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Date: October 13, 2022
Tell them 'no!' And if they can't understand that or gets upset they showed you who they really are. Also, tell Mom you're done paying her car note. People treat you this way because you're allowing it. Time to say no and stick to no.
As long as you maintain your agency. You know the red flags from groomers. I’m guessing from your post. Good luck
Ya that's a big opinion and not true
Nope. I’d pay for my food and he wouldn’t have to worry about seeing me again.
I'm honestly not sure your gender here, because it reads like a guy pretending to be a woman.
Either way, let me back up by telling you that I'm a guy who's happily married. I give advice on here because I've been through it all and learned from it.
So are guys “oblivious?” Sure, we certainly might be if given vague actions to work with. In saying that, I'm not going to give you advice asking for “not straight up saying…” Say it.
If I'm to assume you're being honest here, then the advice is to be direct and state what you're avoiding. It makes no sense not to.
If, however, this is a guy, then you're gaining nothing from this. All you can do is say “look, they said women need to be more direct!” Means nothing.
Your mate did the decent thing and told you what he wanted.
Unfortunately for you, you really don't have a say in what they do.
They're going to sleep together he just did you the courtesy in letting you know. Now you have to look within yourself and think if you want to stay being friends with him or not. Bc if you do you'll have to learn not to hold it against him..if you don't then leave with peace don't hold a grudge it's icky.
For fucks sake he hasn't even had the surgery yet! He still has a vagina down there, so he was essentially expecting OP to ignore her own sexuality and engage in lesbian sex. You can't just spring that on someone literally last minute and expect it to go well.
Ah yes, claiming a religious label they certainly don't live up to is the most important thing to them. Cherry on the pie! I honestly don't mind them or your wife wanting to support SMF to some degree, but I agree the (I assume) American prison system is not particularly set up to improve him as a person and prevent recidivism. Beyond that, coddling him after what he's done is just deranged. He's way beyond being the poor bullied kid with the circumstances of his conception and bio-mom. While it's great that he's likely forced to go to therapy etc. and maybe deals with all this, at this point literally none of that matters in how to treat him and what to do going forward, when he's released. It's clear your wife and that part her family haven't been able to objectively accept what has happened. If anything his demeanour in court nearly a decade ago and subsequent max. penalty should've woken them up to reality.
It'd ordinarily be good that he has some form of a support network to lean on, but it's all undone by how irresponsible and neglectful this family is. I fully agree on informing his PO about the family's circumstances and the presence and vicinity of any children. Even if he were to be reformed and re-educated, which by the picture you've painted doesn't sound very likely, his toxic family environment wouldn't protect kids, nor steer him in the right direction in his post-prison time and that's a recipe for continuing this cycle of abuse with new victims.
It's great that you're looking into therapy, as keeping open lines between you and your wife is the most important thing here and I think you've received good advice in general in this thread. Others have mentioned freezing up can stem from trauma, this trauma does not need to be of a sexual nature and can be triggered just by virtue of a specific topic, acknowledging something painful is true/has happened or by being spoken to in a loud voice. All of this just goes to tell that she needs therapy to deal with this trauma/(disassociating) behaviour, this topic and communication with you (perhaps only with topics like this) in general.
Considering where you live and how she's not really in her family's influence sphere, I wouldn't jump to saying you have to divorce or whatever and despite the length of your post, there could still be some (objective) nuance missing or that you don't know about (especially since your wife shuts down when discussing this and just agrees to whatever to get you to stop talking about it). I'd also note your personal past and trauma and how that can influence your view on this, though, I think you're aware of that. I wish you good luck OP! Nothing is lost yet.
Go to individual counselling first to find the root cause for your unhappiness. You might regret the divorce later on and try to patch things. It could very well happen you fell out of love and still in love with AP. It's better to go for counselling.
Because it subconsciously makes him more dateable to her.
Honey, I understand how desperate you feel. Your boyfriend can't though. He has to believe he deserves better in order to get help. You can't force him, you can't love him enough to fix this.
When I was deepest in my eating disorder, I don't think there was anything my husband could say that would have helped. The only thing you can do is approach this with kindness. Write down how you're feeling, everything, your deepest fears, all of it. Give it to him and give him time to read and process it. Explain to him that his family is wrong, that he needs space from them to protect himself.
While you can't force him to get help, you can get help for yourself. A good therapist can help you with the feelings this is bringing up. They can help you set boundaries and save yourself if things go too far. Please be kind to yourself, this isn't something you can fix. It's going to be a long road to recovery, for eating disorders it is 3-7 years on average. It is work. I'm sending you so much love.
I understand how you’re feeling. It’s a common reaction from women in this scenario, but I promise you it’s really not you. I know that’s hard to understand but any guy reading this knows it’s true. Dicks are weird, sometimes they randomly go soft even if you really want to sleep with the person. Don’t take it personally
It should be a common respect thing, if someone wants to listen to music but it's too loud, use headphones. Once in awhile sure go crazy but always respect the other people you have to share space with.
I don't think the likelihood this lady is naive is very high. I think she knows EXACTLY what's going on.
At which part of the relationship did your gf show that she cares and loves you?
She can't even stand to be with you, so what are you holding on exactly?
Just FYI, “In wine, there is truth”. Being drunk doesn't cause you to do things that you don't want to do. Being drunk makes you do and say things which you have always wanted to do. Your gf has already been thinking of you as being useless and a loser from way back, not just recently. The thing is, I think you knew that already but you just do not want to believe it. You prefer to make excuses for her disgusting behaviour,
You deserve better.
It would be a dealbreaker for me. Good luck deciding what to do.
She's keeping a diary. What part of that makes you uncomfortable? And why?
For the love of god man get a divorce. She gaslit you and isn’t even remorseful for cheating. She’s going to do it again
Therapy doesn’t “work” immediately. It takes time. You aren’t going to see results after one session. But in general you guys don’t seem compatible at all. You’re both very different and there’s nothing wrong with the things you both believe but those things don’t align. If you’re gonna break up I think you at least owe her a conversation instead of ghosting her. Especially after 5 years.
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