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Date: October 19, 2022
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r/rant maybe?
Get outta there!
admittedly on and off
I'm more interested in hearing about this. A one-time mistake with someone hell never see again and was immediately honest about is something a long-term couple in love can potentially work on. But this is another in a series of issues in your relationship.
Are those issues just life stuff (job opportunities pulling you apart, family stuff, etc ) or were these issues caused by him or the both of you together? Why was it on and off?
Oh good. For a minute there I thought all the ladies who met me immediately thought “That's a prude, we'll just wait until she leaves the room to get to the juicy stuff”
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You deserve to have a person fully devoted to you. It’s clear that your wife isn’t going to be that person for you
It’s pretty obvious she’s not comfortable sharing things. Listen, sharing trauma over the internet is not the same as doing it in person. I’ve had people in discord tell me all about their traumatic backstory on day one. It’s cheap therapy , I guess. Or maybe it’s unresolved and the internet is a safe place to unload because it’s easier to ditch people who are unsympathetic. I honestly don’t know.
Anyway, it sounds like she’s just using you for the sympathy. I’d just untangle myself from it all, man. It doesn’t sound like she should be in a relationship and I’m not sure you should be either if you’re settling for this level of insanity.
Take some time and learn to be happy and comfortable with yourself.
That's what I was going to ask
Yup she wanted to be able to show her boyfriend and say see everyone agrees with me
People like that will never change. You deserve to be respected and loved for who you are. This isn't love. It's manipulation and control. This will never be fixed because in his eyes he's right and it's all justified.
As an anonymous Internet mum, for what it's worth I'm really proud of you for finally seeing the truth and coming out of the fog.
It's abuse!! You need sleep, she is keeping you from getting it, end it now!!
If he refuses condoms, you refuse sex.
Sorry, you asked “how” so I answered.
I see a lot of comments here saying that it's not cheating because they hadn't discussed being exclusive.
Is that something sort of American thing? Like if you're seeing someone but don't say those magic words then you're free to bang as many people as you want?
In my book she did cheat. They had been seeing each other for a fee months, she was round his house several times a week, they talked everyday……..then the first time she's away from him she bangs a couple of random guys? Clearly their relationship didn't mean anything to her
Thank you so much like that helps a lot …. There’s just one question that idek if I can answer myself is if I am ready… financially yes and with him yes but I Just like like I might miss my parents and get very sad but is this just apart of moving out of ur childhood home or is this a sign of me not being ready to leave them yet?
Your family dynamics are super fucked up.
Clearly in this instance your wife was not irrational in her insecurity, but I'm not going to be as quick as the other commenters to dismiss the possibility that she is insecure. Huge numbers of people, both men and women, deal with insecurity of different kinds and if they don't address it it can be a real drag on a relationship. Clearly this instance is your burden to bear when it comes to dealing with Amy and responding to your wife's valid concerns in a way that shows her in no uncertain terms that she is valued and protected in the relationship, and that likely means cutting Amy off for good. But if she does show insecurity or jealousy towards female friends or coworkers in general, that is hers to own, and she will need to do work on her sense of security and self-worth to keep the relationship healthy. I've seen a lot of relationships flounder because one partner is constantly worried that their partner will leave them for someone “better”, and so often it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy because they burn out with this worry and pull away from their partner, feeling it would be easier to not be with someone than be worried all the time. Hope you both figure this out.
Your situation raises an interesting question? What is marriage? What constitutes marriage? Is it the paperwork involved? The protection of law that if the marriage fails you are entitled to certain things? If that is the case, can a civil contract between parties substitute it?
Is marriage, the commitment you have to your partner, that you’ll love them, be there for them, cherish them? If that is marriage, does that commitment constitutes marriage only if it is done in front of an officer of law?
I can’t answer these questions for you, I can only tell you my perspective…are you happy, does he love you, do you love him, does he take care of you, is he there for you to lean on if you’d need to, does he respect you, treat you with kindness, show that he cherishes you every day?
If the answers to those questions are yes, isn’t that a marriage already? Only you can decide
Again it’s not that she has these issues it’s that she forces them on her partner. If he doesn’t agree that her way is the only way then he is wrong. It doesn’t sound like many of the things you put here apply
He’s trying to eventually baby trap her soon.
