You saw a bra, and there's no way a bra from MONTHS ago is suddenly just hanging on his door, especially after a night of flirting with another woman.
You deserve better, hunny. Dump him, 4 months is nothing.
That's fair. Hope it goes okay
Can Reddit Illinois weigh in for support?
I forgot to mention in the OP as I've said in my other comment that after she said she wasn't in the right headspace, she also got upset one time when I told her I was going to give her some space saying she didn't think it was fair on me to keep leaving her, this was literally in a back to back message after saying again she isn't in a good headspace
What would the purpose be of that if she didn't want to talk to me again? It just made me wonder if she actually wanted to break up or if it was more of a cry for some support or something I guess?
I think I won't message again though, I can't really see her ever coming back now, just seems like a shame
The one reason why i don't want to friends again with this person is because during the relationship also they took me for granted pretty often and i kind of have a feeling that with the friendzone path it's going to be the same…
OP, now you know what’s important to your elderly bf. Not you. Just sex.
CUE GASP that a 51 year old man would be using a 20 something for sex!!!!!
if it is GPS , should be accurate within 100 feet or so. she was likely there.
1km margin of error is an error that is unacceptable by all location based standards. she's lying.
When I mean use I just been for pics, should have been clear on that but I appreciate you advice. I’m just a over thinker and I assume the worst
That is your cue.you haven’t said they have to be removed from his life just his socials and he has valued these pics and whatever tie it is keeping to his ex and her fam over you. I get the impression he thinks if he removes them and her/fam see that it’s officially over. His priority is not you
And if they did, it was sexual assault
He may be 'really good at hiding it' but some of his behaviours are telling.
Have you sat him down and asked his straight out, “what the hell is going on with us?” If it's a work stress thing, he may need to speak to a counsellor. If it's the 'OMG I'm an adult with responsibilities' thing, he may need to speak to a counsellor. If he's not sure of his feelings, future, etc., etc., he may need to speak to a counsellor.
He needs to come back to his role as your partner. If you're not feeling secure in the relationship, and he won't act on it, you need to talk about letting it go.
Does he do the same thing. For example, when he interrupts you does he say “I feel like it is disrespectful for you to say that without saying I feel.” Or “I feel that it is disrespectful for you to point out the dusty bunnies without clarifying that it is only your opinion that large dusty bunnies are an indication that I didn't do a good job of vacuuming, as I feel that that this is an unfair assumption?”
His choice is whether to even ask or not was what I was saying. Or just say no without asking.
Yeah, but a response that shows interest would be “ I can’t, I have this family thing- but what about Friday?”
Maybe she doesn’t she you as a long term relationship?
What if you ever talk to her brother and find out you were invited?
No you don’t need to just chill out. He’s nasty asf for that
Not yet. I assumed that after a while she'd automatically offer to split, but it's been 2 months and I'm starting to question things.