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Seriously, don't do anything for him, fold just your laundry and things that benefits you, he will have to learn these stuff! If he was living by himself, he would have to do this.
Like… If he doesn't like cooking, ok, in my house I do the cooking because I do love doing so, but my partner take care of the dishes and cleans up, he needs to pick up! If you need to wash dish, just wash your plate, a glass and your set of cutlery, if he wants to eat in a clean table. If he ain't helping you, don't help him, it's awful having to be a mother of two, your baby and your husband, but if his heart is in a good place, he will pick up and you will have an excellent husband.
Keep in mind a lot of companies like this can range from needing military and security clearance to not being allowed to share certain thin gas by contract.
I’d take what he said for exactly that, seems he’s learned a lot more about their plans, ideas, and who they are and he’s not a fan or aligned with it. You know him better then is, is he thectype to easily get a bruised ego or take a hit at his pride hard and deal with it in a stubborn or hardheaded way? If not, then I’d take what he says as what it is, and he can’t likely share details.
I’d more so be asking and wondering why he doesn’t take his experience and look elsewhere unless that’s not a viable option for him right now
Also cool if him do do that, I use to study aerospace engineering in my past but more so just satellite work couldn’t be useful at all for airplanes lol
Ah. He wants to Kody Brown it! That could never, ever backfire for the kid.
Girl, why are you even entertaining this? He’s asking you to become a single mother on purpose.
Heck yeah! Good for you!!
ding ding ding on Canadian.
Spoiler alert; you’re the red flag.
Gonna guess your friends calling it a red-flag are longterm Tinder veterans.
I swear, the best, most well-rounded people just use it to hone in on one person they like and focus on them.
My fiancé and I are not anywhere near close to the same body type, he’s tall and thin where I’m short and more muscular, but we have some clothes we can share and it’s my FAVORITE. Wearing his sweatpants on a Sunday morning makes my life.
I get irritated/angry easily when I'm hungry, but this guys sounds ridiculous..
Yeah, but not talking to her about work and making it a boundary seems really weird.
And still, the drama of dating a co-worker and eventually breaking up if things don't work out well can cause lots of drama.
Had a close friend who had to switch jobs due to that mistake. Not cool.
Hi. Please let his wife know anonymously and report them to HR. What she is doing for temporary fun is destroying a marriage and leaving his kids in a broken home. Is she OK with doing that to his wife and children? If she is, get away from her. She is toxic and has zero morals. Would you ever trust a partner around her? I wouldn't.
Make new friends and do the right thing and tell his wife and HR.
Oh you’ve got yourself a gold digger. Proceed accordingly.
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The problem here is not your relationship with your bf, it's your relationship to yourself. After the rhinoplasty, invest some of your money into therapy before cosmetic surgery because while the work you have done is light enough, I think the reason you're doing it for means you will never stop because you will always only see what can be improved and not your general look.
The feeling just didn't go away, so I broke up with him after about 2 more months of trying, I didn't want to string him along.
Didn't feel the need to explain to him that “hey man, I started getting the ick from you” because he wasn't doing anything exactly to cause these feelimgs, so I told him that I just thought the relationship reached its natural end point. He took it well.
So yeah. Ended it. Met someone really special about 4 months later.
I don’t want to help you make this work. Sorry.
I have no doubt, but perhaps there are others with similar “problems.”
Way too much jealousy there
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So here is the thing. We went out with friends[4, including me] last night me being the only Female. While we were at a bar playing cards, it got late and the bar got closed so my friends said they want to go to a night club and we went there( it was my very first time to enter a club, I have never had the experience before,FYI)…they danced, they drank and stuff….then around 4:30 AM we left the night club and went to eat something….and by the time we left the bar, I realized that I left my house key at the previous bar so, til morning since one of the guy has his own house and married, I've got 2 options left (2 of the guys place) so, one of the guy who lives with his housemates said he has a bigger bed as compared to the other one and I ended up going to his place. !!!! WhILE IN THE BED, since it was freezing cold and I was shivering, he held my hand to make me warm and he kinda tried to make some kinda other unnecessary touches which I avoided right at the moment and told him that I have a boyfriend. He hugged me from the back while sleeping as I was giving him my back to avoid face to face connection with him.
