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Totally agree. One single shirt.. not like he was coming over with a load of laundry?
I am assuming it was a shirt he wore there or had in his bag at random that needed washed and she was doing her laundry already. Or thought it would be convenient some how.
The guy had asked her to meet his family and closest friends too. It’s not like he was looking for a maid for asking for ONE shirt washed at an opportunistic time?
He’s obviously happy to introduce her to his closest people and be with her in public.
You’re definitely right. Actions speak louder than words and I’m going to have to see it. He can say sorry all he wants but that doesn’t change a thing.
Oh, I'm reading the other comments. So you are bi and enjoy going and looking at the other women.
I think my point still stands though. If you're serious about monogamy, it isn't even worth toeing the line of going to strip clubs for “just look, don't touch.” That can be torture for guys with high sex drive and end up with nightmare situations like this.
The most obvious advice would be to lay off strip clubs and other events that allow temptations moving forward.
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Yeah, per this rule assume others, there's an obvious bias and it is a place to escape the more cutting criticisms.
But it's ok for him to resent her for not going? He has the right to be upset and if it's a deal breaker for him it's a deal breaker and he should act on it. They'll both be happier in the long run that way.
Am I allowed to ask him? It’s such an odd situation since I’m still married and we’re only having friendly conversations until it gets finalized. Does this mean it should be none of my business?
I was thinking more along the lines of doing the three degrees to be a member but not doing anymore in other 'sections' like the shriners or scottish rite or something to that effect, but if you're more interested in making me feel worse about not liking masonry, than I'm not interested in any advice you have.
Sounds like you're both wrong. No one is perfect. Your children isn't special. If they misbehave at school they should be told to behave.
Your husbands reaction might be because he feels you're spoiling them and doesn't listen to him, and he therefore feels like he has to be in opposition and ensure they don't end up being brats.
This again makes you feel like you have to spoil them more. Which makes him stricter. And so it goes around and around. You're both increasing the difference rather than respecting eachother and agreeing about middle ground.
It does not sound as if you two are going to solve this. You're not going to convince him. You can see if you two can talk to some sort of therapist or other professional who's experienced with families and kids. Then you'll have an objective opinion and advice.
Your gf didn’t owe you anything after the break up. She didn’t have to tell you who she hooked up with. So she’s done nothing wrong.
But your friend? Yeah. Those who think he’s done nothing wrong have obviously not had close friends. And the fact that he felt guilty when confronted means that he knew that it was wrong.
The petty in me would say go and hook up with one of his exes. But I’m kidding of course. Up to you whether you break the friendship. I would. At the very least I’d go low contact.
This is refreshing, and my thought exactly. I have a friend saying basically the same as the other replies here (Red flag) and I felt like it is definitely worth bringing up but a little harsh to give him the boot without giving a chance to communicate first. I’m the one who breaks things off when I sense even a light pink flag lol so I was surprised by the big reaction from my friend… and responses here so far. But I love to get a bunch of perspectives regardless.
Communication is so incredibly important and asking for support regarding a ‘need’ is totally reasonable – if its ignored, then its time to reevaluate. I appreciate your input, TY.
Alright, well it's not a competition here. For these type of situations, you're not trying to win them.
If this is the first time you have ever experienced this type of comment in 7 years, this is what you should do:
Hey, I am sorry for being upset. I don't like being disconnected from you. I love you. This clearly was a misunderstanding on both our sides. I know it might not seem like a big deal to you, but it was a big deal to me. Comments like that hurt me, I don't like it when you take it too far. So, for next time, please be more aware of what you say. At the end of the day, I just want us to be happy together, I don't like how we are acting towards each-other right now. I am here apologizing to you to make things better, I expect the same in return.
Sometimes these situations like this aren't worth it. A compilation of them, sure, not good. But a one-off misunderstanding. Talk about it, speak your peace, let him know your side, relay an expectation to do better next time, forgive and move past this.
She's never been a bad mother. It's like she broke the cycle with parenting but not with a spouse. Or is it going to get worse? Do I really try and go for more than 50 50 custody?
