Well easy solution stop buying into it. It’s not that hard it very simple it’s just you gonna have to put your feelings for her on the side and make a decision.
This concerns me. He was logging in as you on Google. When the police confiscate your equipment in the home, they will find a trail that may implicate you. Mention this to your lawyer, when you get one, and see what you can do to get proof that you weren't the one using the device(s) at the time of this activity – receipts that you were out of town, etc. Since he cancelled the banking/credit cards, you may not be able to access this stuff quickly, so when you have a quiet moment, take some time to go back over the days you were away & detail as much as possible where you were & what you were doing at certain times. Then think back further on the other times you were away & try to do the same thing. If at all possible, try to obtain receipts from venues/locations, but if that's not possible, your notes should correspond (roughly) with credit card statements if the police look into them.
I think you’re ignoring the real concerns this person is bringing up. It’s easy to be misled about someone when you only see them through a screen. I’d be concerned if a friend of mine just moved in in a situation like these and horrified if they did that with two young kids. You may feel like you know a lot about him and that you will know enough, but that’s not the case. Moving in requires a lot of compromises, discussions on his role in your kids life, financial agreements, etc. you’re putting your children in a real dangerous position by rushing this. It might be fine but there are plenty of ways this could go wrong and you should bank on things going well
Dang, if this is what you think a boyfriend does, you need to get more self esteem. You deserve to be treated better. He isn’t worth your time. Dump his ass.
He’s controlling and manipulating you. It’s okay to get drunk with your friends now and then if it doesn’t become a problem.
It’s not okay to show up unexpected to yell at you, lie about calling the police, insult you, use divorce and suicide as a threat, or deliberately scare you by taking his gun and walking off.
I’d also be terrified to live with someone this aggressive and controlling who has access to a gun/guns.
If I was you, I’d leave – in secret. And never tell him where I went. Because I’d be afraid for my life.
Who whitens his teeth before a business trip? Like sure if he does that every trip or every month or whatever but if he never does it and now all of a sudden he needs white teeth and a fake tan??
I would suggest the new number and a Google Voice number that you give out to people. That way, no one has your new number. Google Voice also screens calls so you can require people to announce themselves. If you hear his voice, just refuse the call knowing he doesn’t have the real number.
I would also move. Filing a police report can help you break a lease. Move somewhere that access is not easy.
Get yourself into a support group for abused women. They can also help you move and implement routines that will better ensure your safety.
Ask her?
Well easy solution stop buying into it. It’s not that hard it very simple it’s just you gonna have to put your feelings for her on the side and make a decision.
This concerns me. He was logging in as you on Google. When the police confiscate your equipment in the home, they will find a trail that may implicate you. Mention this to your lawyer, when you get one, and see what you can do to get proof that you weren't the one using the device(s) at the time of this activity – receipts that you were out of town, etc. Since he cancelled the banking/credit cards, you may not be able to access this stuff quickly, so when you have a quiet moment, take some time to go back over the days you were away & detail as much as possible where you were & what you were doing at certain times. Then think back further on the other times you were away & try to do the same thing. If at all possible, try to obtain receipts from venues/locations, but if that's not possible, your notes should correspond (roughly) with credit card statements if the police look into them.
I think you’re ignoring the real concerns this person is bringing up. It’s easy to be misled about someone when you only see them through a screen. I’d be concerned if a friend of mine just moved in in a situation like these and horrified if they did that with two young kids. You may feel like you know a lot about him and that you will know enough, but that’s not the case. Moving in requires a lot of compromises, discussions on his role in your kids life, financial agreements, etc. you’re putting your children in a real dangerous position by rushing this. It might be fine but there are plenty of ways this could go wrong and you should bank on things going well
Bro you’re 29. Time to grow up.
Do you have a place to go?
Some people do. Check out the subreddit r/survivinginfidelity to see others in the same boat. The inperson therapy is your best bet.
So you found a book you didn’t recognize but you thought might be yours and it contains one of the most shocking revelations possible…
…and your first instinct is to post this on Reddit with an anon account?
Absolute nonsense
Your dads a predator what the fuck
Why don’t YOU divorce him? 2. Why don’t you just ask him outright if those two children are his as a result of an affair? Why the vague questioning?
Dang, if this is what you think a boyfriend does, you need to get more self esteem. You deserve to be treated better. He isn’t worth your time. Dump his ass.
He’s controlling and manipulating you. It’s okay to get drunk with your friends now and then if it doesn’t become a problem.
It’s not okay to show up unexpected to yell at you, lie about calling the police, insult you, use divorce and suicide as a threat, or deliberately scare you by taking his gun and walking off.
I’d also be terrified to live with someone this aggressive and controlling who has access to a gun/guns.
If I was you, I’d leave – in secret. And never tell him where I went. Because I’d be afraid for my life.
So take that as you will. But good luck.
Who whitens his teeth before a business trip? Like sure if he does that every trip or every month or whatever but if he never does it and now all of a sudden he needs white teeth and a fake tan??
I would suggest the new number and a Google Voice number that you give out to people. That way, no one has your new number. Google Voice also screens calls so you can require people to announce themselves. If you hear his voice, just refuse the call knowing he doesn’t have the real number.
I would also move. Filing a police report can help you break a lease. Move somewhere that access is not easy.
Get yourself into a support group for abused women. They can also help you move and implement routines that will better ensure your safety.
We can hope for a troll and not an abusive relationship!