So is this considered as cheating? And should I tell my Bf about this as well? NOTE THAT, my BF is in another continent, we r in ldr(long distance r/ship). Please guys, am worried…..tell me your honest opinions.
Thanks so much!
I am not sure he expects her to do housework right away but he also doesn't want her to not help out ever again. And as for the pampering, I don't think he is saying that is the pampering while she is pregnant (baby isn't here yet). I don't see it as a he isn't planning on helping out with the kid at all but that he is expecting her to do her part. I'm pregnant with my 4th kid and had 3 c-sections. First couple weeks I had help and was able to chill and relax but then when everyone was back at work, I did my part and helped out. It's not unrealistic, especially for an easy birth (if that happens)
Her values are still very traditionally Chinese. She brought up several times that I wasn’t doing something that would be expected in an Chinese family (e.g. paying for all dinners).
I think it’s a lot more physical for her. All of her Asian friends exclusively date white men. I remember the first time we looked at wasian people on instagram she said the girls are beautiful but the guys are just ok. Only Asian male she has ever said is attractive is Henry Golding. She also always talks about how in China white / mixed kids were worshipped
Men are not all the same. You have an affectionate teddy bear. Enjoy that.
He wants to feel wanted for more than just his dick. He wants to feel like you enjoy him and his company in a way that isn't only sexual. There's nothing wrong with a guy wanting some non-sexual affection. He's giving you a really clear notice of what he'd like and a very easy way to make him feel loved. If you care for him, pay attention. It does not sound like he was asking for nudes or to have his dick grabbed. It sounds like he's wanting you to reach out and hold his hand, hug him without needing to be asked, or snuggle up on the couch next to him.
As I recall, when I found a girl I really liked, I would have no issue at all with her making sure of the date and time as many times as she needed because I wouldn’t want a screw up and me not get to see her. When I fell in love, there wasn’t anything between her and I that could even remotely make me upset (of course the end of the relationship would’ve made me upset)
I just feel like the relationship failed as he was feeling bad. Maybe we could meet again and see how things go? Like as friends. How do you propose something like that? We never ever spoke again.
I can see him dating around when I see him around. I don’t understand what I don’t have that they do, when he met me he said I was perfect.
I just want him back. I feel I’ll never be attracted to anyone again.
So you got in a spat and you want to “punish” your SO? Yeah that’s abusive. Doesn’t matter what is involved you don’t punish a SO like they’re a child because they disagree with you. Good luck in your future, you’ll need it.
I agree with you, it’s the right thing to pay. Your friend will be grateful for how you resolved the situation.
Well from what all you wrote doesn’t sound like you love her
Her friend's sexual orientation has fuck all to do with this. Stop making excuses for his behavior.
At this point secure a place to stay, and I don't see this relationship going anywhere other than a friendship, you are way too young to even consider something like this. Get a place and move on.
“I was really in love with her” & “I took her for granted” in the same sentence lol.
I listened the wrong people. I put on a mask cause i was afraid that she would not like me.
I'm ashamed to say but i really believed that alpha shit cause i'm really insecure and was afraid that me being myself would drove her away from me. This is not my first relationship but the first woman i have loved this much
Anyways, no. Leave her alone.
So you say that I have completely lost her?
Some people might disagree with this as it’s a bit extreme but I think it will be effective.
To prove to her that these IG models really aren’t big deal to you and don’t mean anything to you, deactivate your instagram. How long for is up to you and by then you can clean up your algorithm.
You take it on the chin like a champ.
You look at yourself and go:
I did my best in that reletionship. Put my best foot forward. If she didn't want me at my best, then I deserve someone who does.
Realize that you were not the problem, she was. Once you know she was the problem, you recognize that you were better off without her.
I don't know the context, but I'm pretty sure he said that because he was asked. That's not something he'd go around saying. My guess is they were trying to spoil him with gifts and asked who's your favorite grandma or something to that affect. He wouldn't just say that unprompted.