Its worth considering, but like any addiction can be challenging. Note that completely abstaining from masturbation and/or sex will cause certain behavioral changes, some of which could be positive and others that could be hard to deal with.
If your wife knows about your porn use it may be a wise move to let her know that you want to stop. But I would leave out the fact that you want to sleep with other women.
Your husband wasn't just procrastinating for goodness sake. Procrastinating is asking the IRS for an extension and not filing on time, not failing to file for YEARS, especially after you asked him about it. I think you have to face that he's not who you want to think he is. He's an addict as others have said the stocks thing is a form of gambling. He's already lied about drinking so I'm guessing he's an alcoholic as well. As you said, who knows what else he's lied about. You say you can't afford to leave but the IRS has already cleaned out his accounts. Do you think it will stop there? They will continue to try and get money out of him so he isn't going to have much to help you pay any bills anyway. I assume you have been filing your taxes separately then? I hope so for your sake. Luckily the house is in your name. You should think long and hard though about who you're really married to. He's an addict, he was dishonest with you and very irresponsible. You definitely have to see a lawyer and make sure they can't come after your money or your house. Maybe at least talk to a divorce attorney and see what the options are there as well.
Oh, just flabbergasted, are we?! She was what, 11 or 12 in the highest elementary grade? Oooo, do you think she may have held hands and, dare I say, even kissed him?! Oh my! Could it even have been that the entire class of girls also wanted to date their 12 year old classmate because he was such a nice guy?! Shudder to think that his best friend was Hispanic, and your then 12 year old gf fell for him instead. Yikes, the ramifications to all of this! In the end, your then 12 year old gf is…shockingly…the same sweet person as she was then…caring, accepting, smart that she didn't believe racist adults. It sounds like she puts up with your childlike thinking, for now.
I'm a guy with short hair. I used to have long hair, so I have alot of haircare products. I have a straightener, blowdrier, every kind of brush, conditioner, etc. I dont use alot of it now that my hair is short, but I still have it. Let it be, or ask him about it. If hes a decent guy, I'm sure he has a decent explanation.
I take pics of myself that I don’t post or send because I either use them as starting points when I’m trying to change my body, or when I’m at my best, to look back in when I fall of the wagon to remind myself of what I can achieve.
1) You’re an incredible writer. Have you ever thought about becoming an author? You certainly have the command of the language to do so.
2) He’s absolutely wrong about this issue, and I’m even more concerned that he screams at you and stomps off to shoot whiskey over his own disgusting habits. The fact that you deal with this, what, once or twice a month, so you’re cleaning HIS MESS at least 24 times a year, and he still has the audacity to scream at you and you apologize? Wild, I tell you. He has a gem of a wife and doesn’t even appreciate it. Where can the romance be when you’re dealing with his marinations?
And for the record, I’m married too, so this isn’t some idealistic single viewpoint. My husband has never once screamed in my face or expected me to deal with his bathroom messes.
I know work has been stressful, so i totally get that, but i think everything else has been pretty normal for the most part. I will totally accept her not being into me i just wish i knew so i could move on
Because she was one who brought up marriage, she brought up all the ideas because i had the resources to help her.
She called me Friday after work saying she had a flat tire and i called AAA on her behalf to take care of it, so I'm still getting mixed signals, thus I'm confused, she doesn't want this, but she calls me when the crap hits the fan.
So yes I'm being played, I'm just allowing it, because i still care for her, its not in my nature to stop loving or caring for people even if they wronged me, yes it's my flaw and i have to live with it.
Do you know why your partner is asexual? Is it physical, emotional, psychological, etc.? Do you talk about it? Is there some trauma in her life at the root of it?
If this relationship is important to both of you and you both want to fight for it then, I think you both should be willing to try and understand why she is this way, is it something that can change with work and time on both your parts, or is this simply who she is and it won’t change.
If she isn’t willing to work on this with you, or if she isn’t able to change then you need to figure out how important this is to you. Unfortunately for most adults some sort of sexual life is important to them and not meeting that need in a relationship ultimately damages the relationship. If you are committed to a monogamous relationship with her, she can’t change and your needs go unmet, something will eventually give.