That’s why he took her pills.
He wants a kid in nine months.
Op, needs to run!
dude, she's gonna kill you next time
That’s financially reckless.
He deliberately made his situation worse. That behaviour will impact your life, if you stay.
No she is toxic. You need to leave.
OP, Dude this is so fucking ridiculous. If you love her this is a no-brainer. How the fuck is it pressuring? 5 years together and living life together, it's the same shit only marriage has the additional commitment/ grand gesture of love. Man up and commit to the love of your life before you fucking ruin it and find out what kind of gong-show cesspool it is to be dating in 2023 (especially at 27).
I promise you the small grass is greener voice in your head is full on juvenile and wrong.
If you love her as much as you say, there is no other alternative, you will not forget her, you will not get over her, there will be no “better”, you will be chasing someone like her forever and they will always fall short. Check your ego and show your damn woman how much you love her with actions instead of words before you run away from commitment and someone else shows her instead ?.
Sincerely, someone that let the love of his life go in his early 20s.
You are not in reconciliation. She is blame-shifting and that is what cheaters do. Google affair fog.
Glad I could help 🙂
So accountability went out the window, huh?
Yep, controlling.
It’s okay for him to find it gross that you’re sharing utensils, but that’s not what’s going on here. Even if it were, he doesn’t get a say in how you eat/share your food.
I'd cancel with zero regrets, she sounds like she's all about herself, if you still want to do something send her a gift card, if she gets pissy then she wasn't really your friend anyway.. Best of health to you and your baby take care of you and yours and to heck with the rest.
You're a surgical resident.
Everyone wants to date a doctor until its time to date a doctor. This is how it works. This is why they earn very very good money.
Break up with him.
Honestly I wouldn't date for awhile.
OP works all weekend – so why does it matter where he is? She’s not there to spend time with him anyway?
Wow. He is very ignorant and has a lot of bias. I'd like to say it's unconscious, but it's coming right out of his mouth so I can't say that.
It's frightening that he doesn't know about the Nazi persecution.
If you don't want to end it I'd ask him to read about the issues he speaks about to see the truth. I'd ask him to acknowledge that what he said is racist and not to do it again. If he is willing then he's a good guy.
Maybe it's a thing she likes now ?
#watersports
This is true, I been with my BF almost 11 years, he has been desperately wanting me to accept his marriage proposals and I refuse! We recently got a house together and honestly I am happy. I don’t need to get married to be happy. If OP really wants a marriage I think it’s time to move on. Some people just don’t want to get married but are happy staying as how they are.
Will it's common knowledge that all people are not the same, most women aren't gonna come after anyone's money, but the law gives shelters to the bad eggs, that's MY POINT.
Anyone who loses sleep over choices you made before you even knew him is bad news. That's unhinged, unexcusable levels of jealousy. This relationship will end badly. It will only get worse from here. There are no compromises that will actually satisfy him. He will always hold this over your head, and he will always manipulate you into unduly feeling terrible about a totally normal and okay past. Please believe me: I am speaking from experience.
It's terrible. It's abusive. And I don't toss that word around. But don't blame yourself for agreeing to have sex when he keeps initiating. You're human. But you don't want to. My advice if you're interested is this: let him know that the next time he initiates sexual activity when you have your period and haven't explicitly consented to sexy time? You're going to not be in the same room as him. And when he does it: before you get turned on? Because we're all human and you are a young person and that's a sucky thing to use against you. But before anything happens when he kisses your neck in a way that's not platonic? Do this: pick up your pillow, grab a blanket and sleep somewhere else. Do not discuss. Put a door that closes and locks between you and him if possible. Or else headphones. Refuse to engage. That will help. Tremendously! Tell him you're going to do it. Follow through. And if he tries you? The next day? Tell him the next time you're leaving the house. You don't know for how long. You have to have a bottom line. It sucks he's willing to do this to you! And that is worth thinking about. But You have to command respect or you won't get it. In general. I'm sorry.
If they cheat its over not exceptions, you cant and never will be able to fully trust her again so you should leave now and move on. It sucks and will take time but its better then staying with a cheater.