Why are you still with him? There is no excuse for his behavior and being with him will not do you any good. You keep further traumatizing yourself by staying with him
Rehome your abused dog immediately. Neverer get a pet again as long as you are living with him. If you truly love the dog, you will get him out tonight. You should seriously consider talking to a counselor to find out why you are staying with him. I admit that the first sign of abusive behavior toward animals, I moved out that week, and that it's not a realistic expectation for others. I do, however, think counseling is always the first step to sort it your thoughts, specifically the unspoken ones. Iwish you the best of luck. Please rehome the dog asap. I hope you will be okay. Take care.
It's long past time to go no contact with Mary (both you and your wife), low contact with the family members that enable the behavior or defend it, and seek both individual therapy for your wife and couples therapy so that you both can communicate with each other. On the surface it's easier said than done for some aspects of your life but OP — this isn't going to change. They aren't going to change.
I'm less saying that you perhaps need therapy, but your wife is traumatized by the golden child dynamic and while it's a really painful and unfortunate thing, she has to learn how to work past it. That said, her behavior is borderline abusive (in fact, I'd argue it is abusive) to you because you have no recourse to try and work with her in this.
That would be too risky for me. Does he just not believe in monogamy? Cuz the kid excuse makes no logical sense at all.
Hey, hey, don't be so hard on OP.
We are in a presence of a newborn legend. One who managed to get his girlfriend pregnant without having sex with her, just by sheer power of sarcasm. (Look, it's in his comments, magnificent).
We are on an advice sub, be gentle.
He asked how to convince his pregnant girlfriend that she doesn't need marriage. Or, maybe, that she doesn't deserve being married to OP, input unclear.
Any ideas?
I'm out of my sarcasm stash, unfortunately.
Bear in mind that if you convert your place to a rental, you run the risk of huge damages from irresponsible tenants. I have seen nightmare scenarios where people caused hundreds of thousands dollars in damage, and just walk away. Renting is not a small risk, and landlord tenant laws are very strict in some states. If you do it, you'll also need to budget for a property manager, repair and maintenance, and accept that there will likely be a fair amount of wear and tear on the place and it may never be the same.
Additionally, if you have a low interest rate, if you give it up you may never be able to get it again. But if there is one thing I know, rents are always go up. I just don't see how walkable yoga compares to housing security.
If the person im with doesn't see me as my favourite person, then I would leave. OP is not the husband's favourite person. Anyone can see that.
I see you listed all the things that make you “perfect” – good for you – yet nothing about your husband except saying he's “great”. That says a lot.
Huh?? The mom already knows about the child.
It kind of depends on the specifics, but 23 & 18 isn't that bad.
Specifics would involve:
did they know each other before she was 18? Cause it's 100% creepy af if there was some kind of “relationship” at 21-16 or even 22-17 before they got together officially.
was she still in high school when they met? Even if she was 18 when they did first meet, it she was still in hs… that's sus for me.
But otherwise, I dunno. 23 & 18 isn't necessarily that bad. It's kind of in that grey area where the exact details and context could swing it either way for me.
Sorry, this is all you. You fucked up, hopefully you can learn from it.
What makes you think this? Could it not be instead that your daughter was venting about a difficult situation for her?
That's really what I was trying to say, she was venting. I think she was talking down on her from my perspective (her as my wife) because she couldn't understand my response.
I have considered getting therapy, but it's also tricky because I'm never in the same place as once due to work. I know that online therapy has become a lot more popular and I have considered doing it.
She told you not to go. Think you're honestly not expected or wanted.
So good lmao
She is working now but not enough to support herself. But yeah your not wrong, I am realizing this was probably broken a long time ago
You were 18 yrs old and he was 37? My oldest son is 18, and I'm 38. This was not okay.