I’m guessing someone who compares cheating to videogames is at the end of her rope? Are you spending every waking hour playing FIFA? How much actual time do you spend with her? If you’re only playing an hour or two a day, she’s over the top. But if your entire schedule is work, FIFA, sleep, repeat, she’s probably fed up with your lack of attention.
Well if u value the relationship id cut way back on the drinking and quite honestly your sister needs a talking to for allowing you to behave like that w her present. She may be trying to undermine your relationship or break u guys up. He made it clear no more will be tolerated… id focus on not being “that person” again bc he won't keep accepting apologies for infidelity… i personally, if i were him, would have out the engagement on hold if not broke it off…. Hes obviously in love w you but a man can only take so much pain and disrespect… he deserved better from his fiance…. u should feel like shit. Your sister should too.
A helpful answer seems very contingent on a bunch of information we don't have. Is this guy only seeing you, or does he have a girl for every day of the week? Is he dependent on his parents, or busy taking care of them? If he's driving, how expensive is an hour of gas (each way) where you live?
Your instincts are good. That behavior was VERY manipulative. Hate to point it out, but if you’re dating a 37yo that can’t support himself, that is high flying red flag. Financial compatibility is important.
I'm not sure that it's disrespect that's the problem in your relationship. It sounds more like she's a moocher, which is a whole nother problem and I would be very wary of sharing a house and finances with such a person.
In particular the way she went about getting you to pay for her surgery as a fait accompli.
A horse? yeah I know people with horses and hardly any money. Their whole lives revolve around their horses, which are their passion. They devote all funds to the horses, they might eat less than they need in order to pay for horse stuff. One woman I know told me their kids live off air and water! They live in a converted barn, the only veg they eat is what they grow on their land (that the horse doesn't graze. They basically dropped out of the rat race and bought the old barn and land and horses with a windfall inheritance and have been eking out an existence giving riding lessons here and there. Now living as clandestines in France because of Brexit, they can't afford to go back to Britain, and they don't earn enough to be granted residence in France, so they're just sitting tight and hoping nobody notices.
I'm not sure that your GF would be prepared to live like that in order to enjoy having a horse?
So you choose the best friend, who you are in love with. Jeesh divorce your wife, let her have everything since you want no part of this marriage/life, and let her find someone who actually likes her. You are wasting her literally time. She deserves to be with someone she loves and loves her. And as much as I think you are a not a prime example of a good man, so do you. Probably don't basically cheat on bf though.
What do you mean leaving details about what games you play? Is she policing what a 28 year old can and can't play? Unless you're playing some weird anime pedo (I'm sorry…”dating sim”) then she shouldn't have much concern over what you're playing. Can you clear that up? Because that could reveal some controlling tendencies
Since marriage changes absolutely nothing about a relationship, your wedding timing is irrelevant. You had been together for 7 years and she was just bored/unhappy so she cheated for some extra fun. Would have happened regardless of whether you were married or not.
I lived with my parents until moving in with my wife. I had a health scare and all the money it cost ate through my savings pretty quickly. I didn’t have much of a choice outside of moving back home. Not everyone living at home in their 20’s has serious issues to be dealt with.
Just end it, You clearly don’t trust her and you shouldn’t be so full of suspicion you sneakily look through her phone
She’s also clearly not happy if she’s putting the feelers out and it’s better you end this now before emotions get the better of you and someone ends up doing something silly
If you don’t have trust in a relationship you don’t have anything
I do understand his perspective and it’s very close to yours. I don’t think he’s being malevolent or stepping out or anything like that. But I’ve also communicated my need (a two minute phone call to say goodnight) over and over and over. And I’ve explained why it’s important to me. And he still won’t do it’s. He’s by no means an affectionate person, he doesn’t provide for me or do sweet little things or buy presents or show affection in some other ways of doing something for me.
So I have just a few requests, which go un acknowledged. But he swears he does care when I push him just doesn’t show it in any way that I’ve communicated I need to feel valued.
So I do understand his perspective but in this case I have a need as well. I need to know how to set a boundary without saying. Look it I feel unloved and alone and uncared for much longer it’s over.
His meltdowns only happen in private with her. You can't control sensory issues to that extreme, where he just makes irritated comments if others are around but has apparent meltdowns that she has to console him through if they're in private. If these incidents were few and far between, you would have a point. High functioning people on the spectrum can learn to mask well, but it's never 100%. He's having them around her frequently enough to start causing caregiver burnout.
Well. It’s only a relationship in OPs imagination then.
This guy is not into her but she seems to keep forcing the situation to try and fit the mold of loving but confusing relationship when it’s more just tolerating her presence when he can be bothered but otherwise just disgust towards her.
Totally agree. One single shirt.. not like he was coming over with a load of laundry?
I am assuming it was a shirt he wore there or had in his bag at random that needed washed and she was doing her laundry already. Or thought it would be convenient some how.
The guy had asked her to meet his family and closest friends too. It’s not like he was looking for a maid for asking for ONE shirt washed at an opportunistic time?
He’s obviously happy to introduce her to his closest people and be with her in public.
This is like therapy level shit. Sounds abusive.
You’re definitely right. Actions speak louder than words and I’m going to have to see it. He can say sorry all he wants but that doesn’t change a thing.
Oh, I'm reading the other comments. So you are bi and enjoy going and looking at the other women.
I think my point still stands though. If you're serious about monogamy, it isn't even worth toeing the line of going to strip clubs for “just look, don't touch.” That can be torture for guys with high sex drive and end up with nightmare situations like this.
The most obvious advice would be to lay off strip clubs and other events that allow temptations moving forward.
I'd say just move on. You two aren't connecting in the way you need. If she's updating the profile, she's still looking.
Wish you good luck
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Yeah, per this rule assume others, there's an obvious bias and it is a place to escape the more cutting criticisms.
A joke in very poor taste by your rich BF, given that he is with his GF's family.
Is it too laye to ask for a different roommate ??
But it's ok for him to resent her for not going? He has the right to be upset and if it's a deal breaker for him it's a deal breaker and he should act on it. They'll both be happier in the long run that way.
Am I allowed to ask him? It’s such an odd situation since I’m still married and we’re only having friendly conversations until it gets finalized. Does this mean it should be none of my business?
I was thinking more along the lines of doing the three degrees to be a member but not doing anymore in other 'sections' like the shriners or scottish rite or something to that effect, but if you're more interested in making me feel worse about not liking masonry, than I'm not interested in any advice you have.
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Sounds like you're both wrong. No one is perfect. Your children isn't special. If they misbehave at school they should be told to behave.
Your husbands reaction might be because he feels you're spoiling them and doesn't listen to him, and he therefore feels like he has to be in opposition and ensure they don't end up being brats.
This again makes you feel like you have to spoil them more. Which makes him stricter. And so it goes around and around. You're both increasing the difference rather than respecting eachother and agreeing about middle ground.
It does not sound as if you two are going to solve this. You're not going to convince him. You can see if you two can talk to some sort of therapist or other professional who's experienced with families and kids. Then you'll have an objective opinion and advice.
Your gf didn’t owe you anything after the break up. She didn’t have to tell you who she hooked up with. So she’s done nothing wrong.
But your friend? Yeah. Those who think he’s done nothing wrong have obviously not had close friends. And the fact that he felt guilty when confronted means that he knew that it was wrong.
The petty in me would say go and hook up with one of his exes. But I’m kidding of course. Up to you whether you break the friendship. I would. At the very least I’d go low contact.
Blocked her on snap and she started messaging me on Facebook saying she really wants to meet so I blocked her on that too
This man or someone else may have threatened to reach out to you to disclose her relationship.
You should consider a polygraph.Many people may object, but this is your wife may make other confessions.
how many relationships
You can ask questions about how long it takes
you can contact a lawyer to find out your situation, talk to your wife about what will happen if you decide to divorce.
if you have children ask for a dna test ,
go std test
This is refreshing, and my thought exactly. I have a friend saying basically the same as the other replies here (Red flag) and I felt like it is definitely worth bringing up but a little harsh to give him the boot without giving a chance to communicate first. I’m the one who breaks things off when I sense even a light pink flag lol so I was surprised by the big reaction from my friend… and responses here so far. But I love to get a bunch of perspectives regardless.