He sounds like a sexual predator that groomed a teenager.. he's got you where he wants you and you feel trapped and like you have no way out. Sex with someone you love shouldn't' hurt and shouldn't' leave you hurting afterwards. He doesn't care about you, he cares about what he gets out of you. He has no problem using and abusing you to fulfill his sexual gratification. He doesn't respond well to you saying no because he doesn't feel like you have the right to say no. He feels entitled to use you however he wants regardless of how much it hurts you. Open your eyes, you are not a full fledged person to him. Makes me sick to my stomach to think about how any man can get off/enjoy sex while causing the person the “claim” to love pain. THATS NOT OKAY!
You have a child, and you say that's why you can't leave.. that's exactly why you should. That man is lucky you weren't my daughter.
our relationship does have some issues, I'm not denying that. but almost all are because I went through hell as a child. this is the only issue that isn't because of my past.
You have the RIGHT to change your mind! Just because you have consented before doesn't mean it's a permanent green light! You do not owe that man your body to do with as he pleases!
If he gets mad…. he can get glad when he's ready but it is not your responsibility to just appease him!
What about your wants and desires? Why do they not matter as much as his??
You don't deserve this nor should you stand for it! If YOU don't look out for yourself who will? Your husband certainly isn't! Good luck OP you deserve so much better!
Now you know, thanks to your BF so you can simply decline to help them. Be sure to thank your BF for coming to you with this. He probably thought it might factor into your decision to help them.
You can always refer them to a therapist instead of trying to deal with mental breakdowns and panic attacks all on your own. If your goth got the professional help she needed, her life might look a lot different.
End the relationship, return the ring & move on with your life. She doesn’t deserve you
Monogamy also exceptionally commonly means “married to one person” which is utterly compatible with more open sexual experiences. OP’s GF is obviously out of line here, but it’s ridiculous to suggest that every person who’d be interested in dabbling in these things doesn’t consider their partner “enough.”
She was awake and feels shame. You didn’t rape her.
So you went alone to his room drunk? Why? It hasn't been that long so I would most likely dump someone who thinks it's okay to go alone to a guy you just mets room drunk. I wouldn't date someone with such poor judgement regardless of what happened in the room.
do I say nothing and what he doesn’t know can’t hurt him but if he finds out down the line it will be a hundred times worse?
Fyi this is the logic most cheaters uses to “justify” not telling their spouse, so I don't think this is a healthy mindset to have. I'd tell him, because if it comes out later I don't there is any chance your relationship survives, I mean why he would he believe what you say then. The quicker the better
It seemed like it was but she just liked his place better
Moving the friend in ? girl no
Sometimes it’s me her screaming “i don’t know what’s wrong with me” or “ I am attracted to you” But I’m constantly saying “ your actions do not match your words” and “ I just want a sex life, I want to feel wanted”
From what you have described, very little of this is “your fault.” Your partner appears to {at the very least} be emotionally & verbally abusive. It sounds like he has been steadily scraping away any self-esteem/self-confidence that you may have had at the beginning of this relationship.
If my belief is correct, no matter what you do… over time, you will find that it's:
Never enough or not good enough. This can refer to household chores, sex or any number of other things. You could hypothetically twist yourself into a pretzel shape while kissing his @$$ & it won't be enough.
Something about everything is wrong, even when you were trying your best to do everything exactly the way he wanted it. (Hopefully, you nope out before it gets to the point that you take notes to avoid making mistakes. Except then, you get told your notes are wrong because that's not what he said or not what he meant.)
Please get out while you can… because there is a significant chance that once your emotional health is completely destroyed & you have developed the opinion that this person is the only one who will ever “love you in spite of all your flaws” that he could up the ante to include physical violence. Most importantly, if your situation reaches this point, don't fall for the typical “I am sorry, I will never do it again, I love you” cr@p.
Source: Personal experience, except that I didn't listen to the advice of others, so I spent 4+ years of being regularly beaten before I finally got out. More than 20 years later, I am still in therapy trying to heal from the trauma.
Why are you nervous? What makes you nervous to live together?
Being in a relationship doesn't mean you'll never have feelings for someone else. It only means you've made a commitment to not allow yourself to act on those feelings when they occur (which they do on both sides in every relationship). Your girlfriend has surely had feelings for other people but has chosen to honor her promise to you. Someone bright enough to be in grad school shouldn't be such a slave to their emotions. Just stop this before it starts (if you want to stay in your relationship).
Thank you so much!??? Hugs to you. I appreciate your kind words.
Is this about cheating or is this about you having a history of making really poor choices?
It's okay to have feelings about this. It's okay that this let you know in the future you want kids. But, you need to remember in the end this is her choice and the best choice because of your career and her medical issues. This should open up a conversation about future kids, but not right now kids.
It's okay to be sad about the right decision.
100%, every! Single! Time!
I don't want children of my own, but I have empathy for the people who get pregnant at the worst possible time and have to make the best decision for everyone right now. Even if it's the most painful decision.
When you and your girlfriend are stable enough, physically, health-wise, financially, and in a home conducive to adding a little one, the time will be right. You guys just can't, sensibly, do it right now.
All the best, OP. And I wish your girlfriend a good recovery after her surgeries, too.
Is there some reason why you would tell your parents? It's not really any of their business.
It sounds to me like being pregnant at this time in her life would be a threat to her life. Why would you want to do that to her?
Hi OP. It certainly feels strange and disconnecting to hear such a thing.
You might profit from watching Alain DeBotton's YouTube talk entitled “Why you will marry the wrong person.” It's much lighter and heartening than the name belies, and I think it may help you see that you and your wife will be fine here.
he just gets annoyed
Yes, because you sound really annoying. Following him around what you described as a tiny apartment with no space so that you can badger him about his observation? That means absolutely nothing? The stupid little arguments are YOUR fault.
She didn’t tell you because she felt bad for you she told you to make herself feel better. That was an unbelievably cruel and selfish thing.
If someone is threatening to kill your family, it's probably best not to marry them.
This will never end if you do marry and give into the threat.
Almost certainly he's a bullshitter. I don't know your dynamic, but presumably he had no emotional hold over them.
I would call your family and explain what is happening. Just so they are aware and can help you.
When you see a coward like your fiancée, they grow in the shadows not the light. Expose him.
If it's completely platonic on both sides she wouldn't really have to work up the “courage” to tell you.
I don’t understand why she’s been downvoted to hell for admitting she’s scared. It’s a valid concern.
Just because there are reasons behind it, doesn't make it less vile.
Just because I want something, does not mean, I can just take it, even if it is offered, I'm obligated to consider the consequences.
Let's take buying water deom Nestlé as an example: It is offered, it is legal, but buying it you should be aware of the consequences this has for the people who now don't get to fulfill the basic need of having clean water. Even if you argue “I have my own well, I underdtand why they would be upset losing it”, you should still advocate for water as a basic human right.
The topic is complex and nuanced, but it still ends up being girls and young women taken advantage of by older, more powerful men. People defending men over 30 preying on teenagers are fortifying outdated views and powerdynamics instead of trying to even the playing field.
ESPECIALLY because you have a daughter, you should try to gain more insights into female perspectives. I can only recommend looking into the whole sprectrum, even the extremes to try and reflect on your own biases. I am a woman in my thirties and I'm still trying to unlearn some of the misogynistic, victim blaming, male perspective only bullshit I learned growing up.
I'd be more concerned than cheating…like if his tastes in porn have gotten a little darker. Find out what was on there; if it's illegal he might pin it on you, whatever it was being on -your- old phone.
Are you sure you want to be in this relationship ? Either there’s some really bad communication going on that’s led her to believe that you don’t take your role as a family & caregiver to her son seriously or… more likely im guessing based on the fact that you seem wonderful at communicating and aware of yourself and others … she is trying to start a fight by accusing you of caring for someone you deeply care for. So much in fact that you value his relationship with his dad. I can’t imagine why she is doing this besides – she wants to get back at the ex (using you) – she does not like being told no – she is not really listening to you
Or maybe she’s just nervous. But that’s not really an excuse if this continues. What does the kid want anyway ?
did she ever seek out outside help or did she continue to lay it all on you?