Communication is so incredibly important and asking for support regarding a ‘need’ is totally reasonable – if its ignored, then its time to reevaluate. I appreciate your input, TY.
she literally told someone else that you guys were over.
thats the biggest sign of disrespect.
you want to go forward with that?
Alright, well it's not a competition here. For these type of situations, you're not trying to win them.
If this is the first time you have ever experienced this type of comment in 7 years, this is what you should do:
Hey, I am sorry for being upset. I don't like being disconnected from you. I love you. This clearly was a misunderstanding on both our sides. I know it might not seem like a big deal to you, but it was a big deal to me. Comments like that hurt me, I don't like it when you take it too far. So, for next time, please be more aware of what you say. At the end of the day, I just want us to be happy together, I don't like how we are acting towards each-other right now. I am here apologizing to you to make things better, I expect the same in return.
Sometimes these situations like this aren't worth it. A compilation of them, sure, not good. But a one-off misunderstanding. Talk about it, speak your peace, let him know your side, relay an expectation to do better next time, forgive and move past this.
She's never been a bad mother. It's like she broke the cycle with parenting but not with a spouse. Or is it going to get worse? Do I really try and go for more than 50 50 custody?
Thank you for this reminder Reddit mom!
Op, please listen to mom- she’s right about this one ❤️
This is so dramatic
The latter saying is really good advice, OP guy should listen.
Its worth considering, but like any addiction can be challenging. Note that completely abstaining from masturbation and/or sex will cause certain behavioral changes, some of which could be positive and others that could be hard to deal with.
If your wife knows about your porn use it may be a wise move to let her know that you want to stop. But I would leave out the fact that you want to sleep with other women.
Is it ever stated what the multiple disabilities are?
Your husband wasn't just procrastinating for goodness sake. Procrastinating is asking the IRS for an extension and not filing on time, not failing to file for YEARS, especially after you asked him about it. I think you have to face that he's not who you want to think he is. He's an addict as others have said the stocks thing is a form of gambling. He's already lied about drinking so I'm guessing he's an alcoholic as well. As you said, who knows what else he's lied about. You say you can't afford to leave but the IRS has already cleaned out his accounts. Do you think it will stop there? They will continue to try and get money out of him so he isn't going to have much to help you pay any bills anyway. I assume you have been filing your taxes separately then? I hope so for your sake. Luckily the house is in your name. You should think long and hard though about who you're really married to. He's an addict, he was dishonest with you and very irresponsible. You definitely have to see a lawyer and make sure they can't come after your money or your house. Maybe at least talk to a divorce attorney and see what the options are there as well.
Oh, just flabbergasted, are we?! She was what, 11 or 12 in the highest elementary grade? Oooo, do you think she may have held hands and, dare I say, even kissed him?! Oh my! Could it even have been that the entire class of girls also wanted to date their 12 year old classmate because he was such a nice guy?! Shudder to think that his best friend was Hispanic, and your then 12 year old gf fell for him instead. Yikes, the ramifications to all of this! In the end, your then 12 year old gf is…shockingly…the same sweet person as she was then…caring, accepting, smart that she didn't believe racist adults. It sounds like she puts up with your childlike thinking, for now.
I'm a guy with short hair. I used to have long hair, so I have alot of haircare products. I have a straightener, blowdrier, every kind of brush, conditioner, etc. I dont use alot of it now that my hair is short, but I still have it. Let it be, or ask him about it. If hes a decent guy, I'm sure he has a decent explanation.
I take pics of myself that I don’t post or send because I either use them as starting points when I’m trying to change my body, or when I’m at my best, to look back in when I fall of the wagon to remind myself of what I can achieve.
Good for you. Don't let your mom keep you trapped in her house. You need your freedom.
Yeah I just turned 20. I look at videos of when I was 15 and I think to myself what the hell was going through my head?
You're probably right, just a hard thing to mention to your partner that you don't know if you're in love with them. I appreciate your help!!
Where is all the “age difference” people..
1) You’re an incredible writer. Have you ever thought about becoming an author? You certainly have the command of the language to do so.
2) He’s absolutely wrong about this issue, and I’m even more concerned that he screams at you and stomps off to shoot whiskey over his own disgusting habits. The fact that you deal with this, what, once or twice a month, so you’re cleaning HIS MESS at least 24 times a year, and he still has the audacity to scream at you and you apologize? Wild, I tell you. He has a gem of a wife and doesn’t even appreciate it. Where can the romance be when you’re dealing with his marinations?
And for the record, I’m married too, so this isn’t some idealistic single viewpoint. My husband has never once screamed in my face or expected me to deal with his bathroom messes.
Get an abortion yesterday, fam.
I know work has been stressful, so i totally get that, but i think everything else has been pretty normal for the most part. I will totally accept her not being into me i just wish i knew so i could move on
Because she was one who brought up marriage, she brought up all the ideas because i had the resources to help her.
She called me Friday after work saying she had a flat tire and i called AAA on her behalf to take care of it, so I'm still getting mixed signals, thus I'm confused, she doesn't want this, but she calls me when the crap hits the fan.
So yes I'm being played, I'm just allowing it, because i still care for her, its not in my nature to stop loving or caring for people even if they wronged me, yes it's my flaw and i have to live with it.
I guess i just want closure.
My heart goes out to you. This is so tough.
He’s looking to get into your knickers.
He is not your friend.
Having “bestie hugs”? Wtf is that? He knows exactly what he’s doing. You’re naive and he’s manipulating you.
He’s also gone beyond any sort of decent behaviour by kissing your neck. That’s intimate, it’s not “friend” stuff.
You must be really young for your age if you think him cheating with you is ok because he’s told you he’s your “bestie”.
Do the right thing and dump him. He’s not a good person.
I do wait out the feelings a lot and then I'm okay but these feelings just keep coming up a lot.
Do you know why your partner is asexual? Is it physical, emotional, psychological, etc.? Do you talk about it? Is there some trauma in her life at the root of it?
If this relationship is important to both of you and you both want to fight for it then, I think you both should be willing to try and understand why she is this way, is it something that can change with work and time on both your parts, or is this simply who she is and it won’t change.
If she isn’t willing to work on this with you, or if she isn’t able to change then you need to figure out how important this is to you. Unfortunately for most adults some sort of sexual life is important to them and not meeting that need in a relationship ultimately damages the relationship. If you are committed to a monogamous relationship with her, she can’t change and your needs go unmet, something will eventually give.
Call the wellness check. This is fucked up and unhealthy.
I read your comment and responded. What more do you want?
Explain why it's not that easy. If she cares about you, she should do this.
I’m guessing someone who compares cheating to videogames is at the end of her rope? Are you spending every waking hour playing FIFA? How much actual time do you spend with her? If you’re only playing an hour or two a day, she’s over the top. But if your entire schedule is work, FIFA, sleep, repeat, she’s probably fed up with your lack of attention.
Well if u value the relationship id cut way back on the drinking and quite honestly your sister needs a talking to for allowing you to behave like that w her present. She may be trying to undermine your relationship or break u guys up. He made it clear no more will be tolerated… id focus on not being “that person” again bc he won't keep accepting apologies for infidelity… i personally, if i were him, would have out the engagement on hold if not broke it off…. Hes obviously in love w you but a man can only take so much pain and disrespect… he deserved better from his fiance…. u should feel like shit. Your sister should too.
Your story is very well written
Jayus, leave this train wreck of a boy and find someone who thinks about you every once in a while
If you need to stay with this disaster, and i think that is a mistake, make him pick her or you and have the intelligence to enforce it.
A helpful answer seems very contingent on a bunch of information we don't have. Is this guy only seeing you, or does he have a girl for every day of the week? Is he dependent on his parents, or busy taking care of them? If he's driving, how expensive is an hour of gas (each way) where you live?
Your instincts are good. That behavior was VERY manipulative. Hate to point it out, but if you’re dating a 37yo that can’t support himself, that is high flying red flag. Financial compatibility is important.
OOP so shallow he couldn't drown a gnat.
Nobody should tolerate disrespect.
I'm not sure that it's disrespect that's the problem in your relationship. It sounds more like she's a moocher, which is a whole nother problem and I would be very wary of sharing a house and finances with such a person.