Yep. Which is what I originally said but that OP should voice his concerns and they should both talk that through.
You missed the reference…
Just asking me how I'm doing, calling without being asked, and talking to each other. Nothing major and not a ton.
I can’t imagine dating someone and not telling them that your parent died.
It’s easy to say all this in a forum when your face has never been mauled or you never lost a ton of weight or been burned beyond recognition.
This is technically cosmetic surgery, but there is definitely 100% a clear distinction between cosmetic surgery in form of burn victim skin transplants, maul victim face reconstruction, skin removal after lossing lots of weight and cosmetic surgery for vanity like boob jobs, lip filler, facial bone reconstruction, etc.
In the context of this thread it is clear with a bit of reading comprehension what kind of cosmetic surgery is meant and you created nothing more than a strawman argument. People that dont like boob jobs surely arent against burn victims getting a skin transplant lmao.
It's the one after we were together that's the biggest issue
how can i explain that to him? but i also understand why he's hurt, i would be too
First, you can’t be supportive and call her fiancé her “friend”. Your sister is engaged to this person and has been partnered with them for years. If she was engaged to a dude, you wouldn’t call him a “friend.”
Second, the only way your family can heal and be a family again is if she is fully accepted and supported in her relationship. This means treating her and her partner as you would any straight couple. Most people get to take their partners to events like this. Unless you’re allowing no one to bring partners, this isn’t really fair to her. Why is telling her not to bring her partner an easier and better step than telling the rest of your family to not cause a scene or start stuff at your reception? If they can’t put their feelings and judgments aside for one night for you, how is that any better? How is it Christian?
You have the choice to love and support, to lead by example in acceptance, or to reinforce the entire reason your sister is alienated from your life. Not allowing her fiancé is the latter, and choosing that would make YTA.
For the record, I’m a Christian myself (raised evangelical), lived in Utah for two years, and have many LDS friends, one of whom is LGBTQ+ herself and has been lucky to find support. I get that – especially if you are in Utah – this is a lot of lifelong communal and family pressure besides whatever religious sentiment you have is. The road from the initial teachings one gets about sexuality to fully accepting, loving, affirming and supporting those in the LGBTQ+ community you care about is not a fast, easy and straight one (pardon the pun) due to both the the internal and external pressures. but it’s work that has to be done if you really want a positive relationship with your sister.
He should also want to maintain a relationship with you though. Seems like he needs to learn to balance things.
Try talking to him again about this. If you see this relationship going long term you and him need to sit down and talk things through.
Some guys can turn nasty and rejecting them can result in an unsafe situation for her. She did the right thing and she didn’t hide it.
He wants to break up with you for whatever reason, and is creating a story to support that. There's nothing much you can do in this situation except to let him go. There is not fixing if someone really wants to leave you. So sorry.
As a matter of interest did you cancel an evening with your ‘date’ in order to spend time with your girl friend? Because the whole ‘she tricked me about her birthday’ seems irrelevant unless you chose to cancel on your girlfriend in order to spend time with your female friend.
If that is the case then she has every right to be pissed off.
If not then it seems she has a boundary of you not hanging out with female friends. Maybe she’s insecure but she’s entitled to have whatever boundaries she wants. Now if you didn’t know about that boundary, then sure, her subsequent actions are unreasonable. But if you’d already spoken about your friendship with this girl and how your gf felt about it then again she has every right to be pissed off at you crossing those boundaries.
Tbh, it doesn’t sound like you’re too invested in this relationship, (understandable after only 2.5 months). So maybe it’s best for both of you to move on.
So I am going to tell you that this is not cut and dry and there are no easy answers. You have to go with your gut feeling. I think what that is telling you is that both can be true. She was engaged in behavior that you are not comfortable with and she was SA. She had already crossed lines when what seemed to be a consensual encounter turned into SA. It seems she was flirting and entertaining a guy who was not you totally of her free will. She also seems to have gone to the guys room and made out with him consciously and willingly but then decided to end the encounter and he turned it into a SA.
You can have empathy for her being SA while also feeling her behavior up to that point was not okay and it crossed a line for you. Focusing on this aspect does not force you to decide if the SA is valid or not as it is irrelevant to why you are upset and hurt.
Classic manipulative actions. He is controlling bc of his insecurity.
Leave him ASAP
It was a makeup organizer.
He's telling you to your face that he doesn't want you and you're still trying to convince him.
Believe him. He doesn't like you.
I know women don't want to believe this, but men can spend YEARS living with and shitting on a woman they don't even LIKE. Someone who served a purpose….whether it was housekeeping, sex, a person to dump anger on…etc.
Listen to what this man is telling you and showing you.
Totally, I’m in no way forcing anything. We’ve tried lube, different positions, etc, but haven’t been able to get any further. Would her obgyn be the person to go to?
Stop being such a controlling ass.
If you don't trust her. Break up. You will never have a good relationship with her.
Stop making out with him
It was the cherry on top
Because if mom doesn’t know, she deserves to.
I didn’t necessarily catch them but her car was at my house and she wasn’t. I put one and one together and called her garbage person to her face. Quite funny.
Is it childish to want to clear up a miscommunication if there is one? Personally I think that’s rather adult.
I’m not crying, you are.
This is so beautiful.
Please tel him.
But you are in fact talking on her behalf and controlling her. For example, it's absolutely not your place to even comment if her Aunt Mildred wants to get your fiancee, her niece, a blender for her wedding. How dare you? And how dare you try to tell her girlfriends they can't throw her a bachelorette party if they want to? Wow. You've got some serious control issues.
You admit that you paid your own debt with a settlement, NOT with budgeting and saving. You admit you overdraft your account, just not as often as he does.
It’s not a big deal to say you only buy your “want” items when you can afford it. That’s what all financially sound adults do.
Do you have emergency savings? Do you have retirement savings?
If sharing your finances with your husband will make him controlling or abusive, then don’t. But it is incredibly sus for a spouse to be unwilling to even show their bank statement to their other spouse unless they’re both independently wealthy. You guys are building a life together, right? And you seem to know his financial picture but he can’t know yours? What are you hiding?
This post feels a bit staged. I think you already know your opinion on it and what you want and you want us to just agree with you. I feel like there's not enough context here for us to know what's actually happening.
Doggone bullcrap is right!!
Your relationship is very new, give it some time. He may have some residual feelings after such a long relationship, if he does that will fade in time. You will hopefully feel more secure in time too.
Don't rush things, it is best to take your time, especially with a child involved. Be cautious, forever isn't guaranteed. Enjoy what you have and hopefully things will work out.
I really want to do that. Thank you.
Yeah, checks out.
Gf driving around the neighborhood with a male co-worker around midnight “checking out the neighborhood”. Sounds like something 20-somethings do after a night of drinking at the bar.
Yes it does feel like just grinding through life. I feel a lot of guilt because I know he loves me deeply and would be depressed and probably go back to drinking if I left him, but I feel like he needs to find his own way at this point. I've tried directing him into goals and interests but he isn't interested in any of it. I need to focus on my own growth and let him find his own way. But I don't even know where to start, and once again, I feel guilty giving up.
And yes it feels exactly like he's “trying to get me off his back” with his responses. It's like we're roommates now, or just Best friends, but no longer lovers. Is it unfair of me to give up on him when he says he's trying to improve on our relationship?
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I echo all this and to OP: read up on narcissistic abuse and get info on leaving narcissistic people because once you get out and get safe you should really go no contact and stay away from him as best you can because he will keep manipulating you if you stay in contact. Seriously. Lock down your social media and keep yourself quiet to others and sink away. I left an extremely manipulative and abusive person and cutting him out completely was the best thing I could have ever done. One day my heart turned cold and I stopped caring and that’s how I got out, it was like a switch got flipped to “on” position and I was able to get out because it was like just DONE and didn’t care about anything he said. I really feel for you OP and I hope you can get back to feeling less anxious and please leave him.