In particular the way she went about getting you to pay for her surgery as a fait accompli.
A horse? yeah I know people with horses and hardly any money. Their whole lives revolve around their horses, which are their passion. They devote all funds to the horses, they might eat less than they need in order to pay for horse stuff. One woman I know told me their kids live off air and water! They live in a converted barn, the only veg they eat is what they grow on their land (that the horse doesn't graze. They basically dropped out of the rat race and bought the old barn and land and horses with a windfall inheritance and have been eking out an existence giving riding lessons here and there. Now living as clandestines in France because of Brexit, they can't afford to go back to Britain, and they don't earn enough to be granted residence in France, so they're just sitting tight and hoping nobody notices.
I'm not sure that your GF would be prepared to live like that in order to enjoy having a horse?
Yes OP, PLEASE UPDATE LATER.
and you are 3 lol
Guys I’m I [m26] over reacting here ?
Yes. You're overreacting. Put a lid on it before you trash this relationship. Work on your insecurity.
So you choose the best friend, who you are in love with. Jeesh divorce your wife, let her have everything since you want no part of this marriage/life, and let her find someone who actually likes her. You are wasting her literally time. She deserves to be with someone she loves and loves her. And as much as I think you are a not a prime example of a good man, so do you. Probably don't basically cheat on bf though.
What do you mean leaving details about what games you play? Is she policing what a 28 year old can and can't play? Unless you're playing some weird anime pedo (I'm sorry…”dating sim”) then she shouldn't have much concern over what you're playing. Can you clear that up? Because that could reveal some controlling tendencies
This is the harsh truth! Time has a way of feeling like it is accelerating the older you get.
I stopped when he blew you off on St. Patrick’s Day, and then when YOU called him, he asked for sex? What are you doing honey?
Anytime!
Abort and dump him!
Since marriage changes absolutely nothing about a relationship, your wedding timing is irrelevant. You had been together for 7 years and she was just bored/unhappy so she cheated for some extra fun. Would have happened regardless of whether you were married or not.
Proven infidelity should make the divorce easier.
I lived with my parents until moving in with my wife. I had a health scare and all the money it cost ate through my savings pretty quickly. I didn’t have much of a choice outside of moving back home. Not everyone living at home in their 20’s has serious issues to be dealt with.
Just end it, You clearly don’t trust her and you shouldn’t be so full of suspicion you sneakily look through her phone
She’s also clearly not happy if she’s putting the feelers out and it’s better you end this now before emotions get the better of you and someone ends up doing something silly
If you don’t have trust in a relationship you don’t have anything
I do understand his perspective and it’s very close to yours. I don’t think he’s being malevolent or stepping out or anything like that. But I’ve also communicated my need (a two minute phone call to say goodnight) over and over and over. And I’ve explained why it’s important to me. And he still won’t do it’s. He’s by no means an affectionate person, he doesn’t provide for me or do sweet little things or buy presents or show affection in some other ways of doing something for me.
So I have just a few requests, which go un acknowledged. But he swears he does care when I push him just doesn’t show it in any way that I’ve communicated I need to feel valued.
So I do understand his perspective but in this case I have a need as well. I need to know how to set a boundary without saying. Look it I feel unloved and alone and uncared for much longer it’s over.
Um, He got rid of her cat without consulting. That's not okay, whatsoever. ?
His meltdowns only happen in private with her. You can't control sensory issues to that extreme, where he just makes irritated comments if others are around but has apparent meltdowns that she has to console him through if they're in private. If these incidents were few and far between, you would have a point. High functioning people on the spectrum can learn to mask well, but it's never 100%. He's having them around her frequently enough to start causing caregiver burnout.
No. He knows why. Tell him you’ve had enough and block him.
Well. It’s only a relationship in OPs imagination then.
This guy is not into her but she seems to keep forcing the situation to try and fit the mold of loving but confusing relationship when it’s more just tolerating her presence when he can be bothered but otherwise just disgust towards her.
Per your post history, you would be doing yourself a huge favor by being single.
Your weight isn't an issue, the fact that you let him question it is the issue. You want to drop useless weight? Start with him ffs.